In the previous article "Convinced? In "Brother Who Cut Through Thorns", these 4 are the real "human high-quality men", regarding the representatives of "human high-quality men", I mentioned Liang Hanwen, Chen Xiaochun, Wu Guanzhong and Lee Seung-hyun.
In fact, in "Brother With Thorns", "human high-quality males" are not only the above 4.
Among the 32 "brothers who cut through thorns", two of them are also from the Greater Bay Area, which can also be called "human high-quality males", and these two "high-quality male" brothers have a lot of similarities in feelings, they are nameless in their early years, and their wives were hong Kong sisters. When they were with the sisters in the Greater Bay Area, they all experienced the question of "strong women and weak men", and the sisters once had black materials, but they could resist the pressure of public opinion, firmly with the sisters, and keep the clouds open and see the moon.
In the end, they ushered in their own piece of the sky in their careers, and their feelings with their sisters were as sweet as ever. For the management of feelings, they are also "sober in the world." ”
These two brothers are Zhang Zhilin and Zhang Jin.
Is "strong women and weak men" work? Just look at how happy they look now.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="13" >01 Zhang Zhilin: Meeting Yuan Yongyi is a kind of "misfortune"</h1>
The day before the launch of "Brother With Thorns and Thorns", Zhang Zhilin posted a group of chat records between Yuan Yongyi and the staff of the program group of "Brother with Thorns and Thorns" on Weibo, and couldn't help but complain: "So my wife was originally an undercover member of the program group." ”
From the chat records, it can be seen that Yuan Yongyi asked the staff to train Zhang Zhilin madly, and on the other hand, she hoped that the staff would give her an intact Zhang Zhilin. It can be described as "Versailles-style high-end show love".
After that, Yuan Yongyi also responded domineeringly, shouting at the program group: "Since you have sold me, then you must not perfunctory me, and arrange it for him", which makes people laugh. I have to sigh that the "mutual black" mode of getting along between Daxian and Liang Liangjie is really too sweet.
When participating in the program, Zhang Zhilin once said: "When the program is over, I will withdraw from the circle." ”
But instead of believing it, everyone ridiculed him: "As long as Liang Liangjie continues to buy bags, you can't get out of the circle!" ”
Sure enough, it didn't take long for Yuan Yongyi to reply to the majority of netizens: "Don't pay attention to him, he thinks too much." ”
Zhang Zhilin once said in the "Wife's Journey 2" program that meeting Yuan Yongyi is also an "unfortunate".
The misfortune in Zhang Zhilin's mouth refers to:
Knowing that our encounters will always have a day of separation, that people will always grow old and die.
Zhang Zhilin has just celebrated her 50th birthday, and Yuan Yongyi is also about to celebrate her 50th birthday this year. From 1992, when the two became acquainted with each other for filming "The Prodigal Son of border city", to now, unconsciously, they have walked together for 28 years.
From youth to middle age, and now about to enter the fifty-year-old mark, how many storms have been experienced together, how many bumps have been experienced, and how many sweet and happy moments have been shared together, they know better than anyone that they have long been inseparable from each other.
It is precisely because Zhang Zhilin is deeply in love with Yuan Yongyi, so when he thinks of this, he will feel very sad, and he wants to be separated for a long time, and he will not be separated, and he will feel that it is an "unfortunate" to separate after all.
This is another way of confessing to Yuan Yongyi by Zhang Zhilin. It is truly "sober on earth".
In 1993, Zhang Zhilin and Yuan Yongyi sang love songs on the show, and suddenly opened their love affair.
This behavior was undoubtedly self-destructive for Yuan Yongyi at that time. Because at that time, she was in the ascendancy of her career, she was the winner of Miss Hong Kong, and she won the Academy Award for Best Newcomer and Best Actress trophy shortly after her debut, and she was already a household name for female stars.
And Zhang Zhilin is a newcomer who has just debuted, no fame, no splash.
Therefore, everyone feels that Zhang Zhilin is a bit suspicious of wanting to use Yuan Yongyi's fame to ascend to the throne.
Suddenly, public opinion overwhelmed the world.
But Zhang Zhilin did not back down, and he also knew what kind of public pressure he would face once their relationship became public.
