In the "Wonderful Salon of Sisters" program, everyone had a heated discussion on whether to report good news and no worries to parents", represented by Mo Han and Jing Tian, who had two different opinions, both for and against.
In contrast, netizens may be more likely to empathize with Mo Han, and most netizens will choose to "report good news and not worry" like Mo Han, which is the norm for Chinese-style children to get along with their parents.
Mo Han said that he often reported good news but not worry, because he did not want his parents to worry.
Many times we have the same idea as her choices, and the most spoken in the face of parents' concerns and inquiries may be "it's okay" and "very good", all things are solved by themselves, and all the troubles are digested by themselves.
But in fact, there are many reasons behind "reporting good news and not reporting worry", and everyone and every family is different.
Some people choose to report good news and not worry because communication with their parents is very helpless.
Sometimes we want to tell our troubles and sorrows to the people closest to us, hoping to get their comfort, but the truth is that our parents' ideas cannot be consistent with ours, or even go against the grain, or teach us to be human over the phone, and over time, we can only keep silent.
Some people report good news but not bad news because they are afraid of being "scolded."
Maybe it's because parents are very strict with their education or parents often ignore the real needs of their children. For example, some people say that when they fell when they were young, they told their parents that they wanted their parents to care about themselves who fell in pain, and the result was a scolding because the wrestling soiled or torn clothes.
Therefore, it may be that once you report your "worries" to your parents, your parents will not only not be able to stand in your position and think about you, but will also blame you for doing bad things.
On the contrary, some parents care too much about their children, and there may be times when children just want to complain to their parents or talk about it to ease their mood, but parents are always worried about asking questions, and the children are annoyed and do not say it after a long time.
In short, most people choose to "report good news rather than bad news", although the reasons are different.
The melon eaters feel that mo han and Jing tian have reasonable places, but both of them are relatively extreme, and we can learn from them.
Although Mo Han's practice of reporting good news and not worrying can reduce the burden on the family and avoid making them worry, this is only what we think as children.
In fact, if our parents don't know anything about us and we keep silent about them, they are more worried and more frightened, but they don't dare to ask or say.
And it is possible that they are unwell or have other things that will also report good news and no worries to us, which is equivalent to a vicious circle, in case something really happens, they have not done anything, and it is we who regret it.
But if it is not advisable to tell parents in detail like Jing Tian, we can repay our worries, but we must have a choice and a trade-off.
The sign of proving yourself as an adult is to be able to carry things, those sesame small things can be solved by themselves Of course, there is no need to let their parents know, or wait for things to be solved and easily tell them that it is okay, just share their lives with their parents, and let them know that we have grown up, and some things can be done by ourselves.
But some big things that they can't decide or can't solve, eaters feel that they should still tell their parents.
On the one hand, as Jing Tian said, many times parents can help us to check and help us distinguish, after all, they eat more salt than we have walked, and their opinions may be our guiding light at this moment.
On the other hand, if things are really serious enough that we can't solve them ourselves, don't be reckless, don't let it become the last straw that crushes us, in this world we are not alone, we have more than our parents, no matter when they are willing to be our backing, with us to bear the wind and rain together.
A family has one heart, and those hardships and tribulations can be defeated by us.
Therefore, in front of our parents, we cannot be silent, we cannot only report good news and no worries, nor can we just blindly rely on our parents, but we must choose to say, let them know and tell them, there is no need to let them worry about their own.
That's what an adult should do, and that's what we should do, what do you think?