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Some time ago, because I wanted to search for information on women's clothing in the fifties, I watched some related movies, and I thought I would be attracted by the gorgeous costumes in "The Phantom Sewer", but I never expected that this was such a heavy movie. In two hours, almost all the problems in the emotions of men and women are condensed, magnified, and displayed in front of you, a knife and a bloody dissection for you.
Unmarried girls may feel uncomfortable and do not understand, all the previous love films will be too great, selfless, dedicated, and the leading power contest between men and women in the film, reversal, balance, the fine torture between the two people, attachment, symbiosis contradictions and entanglements, for the young sisters who have been married for more than five years, it is really soft and knotted, and the emotions are fluctuating.
A lot of things that I didn't want to understand before suddenly had an epiphany.
The night before, on the fifteenth day of the first month, a little sister lamented that she did not have a boyfriend. I recommend her to watch this movie, what's so bad about being single? Is it that snacks are not delicious, or that mobile phones are not fun?
But who isn't like that when they're young? They all roared and wanted to enter the city, how was the scenery in the besieged city? Sweet and bitter self-aware.
He is perhaps the most demanding person in the world
The film takes place in London in the 1950s, where Reynolds is a well-known costume designer who, together with his sister, founded his own brand, Woodcock. Each dress is personally measured and high-end customized. High-society ladies, ladies, and ladies all had to wait in line to get one of his dresses.
His workshop is a magnificent white house. Here, each skirt is precisely measured, designed and hand-sewn.
Every month, there will be salons in the house, catwalks, and new costumes released every month. At the same time, we also receive haute couture dresses for various anniversaries, dances, weddings, etc. for the princes, nobles, and celebrities.
For clothing, he is demanding, the pursuit of perfection, for the work, he is fully committed, extra selfless. He only looks at everything that is beautiful, he only focuses on discovering the table and shaping beauty.
There is absolutely zero tolerance for all unbeautiful behaviors and manners.
At the beginning of the film, he eats breakfast while drawing pictures.
The beauty next to him wanted to hand him bread, and he said without looking up: Joanna, I said not to make such a slimy thing. "The brush in my hand doesn't stop, and I keep drawing. Seeing the people in front of you is nothing.
Joanna was stunned for a long time, and finally broke out, "Is it that I can't say anything to attract your attention!" Reynolds said: I have an important design to hand over today, and I don't want to quarrel! Say goodbye and go away.
How familiar is this picture! It's almost a white depiction of a marital dispute, where women are provocative, trying to get the man's attention and make him care about himself. Men, on the other hand, choose to ignore and escape.
Reynolds's sister Cyril sees all this in her eyes, and in this garment factory, it is Cyril who has really mastered the big picture. She said to her brother: Joanna is a good person, but it is almost over! She's blessed now, and she'll just sit there and wait for the day when you fall in love with her again.
Reynolds hesitated for a moment before nodding his head quickly.
It turned out that Joanna was just a model and lover.
Even how to terminate a relationship needs to be handled by the sister. The compensation was given to her for all the new dresses of the month.
As you can imagine, Joanna is not the first, and will never be, the last.
As a top fashion designer at the time, he needed to draw inspiration from young girls. But his profession made him particularly picky and demanding, because what he did every day was only for the beautiful clothes to bloom brilliantly on the beauty of the moment.
After that gorgeous moment, the model lover fell from heaven to the mortal world.
Her sitting posture, the sound of walking, the indecent eating appearance, all the imperfections in front of him will be amplified, deeply stimulated to his sensitive senses, he can't stand it, and even more intolerable is the lover's attempt to invade his space, his living habits, his orderly life is invaded and disturbed by others, for him, it is no less than a war of aggression.
So, a relationship begins with the discovery of each other's beauty and ends with the other person's attempt to invade their own space.
This is also the reason why he is nearly fifty years old and still not married.
He couldn't stand others and couldn't establish deep intimacy with people. He didn't want to live in the expectations and imaginations of others.
Until he met Alma.
In the country restaurant, he saw at a glance that the girl had unique potential and unexplored beauty. So he asked her to dinner and took her back to his home in the country, and Alma thought that she would be greeted by an intimate date, but unexpectedly, she tried on the clothes for Reynolds for the night.
He brought Alma to London, where she has been his exclusive model and lover ever since. Originally she thought her figure was not good enough, her neck was too thin, her arms were thick, her hips were too wide, and her breasts were too small. But in the clothes he made, it was extra perfect, and everything was just right. This is the charm of Reynolds's clothing, and his skirts bring confidence, beauty and strength to his guests.
Alma's world is opened up and everything in high society is in sight. She loves Reynolds and is satisfied with her life now.
But she wanted more.
She was dissatisfied with having to go back to her room after the intimacy, and she was dissatisfied with the fact that she could only get his favor when she was obedient and worked hard. They work very hard, often falling asleep at midnight and getting up at four in the morning, and she is the best model to use because she can stand longer than anyone.
