Some people say that "Song of the Sea" is an anime movie that can heal the wounds of adults.
In this life, people are not perfect after all, the misfortune of the original family, the pain of losing their lover, the helplessness of loving their children...
But in the movie, whether it is the young Ben, or the father, the owl witch, in the face of suffering, bravely face their hearts to awaken the initial love.
01 The original family hurts because it does not express love
Every child has a heroic dream at a young age, to conquer the sea of stars and protect everyone he loves.
4-year-old Ben, spending his last warm night with his mother, looking forward to the arrival of his little sister and being the best brother.
But when he woke up the next day, he learned that his mother had died because of the birth of his little sister.
Brother Ben's heroic dream is shattered, believing that his mother left because he did not protect her, and the guilt in his heart cannot be released, and he can only anger his newborn sister.
The older brother often lost his temper with his younger sister, using this method to numb the pain of losing his mother and being ignored by his father.
The younger sister is 6 years old and can't speak until her birthday, when she secretly blows the conch, finds her own seal skin, and wanders the sea, but is found by her grandmother.
The two brothers and sisters were forced to leave the ocean and go to the city with their grandmother, but when they arrived, they could not adapt to the local life and secretly left.
On the way home, they meet three elves who are awakened by the music of the conch, revealing the identity of their sister Silsa as a sea lion elf.
When Silsa is spotted by an owl and encounters danger, the brother instinctively chooses to protect Silsa and slowly feels his responsibility as an older brother.
When the younger sister Silsa is a sea lion elf, going to the water is her nature, the brother is a human, the father warned the danger in the water from childhood, he did not dare to take risks, but he was worried about his sister, full of contradictions in the inner choice, so that Ben grew up again.
On the way to find his sister, Ben meets the recorder with long hair, sees his memories of his mother, and remembers what his mother once said: "Ben will be the best brother in the world."
After wave after wave of setbacks, Ben slowly let go of his mother's departure, felt his love and care, and became more intimate with his sister Silsa.
Christopher Meng once said, "Most of our childhood behavior is based on a sense of belonging and the need to be valued." ”
When the family ushers in a second new life, parents will more or less ignore the boss, the film in the book is also the real emotion of many children in the family now, even if there is no death of the mother, the neglect of the father is also a great harm.
How two children feel each other's love in an intimate relationship requires our parents to give the eldest more care and responsibility, so that children can learn to express love and feel love.
02 To seal pain is to lose the ability to love
In the movie, the giant McLear loses his wife in grief, and the tears turn into seawater, flooding endlessly. The owl witch Macha is McClil's mother, and she can't bear to see her son in pain, so she uses magic to suck all the emotions out of her son and put them in a bottle, turning her son into an emotionless stone and eternal peace.
Since then, this has become the witch's mission, sucking away other people's emotions and putting them in bottles.
The corresponding characters in the film also include the children's grandmother and father Connor, and when his wife Brona leaves, Connor becomes taciturn and drinks alcohol to anesthetize himself.
Grandma had always wanted Connor to get out of here, forget everything here, forget Brona, and start over with the child, acting like a witch's magic bottle, thinking that by sucking away the old sadness, she could be happy.
The emotions sealed in the magic bottle, there are thunder and lightning, there are clouds, there is rain and snow, there are rainbows, there are suns, there are sadness, there are jealousies, there are angers...
This is everyone's weakness, avoided, hurt to the bone, but it is also indispensable, without these emotions, it becomes a hard and cold stone.
Macha, the owl, said: "I'm like this because of those damn feelings, I hate the feelings that those emotions are used." "When she was angry, she also used the bottle to suck away the emotions, so the lower body also turned into stone."
With the encouragement of her brother Ben, Silsa blew the conch, the beautiful conch shattered the magic bottle, all emotions were released, and when the pain returned, after the heartbreak, there was a new opportunity to reconcile with the pain.
Many of us experience heartbreaking pain, and when we don't know how to deal with it, we choose to forget, locking the pain in our inner subconscious.
Later, I found that sealing the pain was indeed a good idea, obviously it could be avoided, so why did you have to let yourself bear it? The inner meaning can also be infinitely magnified, no matter how unpleasant it is, it can be loaded.
However, there is also the potential danger that we are afraid of pain, away from everything that will make us miserable, like love, because we are afraid of pain, so we give up love.
Like the owl witch, she was afraid to see her son in pain, put her emotions in the bottle, and likewise forgot her love for her son.
Let the son become a stone, there is no longer any emotional communication between them, and the son is completely lost.
Silsa's singing is a deep awakening in the heart, and it is also a wake-up call for the witch to face her own pain, to feel her son's sadness again, to awaken the pain at the same time, but also to awaken the mother's love for her son.
Everyone is an ordinary person, love is a weakness, but also an armor, dare to face their own imperfections, escape or ignore will not be the best medicine to cure pain.
When suffering arises, we will be confused, struggling, and avoiding is also our most direct reaction, and if so, the pain will always be hidden in our subconscious and will not be forgotten.
Only by bravely taking this step and choosing to face pain can we learn from it that we can truly understand ourselves and how to love.
03 Love is not deprivation, but fulfillment
Connor originally had a happy home, his wife was pregnant with Rokko, accompanied by her son to paint on the wall, and the beautiful sea lion was flexible and flexible.
The couple went to sleep with their son, and the wife took out an ancient conch and let the son listen to the sound of the sea.
Suddenly the wife is unwell, and the husband apologized while saying goodbye to the sea, in exchange for the peace of the daughter, the husband has been in the past grief can not let go, every year the daughter's birthday, is the wife's death day.
He often looked at the sea in a daze, looked confused, answered questions to the children, paralyzed himself with alcohol, and lived in his own memories.
When Silsa was on her sixth birthday, she blew the conch, awakened the elven light, and found her own elven coat.
Pulling Connor back to reality, he knew that his daughter was a sea lion elf like his wife, and this was her fate, which he could not change, but he had to make a risky attempt.
Connor locks the elf coat into a box and throws it to the bottom of the sea, so that his daughter can stay away from here, so that he can no longer repeat her mother's mistakes, but he chooses to continue to be depressed.
When the two children reappeared at home, returned to look for the elven coat, watched their daughter's dying breath, and the son's desperate protection, he realized that love is not deprived, but fulfilled.
Children should have their own world, even parents have no right to take it, maybe let go, in order to let the child get free.
At the moment of letting go, a new turning point can be ushered in.