Fortunately, even if the outside world comments, Yuan Yongyi is very determined to go down with Zhang Zhilin.
However, before being with Zhang Zhilin, Yuan Yongyi had an experience of being raised by a wealthy businessman, and she could have hidden it from Zhang Zhilin, but she did not want Zhang Zhilin to hear this from other people, so she chose to take the initiative to tell Zhang Zhilin. She confessed that at that time, because she was too young and blinded by vanity, she would do that, but she woke up in time and chose to leave.
Later, Yuan Yongyi's affair of being raised by rich businessmen was exposed, and this period of time can be said to be the darkest period in Yuan Yongyi's life. When the media reporter ran to ask Zhang Zhilin what he thought of Yuan Yongyi's experience, Zhang Zhilin said: "I myself was very bad before, but I regret not knowing her earlier and protecting her earlier." When Yuan Yongyi was on the cusp of the storm, he chose to stand firmly with Yuan Yongyi.
In the face of such past experiences, men who do not love you will feel that this is a stain on your life, but men who really love you will only regret that they did not meet you earlier, whether it is true love, at a glance.
Of course, the greater crisis in their relationship is not only this one.
In 1999, Zhang Zhilin and She Shiman had a scandal over filming. The rhetoric of the media and Zhang Zhilin's attitude of not proposing to Yuan Yongyi at that time made Yuan Yongyi distrust Zhang Zhilin for a time, and their feelings were in crisis.
In fact, the reason why Zhang Zhilin did not propose marriage is that he feels that his career has not yet ushered in better development, and he is worried that he does not have the economic strength to give Yuan Yongyi a good living environment.
At that time, in the face of the external evaluation of "strong women and weak men", Zhang Zhilin always had a pressure on his head. In order to make himself worthy of Yuan Yongyi, he wanted to give Yuan Yongyi a perfect wedding after he made some achievements in his career.
In 2001, after 8 years of falling in love, Zhang Zhilin, who had already achieved success in his career, was finally ready, and he proposed to Yuan Yongyi. This year, they got married. In the blink of an eye, the couple has been married for 20 years.
On February 8, Yuan Yongyi sent a Weibo to celebrate the 20th anniversary of her marriage with Zhang Zhilin, she wrote affectionately: "Life is long, love is long, the 20th anniversary of the porcelain wedding, thank you Mr. Zhang." ”
Just this past August 27, Yuan Yongyi also carefully prepared a 50th birthday party for Zhang Zhilin.
Seeing more of the division and combination of couples in the entertainment industry, the pair of Zhang Zhilin and Yuan Yongyi is a "fairy couple" in the eyes of many people. Many people regard them as "model couples" and say that they believe in love again.
However, Zhang Zhilin has reiterated a sentence in public many times:
We really aren't a model couple! We also often quarrel and make trouble over trivial matters. The little quarrels that ordinary couples have, we also have.
But even if he often quarrels, Zhang Zhilin is really good to Yuan Yongyi.
Although Zhang Zhilin complained more than once in the show that Yuan Yongyi loved to buy bags, he was still very willing to spend time on the things his wife liked, and he did not leave a bag for Yuan Yongyi.
In 2016, Yuan Yongyi posted a bag sent by Zhang Zhilin on Weibo, which Yuan Yongyi has always wanted but could not buy.
Yuan Yongyi liked this bag, Zhang Zhilin has been secretly inquiring, 6 months in advance at the auction to grab, wait until Yuan Yongyi's birthday, only to take it out to give her a big surprise.
He also wrote two words on his birthday card, "Buy it!" "To Yuan Yongyi."
Later, when the reporter asked Zhang Zhilin, your wife already has a lot of bags, but also to buy again, will you persuade her, Zhang Zhilin smiled and said: "No, the reason and her, I choose her, and women, just pet on the line." ”
On the surface, the strength is complained, but in practice, it is still willing to accommodate the wife's preferences.
In the show "Wife's Romantic Trip 2", when asked how to think about the question of if the other half is in love with someone else, Zhang Zhilin's answer is:
If she really loved someone else, I would let her go. Because loving someone to the extreme may not be to have her, but whether she is really happy.
How many couples, at the beginning of love and sweetness, but when they are separated, they become resentful couples because of love and hate.