But outside of work, everything she had was rejected.
Reynolds has such a skill, he can make you feel like a spring breeze in an instant, as if there is only you in the world, and the next second can also make you fall into the ice cellar, without confidence, feeling that what you do is wrong, and your breathing is superfluous.
At first, Alma thought it was really her fault, she ate carefully without making any noise, obediently obedient, and working hard, but her encounters were still the same as her predecessors Joanna, the robust country girls, and all the things she wanted to do to her lover were, to Reynolds, foolish, superfluous, and destructive.
Is she just his model? He had never loved her at all?
However, he would make her the most beautiful dress with the fine lace that he had treasured for many years, which he had snatched from elsewhere, and quietly sew her name Alma in the lining.
From an early age, he used to hide all his secrets and worries in the lining, and the lining of his suit hid a strand of his mother's hair. His expression of love was so obscure, but she found it anyway.
But what really made her confident was the costume show, the busy backstage, a model's shawl was worn wrong, he was anxious to help put it on, afraid that he couldn't wait to see her catwalk figure. She turned one by one and saw his eyes pressed against the keyhole to look at her. Know that you are not losing.
After the fashion show, he was tired and weak, and at night, he had a fever and became sick. He was so obedient and obedient in his illness, like a mischievous baby, so accessible, that for the first time, they fell asleep embracing each other.
She was more certain that it was only when he was sick and vulnerable that the strength of both of them began to be balanced, that he began to rely on her, and that she received the satisfaction of being needed by the lover. At that time, he belonged only to her.
It would be nice to have more moments like this, Alma thought.
With her three attacks, he fell completely
Only a few days later, Reynolds, who had recovered, was still the poisonous, picky, indifferent fashionmaker, who would never look at her again except at work.
He is still high and has the initiative.
The stubborn little girl intends to get to know her lover in her own way.
A rich American second-generation guest, Mrs. Ross, was married again, and the dress she wore was ordered by Reynolds. It's just that this lady is obese and has no temperate habits, and Reynolds has worked hard to create an elegant and gorgeous green dress for her. But he refused to attend Mrs. Ross's wedding because of his aesthetic fetishism and reluctance to see his perfect work worn on an unworthy person. It was a feeling of tyranny.
But Mrs. Rose was their most important client, and even this magnificent house was funded by her. The arrogant Reynolds finally went.
Throughout the wedding feast, Reynolds turned his head away from looking at the woman in the green dress on the stage.
Mrs. Rose was so drunk that she fell on the table. This is a very undignified act for British high society. Moreover, she wore a skirt that Reynolds had sewn by hand.
At this time, Reynolds's face was similar to that of a dead man, but it was a super VIP, and he could only sigh and prepare to leave the scene early.
But the little girlfriend pulled him aside, "She doesn't deserve that dress!" Let's go get it back! ”
Contrary to his usual cowardly gentleman appearance, the two of them knocked viciously on Mrs. Rose's door, And Alma rushed in, took off the skirt on Mrs. Ross, and the two rushed into the street hand in hand, extremely happy!
Stereotypical life, occasionally a little rebellious and out of line, broke free of the shackles, the little girlfriend understands his mood, and comes with his own domineering power, can do what he usually can't do, he is happy for a long time, and kissed her on the street for the first time.
The first attack was successful!
The next morning, he was extra gentle and smiling, and the whole person seemed to be in a good mood, and for the first time he thoughtfully left her a oatmeal porridge with cream.
She thought it was her charm, and soon she knew she was wrong.
Because it was the arrival of the Belgian princess, a wedding dress was ordered.
The princess was exquisitely beautiful as a work of art, and he looked at her with admiration everywhere. This gaze hurt her, and in front of the princess, she was ashamed of herself, and even so, she said rudely and rudely to the princess: I live here! Headlessly swore an oath of sovereignty.
She then begs Cyril to leave everyone behind, leaving her to prepare dinner, and she wants to create a world for two. All the breakfast and dinner had been eaten by the three of them before, and even Reynolds had always been closer to his sister.
This time, the surprise turned into a disaster.
Reynolds was furious and confronted his lover's elaborate dinner, which he called a wreck, to deliberately mess up his calm night. Alma was angry and cried, and said incoherently those restrictions, those tricks to control people, she couldn't stand it. Reynolds asked her coldly, so what are you waiting for? "Wait for you to let me go!"
The conversation between the two translates into a concise pattern: endure or roll!
How willing she was, since she would only rely on her when she was sick, let him return to a sick and vulnerable state again.
She crushed the poisonous mushrooms and poured them into his tea. The amount of poison would not kill him, but it would make him feverish, sick, and miserable. Only when he falls ill will he remove the strong shell.
The second time she attacked, she got it right again!
He was especially dependent on her when he was sick, just as a baby depended on his mother. In a state of near-death, there is a woman who tries her best to accompany him and take care of him, and he is finally no longer lonely.
He said, it was you who saved my bitter heart from suffocation, and it was you who broke my curse.
