What is it like to give up one's loved ones to accompany a man from nothing to a happy family?
What is it like to give up your career for a man to take care of an Alzheimer's mother without abandoning it?
What is it like to give up your life for the sake of your family and worry about cancer for your children?
In this material society full of interests, how many girls are willing to make this bet willingly.
In the recent fire movie "The Most Beautiful Parting in the World", the heroine Kim In-hee is such a housewife who is willing to pay.
Her parents died, and she would rather leave her brother behind than help her husband Zheng Zhe, who graduated from medical college, open her own hospital;
After marriage, she gave up her dream of making handmade decals, helped her husband take care of her mother with Alzheimer's disease, and insisted on it for 15 years even if she was beaten and scolded;
Like a top, she circled the family, children and husbands all day long, without her own life, but only perfunctory and ignored.
It wasn't until she got cancer that she was freed from this exhausting and tortured life.
All sorrow has traces to follow, and all life is right and wrong.
Before getting married, you thought marriage was a family run by two people who loved each other working together;
After getting married, you really understand the three pieces of advice for marriage.
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"Don't give up your career after marriage"
It is said that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation, and it is important to choose the right person. But after choosing, how to be yourself is more important.
Many women who have achieved success in their careers before marriage will put their focus on the family for the sake of their children and husbands after marriage.
They no longer pursue their dreams, no longer have their own careers, put all their hopes on men, and become a housewife.
But love is sometimes unequal, you dig your heart and lungs out of self-sacrifice, he may also "revenge" hurt you.
In the movie "The Most Beautiful Distance in the World", Renji has always had a dream of making handmade decals, but is forced to give up after marriage.
She gave up her career and concentrated on caring for her elderly dementia mother at home for 15 years, beating and scolding, living without any dignity.
She had to worry about her son, who never went to college, on the other hand, about falling in love with her daughter who had a husband, and about everything in the family.
But when she was sick and wanted to go to the hospital for a check-up, her husband, a doctor, said coldly: "It's good to take some medicine for that symptom. ”
A sentence chilled his wife's heart.
Her efforts will never be seen, her fatigue will not be understood, and when the family is harmonious, she has no credit, but after the accident, she only exchanges accusations and complaints.
Don't let marriage become your own shackles, don't let yourself be a housewife who can only revolve around the stove!
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"At any time, don't wronged yourself"
In relationships, many girls are prone to getting carried away and losing themselves in a marriage that they think is right, but this is just the beginning of misfortune.
In marriage, the more a woman wronged herself, the less likely she is to men.
Just like Kim In-hee in "The Most Beautiful Distance in the World", she gives endlessly, but does not ask for it, but in the end she still does not get a trace of her husband's care.
She was beaten by her mother-in-law, and he watched quietly, not helping her in the slightest; she gave birth to a child, and he bore everything by himself, and he never accompanied her for a day.
She stared at all the renovations of the new house, but he was at ease to live in the new house; she was sick and in pain, and he was still disgusted that she would not let her go to the hospital.
It was not until her death that he began to scold his mother for his injustice to her and began to try to be good to her;
It wasn't until she was about to leave that he helped her complete the unfinished renovation of the new house, and only then did he cook dinner for her for the first time;
It wasn't until shortly after her death that he smiled and embraced her, planted flowers she liked, and romantically played the violin for her.
But obviously he was able to do the care and romance for her before she died, why wait until after the loss to wake up?
Marriage is a test, no matter how big or small, you need to take care of each other, and more often, it is to grow together.
Don't let your grievances be worth fulfilling a man's affair.
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"Don't give all your thoughts to others"
We often say that the meaning of marriage is to turn a person's life into someone to rely on and accompany hand in hand.
But more and more girls step into marriage, and what they get is not a unique favor, but endless efforts and countless grievances.
In the movie "The Most Beautiful Distance in the World", Renji is a full-time housewife who breaks her heart for her family, but her family is completely inappropriate.
Everyone in the family lives their own comfortable life.
The daughter is busy dating her lover; after the son finishes the test, he also easily dates and drinks with his girlfriend and goes bungee;
When the mother-in-law is not happy, she beats her and scolds her, and makes a mess of the family every day; and the husband can also leisurely drink and talk with female colleagues after work.
Only she was busy at home, giving all her thoughts to her family, and living a life where she could see her head at a glance.
Children will always grow up, and their families will always leave, but only they are the ones who will accompany them for a lifetime.
Learning to love yourself and putting yourself first is a lifelong event.
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There is a line in the TV series "Tea Jing":
"To become a happy woman, you must remember a truth, don't rush to pursue happiness, because that kind of happiness will often disappoint you." The most important thing for women is to find their own positioning, so that they can have their own happiness. ”
Many girls always feel that they can get their own happiness by seeking perfection, but in fact, they are not.
When love reaches no bottom line, when giving becomes a habit, it is only you who is hurt.
Just like RenJi in the movie "The Most Beautiful Parting in the World".
She quit her job for marriage and took care of her mother-in-law, but what she did not get was not relief, but endless abuse and fighting;
She gave everything for the child, but still could not go to the daughter's company, meet her boyfriend, and have a light meal with her;
She put all her thoughts on her family and gave her 15 years of youth, but she forgot to love herself.
Marriage is not easy, but an assertive woman will not allow herself to be consumed and oppressed in marriage.
Learning to love yourself and think for yourself is a woman's lifelong event!
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