Obviously, in his feelings, Zhang Zhilin loves Yuan Yongyi deeply, but at the same time, he is also a very sober person and a very patterned person. Because when you truly love someone, you will be afraid to face impermanence, afraid to face life and death, afraid that the loss will come; only when you truly love someone, when the other party no longer loves you, you will choose to let go.
Similarly, Yuan Yongyi is also deeply in love with Zhang Zhilin "soberly in the world".
Compared with Zhang Zhilin's quietness, Yuan Yongyi is a violent temper, and even when she was a newcomer, she scolded the director because the filming time was wrong.
But after meeting Zhang Zhilin, she was willing to change for Zhang Zhilin and restrain her violent temper.
She said: "If one day Zhang Zhilin is not happy, I will stop and be obedient." ”
Zhang Zhilin once talked to Yuan Yongyi in a variety show, and he asked Yuan Yongyi: "If I am gone, will you find another one?" ”
Yuan Yongyi shook her head and said, "No." Zhang Zhilin has been trying to persuade her, saying" If that person loves you very much, if it is already sixty or seventy years old, you need someone to take care of ...", but no matter what Zhang Zhilin said, Yuan Yongyi responded very firmly: "I don't agree, I don't need to." ”
This conversation between them is very tearful.
In Yuan Yongyi's view, in this life, if it were not for you, I would rather not. Even if you are gone, I will not fall in love with another person again, and in this world, I can't find another person who is more suitable for me than you.
In the show "Wife's Romantic Trip 2", Yuan Yongyi was unhappy because this time it was not Zhang Zhilin who went out on a trip together. She said:
My husband and I have been with me for twenty-seven years, and I follow him when I travel except for work. This was the first time I hadn't traveled alone with him, and I knew he might be happy that I wasn't nagging around him anymore. But I'm not used to it, and I want to tell him you can't run away.
Yuan Yongyi also admitted that she also had a time when she and Zhang Zhilin had a fierce quarrel and a deep contradiction. At that time, she had thoughts of divorce, but in the end she would ask herself:
Do I still love this person?
If I love, then all of this can pass.
She said: "The word love is really hard to write, don't let go so easily. ”
She would tell herself that she would never say anything like divorce or breakup when she got angry. Because some words are too hurtful to even be irreparable.
Their cherishing of each other is not just lip service, but is truly practiced in daily life.
In these 20 years of marriage, they have also had quarrels, but with the passage of time, their feelings have become more and more firm, whether they are "model couples" is not so important, what is important is whether in addition to deep love for each other, whether there is cherishing, understanding, trust, growth and change.
In this life, they are lucky to be able to meet each other.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="158" >02 Zhang Jin: I will "rely on Cai Shaofen" in my life</h1>
In "The Brother Who Cut through the Thorns", Zhang Jin also came. Zhang Jinwu was born, in a single show of this part, he took out his unique work - sword dance, movements flowing in the clouds, in one go, beauty and strength, it is good-looking.
And Cai Shaofen also frantically called and screamed for her husband Zhang Jin on Weibo, as always, the strength of "show off", and confirmed Zhang Jin's title of "the number one female fan in the universe".
In the song snatching link, Zhang Jin contributed a lot of memes to the audience because of the "touching porcelain" with Lin Zhixuan's tribe.
After Zhang Jin overturned the car here, Cai Shaofen, the "number one female fan in the universe" over there, did not idle, sent "condolences" for the first time on Weibo, and publicly laughed at her husband, which also showed that the two of them trusted enough and loved each other enough.
Speaking of the pair of Zhang Jin and Cai Shaofen, it was really surprising and unexpected. How unpopular it was at the beginning, how much love it is now.
Zhang Jin and Cai Shaofen met when filming the TV series "Water Moon Cave Heaven", when in this drama, the two played exactly a pair, one came and went, and two Cantonese speakers naturally came together.
In the program "Wife's Romantic Trip 4", Zhang Jin and Cai Shaofen once told the love story of the two, interpreting the process of the two acquaintances, acquaintances and companionship.