He proposed to her and married her.
Since then, she has become a guest of the fashion circle and high society.
After marriage, the dominance gradually reversed, she was young and beautiful, full of vitality, and shone brightly in the social field, while he began to age, somewhat powerless. He actually began to chase her figure through the crowd, and she would not look at him again all night.
The two were alone day and night, And Alma's rude living habits also made him unbearable, in fact, the eating movement was a little bigger, eating was a little more lavish, but eating was quite unbearable compared to people with aesthetic cleanliness.
When the rift widened again, Alma was once again in crisis. She heard him throwing a tantrum at his sister Cyril, complaining that his wife had made a mess of the place and meddling in his life and design, and she stood quietly behind her, smiling. She was not afraid at all now, and the cards in her hand were much better.
Third offense.
This time the amount of poisonous mushrooms was much larger, and he used the butter he hated the most, so what, even if he couldn't wake up, it didn't matter.
She's not the one who has nothing anymore!
But he knew that he had eaten the poisonous mushroom, and he knew that only by returning to the sick situation could he surrender himself and embrace love!
Here should be a song called "Conquest", "Conquered by you, drink the poison you have hidden." ”
In the movie, this time she succeeds again, and they have a child.
But what about the next emotional crisis?
This kind of love is of course distorted and perverted, and because of this, although this film does not have a trace of naked shots, it is still R-rated.
The love in the film is extreme, but in the state of marriage, many people's mode of getting along also has similarities.
Reynolds is a man of love and incompetence.
He resists having real emotional communication with women. His pain came from the separation of heart and brain.
Love is the energy that one person gives to another.
But the most poisonous and hurtful thing is cold violence, which is silent and silent, but it can exhaust emotions little by little. Some people are blameless in their behavior, but the indifference in their bones can freeze the hearts of lovers into cold ice, and he uses hardness and indifference to often force women to cry hysterically, while he does not move at all.
In the film, Reynolds, there are many men in reality, they have a glamorous appearance and life, but the splendor is like fireworks, outsiders see the splendor, and they are convinced in their hearts that if their true hearts are seen by excellent women, they will abandon him. He is always running away from the emptiness within. So, reynolds was looking for lovers who were girls from the lower classes, and he thought it would be easy to get along.
Perhaps there will be some shadows in our lives, and in order to seek the integrity of life, those shadows can only be nourished if they are constantly illuminated by love. Reynolds felt that Alma had great destructive power, and did not know that it was this exuberant vitality that attracted his attention in the first place. He was too rigid in life, tired of his heart, and he was unable to react, so he chose Alma, who had destructive power.
At first, Alma was like a weak vine, but in the end she became a powerful parasitic tree, and from the beginning, she did not take a wrong step, and it was also terrible. She was observing, observing the women around him, Reynolds' sister quietly dominating everything in the business, and from the time Alma began to make demands in front of Cyril, she already knew that only a strong woman could break into his life. Otherwise, those obedient predecessors are her fate. Strong is not pretended, it is Reynolds himself who chooses a strong woman.
And the scene where she poisons her lover again and again reminds me of a novel by Yan Geling, "Mother and Little Fish", the mother loves humblely, obviously she is beautiful, but she has no confidence in front of her talented father. She came up with ways to attract her husband's attention, holding the child and singing Schubert's blue song, and reciting Pushkin's poems in front of him, but in exchange for her husband's shocked whole body tightened, in the contradiction of boredom and suppression, he smiled at her.
Then she took this laugh to sustain her life for the next few days, years or even half of her life.
The turning point was when her husband was reformed by labor in the countryside, and in those lives without money and dignity, she sent him hundreds of fried fish, which allowed her husband to survive without lack of nutrition and dignity. At that time, her husband needed her and could not do without her. Then the husband re-emerged from the mountain, began to write books, and had a more beautiful and loving woman around him, and filed for divorce.
The mother hated and said: Just exercise again! Send him to the countryside for labor reform, make him inferior, there will be no woman who wants him, only I want him.
Lack of deep emotional communication, being despised and neglected, women's self-esteem and self-worth will be challenged, and over time, the whole person will have no aura and quickly wither. Like the original Alma and the Joannas before them, like the mother in the novel.
Obviously he is constantly hurting you with indifference and disregard, why do you have to be with someone who hurts you.
If the young Alma had not met Reynolds, who was getting older and worse, she would still be the one who had been hurt.
This is also why many uncles who were unruly when they were young were finally tamed by their wives who were dozens of years younger than themselves.
In real life, how many couples are obviously strangers, but they are still together.
How many couples, when separated from each other, are safe and sound, but when they get together, they jump. The last two chose the model in which one worked thousands of miles away from home and the other was at home with children.
Everyone is longing to love people, longing to be loved, but because of personality, experience, dignity and other factors, they misunderstand and hurt each other. So those of us who are full of defects are all on the sheep's gut path of life, stumbling all the way but with hope, instinctively looking for the glimmer of happiness.
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