Text / Li Zhi Nuan Wen
I saw a video of a little Huang Feifa on the Internet today:
She walked alone on an unoccupied street late at night, with visible scars on her face. With a crying voice, he said to netizens: "I Xiao Huang Fei, busy running for 15 years, pouring out my heart and lungs, I didn't expect to even have this bit of trust, 15 years I will mix this end, no one will look for me, I don't want anything..."
Although she did not specify how the wound on her face came from, she had hinted at it.
Many people questioned that the injury on her face seemed to be caused by her husband Cui Ye; There are also many people who think that the wounds on her face are painted, like hype.
But then Cui Ye's account was also closed and renamed: starting all over again, which can't help but make people have more associations, which should be family reasons.
From my own point of view, I don't want it to be caused by domestic violence, but a kind of hype. Because it takes a day or two for people to be injured to show particularly obvious marks, and it is even more difficult to identify at night. So this kind of hype can also give people some warnings!
I knew Xiao Huangfei more than ten years ago when I saw her performance in Oriental Scala in Beijing. The opening is the "color" joke flying wildly, mixed with the style of the early duo, and the scene was also driven by her laughter and applause.
After accumulating a certain amount of popularity, Xiao Huangfei kept pace with the times and Zhang Kaifeng joined the KS platform, and has always been widely popular with fans and has become one of the contemporary Internet celebrities.
There are many popular people, her usual private life is rarely mentioned, this video has caused a lot of repercussions, and it reflects a family problem.
Good families shine day by day, but declining families are in turmoil
The ancients said: "Xingjia is like picking a needle at the soil, and the defeated family is like a wave of sand"
01 Xingjia is like picking a needle at the soil
Wanting a family to thrive is like picking soil with a needle. Getting married and starting a family is not easy, and keeping this home is not an easy task.
Chinese medicine says: men belong to yang, women belong to yin, just like a day and a month, the sun and the moon are harmonious, each keeps the season, in order to reflect each other, become a perfect day, and repeat.
Men are strong, women are feminine, rigid and soft, in order to be invincible in the big waves of life, facing all the ups and downs of the world.
Today, many family ups and downs are brought about by male compatriots, so marriage will be in jeopardy.
Therefore: it is easy to fight the rivers and mountains, but it is difficult to defend the rivers and mountains. Home, is your rivers and mountains, hard work for half a life, the purpose is to learn to grow while guarding the rivers and mountains.
02 The loser is like a wave of sand
The decay of a family is as easy as the waves hitting the beach.
Home is the best haven and a haven of warmth.
But there are always people who don't want to go home, mistakenly use the temporary charm and tenderness outside as a harbor, and return home to create a "bloody wind".
There are also people who like to release the bad emotions outside to the home, do not control their emotions, and even domestic violence. Lost to love, lost to incompetence.
Because only incompetent people send their temper to their families.
Never see their own problems, do not improve, but blindly accuse each other, and speak out, making people sad.
"We may not think of our way of talking as violent, but our language does often cause pain in others."
Learn to be kind to your family, especially your significant other, because language hides your big picture, your big wisdom.
Either way, the family will be in turmoil and even decay.
03 Three-pronged approach to keep the home
First, manage your own thoughts
Mature people should understand a truth, the meaning of family.
When people are young, they feel that there are people everywhere, other people's business
It's your business.
After middle age, you will feel that there is nothing in the world except your family.
I saw a news that a nearly 60-year-old man had cancer and wanted to find his ex-wife to remarry so that someone could take care of him.
The ex-wife refused, and her words were thought-provoking: "When you left me to get along with others, did you think about it now?" Now no one wants you, want me to serve, no way. He turned around and left, leaving the lonely uncle standing alone in the wind crying.
Suddenly I understood the famous saying: "Poor people must have something to hate." ”
Second, manage your temper
A bad temper is a bad mood, just like smog makes it difficult to breathe.
Napoleon once said, "He who can control his emotions." Greater than the general who took a city. ”
Videos of this kind are not uncommon: "All the appliances and furnishings in the house have been smashed, the children cry along with them, and the women regret it at the screen."
It is not easy for people to live a lifetime, why don't we deal with it coldly, there are often knots in thoughts, time is the best iron, let it iron all the folds of life, do not add oil and vinegar to troubles, let yourself go, let others go.
Only by controlling your emotions can you really solve family problems, because home is a place for reasoning, not a place for reasoning.
Third, control your mouth
Some homes are nagging by women, and some by men.
Those who love to nag want to be happy for a while, but forget that this is a world of two people.
Hemingway once said: "It takes a person two years to learn to speak and a lifetime to learn to shut up."
Shut up not to speak, but to speak effectively, to learn to think and speak.
I remember playing a painter in a movie, married a wife in his fifties, this wife would always nag endlessly because of a little family trivia, the painter first painted in a strange style, and no one saw the mystery, and finally he painted a messenger of hell, and within a few days the painter committed suicide by throwing himself into the river.
Choosing what kind of people to live with is a very important thing, and they will subtly affect your attitude towards life and the perspective on the world.
Therefore, the home that has been built so hard to keep it is that there is a place for your soul. #我要上 Headlines##Positive Energy#
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[Life is not a material feast, but a spiritual cultivation, I am Lizhi Nuanwen, accompany you to view the inner world through the story, welcome to like and pay attention]