According to Zhang Jin's recollection, during the filming, when Cai Shaofen cooked a bowl of noodles for herself, and seeing Cai Shaofen's back to herself to cook noodles, Zhang Jin remembered a classic Hong Kong opera line between men and women: Are you hungry, do you want me to cook a noodle for you to eat? In his opinion, a female star of Cai Shaofen's big name was able to cook noodles for herself without a shelf, which made him very moved. From that moment on, he fell in love with Cai Shaofen and wanted Cai Shaofen to be her girlfriend.
So he confessed to Cai Shaofen, it is not easy, after three confessions, Cai Shaofen agreed to associate with him. However, Cai Shaofen's promise to communicate at that time was also conditional, that is, "can not hold hands, can not kiss, can not be open", Zhang Jin gladly agreed. So they were so low-key together, and their relationship became more and more stable.
When they were ready to enter the marriage hall hand in hand, Cai Shaofen very generously announced to the media the news that they were about to get married.
As soon as the news came out, the two people were not blessed, but more of a voice of decline. Because the status of the two at that time was too different. Cai Shaofen is the youngest Hong Kong sister in history, and there are already many classic works before knowing Zhang Jin, and it can be said that the fame is also well-known. At that time, Zhang Jin was still nameless. The status of the two is very different, so it is reasonable to be sung down. Even at one time, the media attacked Zhang Jin as a "soft rice man" who relied on Cai Shaofen, but Zhang Jin never responded to these evaluations, he knew very well that he loved Cai Shaofen as a person, not Cai Shaofen's "name", and the days were two people he and Cai Shaofen had nothing to do with others.
As for the strength, he always believed in himself, just a chance away. Because he is good enough in himself.
In 2008, Zhang Jin married Cai Shaofen. On the wedding day, Zhang Jin, who has never easily shed tears in front of people, choked up and said: "We will use our love to fight off all bad sounds." ”
Cai Shaofen once said that Zhang Jin is a man who does not cry, but after the two met and fell in love, Zhang Jin changed! This is probably the magic of love.
Before entering the industry as an actor, Zhang Jin was also brilliant on the road of martial arts, winning numerous awards, winning the national martial arts competition championship of Chen-style taijiquan and taiji sword, the gold medal of the National Games, and became a martial arts athlete at the age of 21, which is also the highest level title of Chinese martial arts athletes. After joining the actor industry, he also worked as a martial arts stand-in for Jiao Enjun, Zhang Ziyi, Yang Ziqiong, and Zhen Zidan, and also served as Zhou Runfa's tai chi instructor in "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon", and later received an invitation from Hollywood to serve as a martial arts instructor for "Thunderbolt Baby 2" and "Super Daredevil".
Looking at Zhang Jin's resume, you will know why Cai Shaofen later became a "showman".
Finally, Zhang Jin waited for his role in the play "A Generation of Grandmasters", and he played the role of the villain Ma San, for which he won the Best Supporting Actor at the 2019 Hong Kong Film Awards.
Standing on the podium, Zhang Jin said that the acceptance speech made people move. He said:
My wife is Cai Shaofen, and some people say that I have to rely on her all my life, yes, my happiness in this life depends on her.
I thank her for accompanying me through all the hardships, we said a word when we were married: to go the same way, the wind and rain we have, I hope there are more scenery, we go to the same road together.
At this time, Cai Shaofen, who was sitting under the stage, saw her husband say these words when he received the award, and he was happy and happy, and his tears could not be stopped. At this moment, who else would say they were not a good match?
After "A Generation of Grandmasters", Zhang Jin continued to play, and he finally became popular by his own strength. Outside the play, his love for Cai Shaofen is always the same.
Once in an interview, the reporter asked Zhang Jin, if you can only bring three things, which three things will you bring? Zhang Jin did not hesitate to choose to take his wife, books, and music to live in the world of two.
In 2014, a reporter asked him how many Cai Shaofen ranked first in his heart, and he said first. 5 years later, when they had three children, when the reporter asked this question again, his answer was still his wife first.
He is willing to queue up for Cai Shaofen for two hours to buy shallot oil cakes, will clean the house, wash her clothes, and cut her nails.
No matter what status and achievements he has achieved outside, when he returns home and takes off his mask, Zhang Jin is just an ordinary husband and an ordinary father, and human fireworks are his armor and weaknesses.
Although Zhang Jin is a straight man, his mouth is not sweet enough, and he is not very good at creating romance, he will love Cai Shaofen in his own way.
In addition to being very good at martial arts, Zhang Jin is a master of photography and videography, proficient in shooting, editing, and directing, and he has taken a lot of videos for Cai Shaofen. Under his lens, every frame, every angle of Cai Shaofen is so beautiful. This is the confession of a straight man: not necessarily saying a lot of beautiful words, but in my eyes, you will always be the protagonist, always the most beautiful scenery.
When Cai Shaofen gave birth to her third child, Zhang Jin was nervous at the door of the delivery room until he paced around, couldn't stop, and sighed: "Men don't fight for their fathers to be great or their mothers to be great, it must be that their mothers are great, it is really hard, very admirable." ”
Because he knows the hardships of his wife giving birth to children and children, he will get up late at night to feed the children and try his best to share them for his wife.
Regarding marriage, he said a very famous banking theory:
Marriage is actually a process of saving money and withdrawing money, every quarrel, awkwardness is to withdraw money, but we go out alone to watch a movie, go shopping, sit under the kitchen at night and drink some wine. I enjoy this process of saving money. In this way, when there is an occasional contradiction, you have money to spend.
For marriage, Zhang Jin is also "sober in the world".
Like Yuan Yongyi, Cai Shaofen also had an unsatisfactory experience of being raised by rich merchants when she was young. The reason why Cai Shaofen chose to be a rich businessman at that time was because she wanted to pay off her mother's debts. Cai Shaofen's mother is a gambler, and her mother is obsessed with gambling and owes hundreds of millions of gambling debts. In order to repay the debt for her mother, Cai Shaofen was under great pressure, and the income of being an actor at that time could not fill the big hole in her mother's debt, and her mother's debt was like a bottomless pit. In desperation, Cai Shaofen chose to be with Liu Luanxiong, a wealthy businessman at that time. However, after all, Xiaosan is not a glorious name, Cai Shaofen fell into a huge public opinion storm, the career once encountered a crisis, and finally Cai Shaofen chose to break off relations with her mother, and also broke up with Liu Luanxiong.
In the variety show "My Favorite Women", Cai Shaofen said that when it comes to her past experience, Zhang Jin will not look at herself with colored glasses, but completely protect herself, and she is very grateful to Zhang Jin for her complete acceptance of her past. She said: "So I really appreciate him, really a perfect man. ”
It can be seen that Cai Shaofen is also "sober in the world".
Counting down, Zhang Jincai Shaofen and Cai Shaofen have also had eighteen years from acquaintance to the present. No matter how Zhang Jin, who was in the trough of his career, thanked Cai Shaofen for his appreciation and support, and how much Cai Shaofen loved "Xuanfu" today, they were all on an equal footing, understanding each other's preciousness, cherishing each other, and being each other's best other half.
Good love must be a two-way rush.
Zhang Jin once confessed in the program:
If God gives us another chance, we will still choose each other. Sometimes it is necessary to think about the beginning for yourself, that is, not to forget the original intention.
And Cai Shaofen also responded:
I think the most important thing for two couples is to be honest, no matter what, just say that thing, and accept each other for each other.
They all looked at each other with red eyes in the show and said the same thing: You are the favorite of my life.
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Looking at the emotional experience of Zhang Zhilin and Yuan Yongyi, Zhang Jin and Cai Shaofen, whether it was a strong woman or a weak man, the woman had a black history, in marriage, they were always "sober in the world". A relationship from love to marriage, can go on for a long time, and getting better and better, there are several points that cannot be ignored.
1. Good feelings must go in both directions. If it is only the wishful thinking of one party, one party pays, and one party does not respond, such feelings are mostly fragile.
2. There is no perfect lover in this world, there are just people who truly love you and are willing to continue to evolve, make progress, and constantly change for you.
3. It's hard to love someone, and it's not so easy to get married. But once deeply loved, you should take on the responsibility of love, do not easily say let go, some words, once spoken, is a great harm.
4. The original intention is easy to get, and it is always difficult to keep. When two people enter marriage from love, life may return to flat and become relatives to each other, but in ordinary life, do not forget to be grateful, understanding, and supportive. Never forget the original heart that chose to be together at the beginning.
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