After a year, the ceiling of domestic entertainment emotional variety shows is back.
That is the second season of "Goodbye Lover".
People who have watched the first season should know that last year's variety show was very popular, with a score of 8.9 points on Douban.
This year's second season continues the setting of the previous season, and the program team invited three couples facing a marriage crisis to start an 18-day trip in an RV.
Through this journey, the three couples will face up to their emotional problems, rethink their marriage, and ultimately decide whether to separate.
It is still a familiar marriage documentary observation reality show, and the overall style of the first episode of the current broadcast is very close to the previous season.
The difference is that the new three husband and wife guests staged a brand new marriage story, revealing more naked marriage problems.
Let's first look at the first couple, Su Shiding and Lu Ge.
The two have divorced, but they were not very happy when they separated.
This time to join the trip, Su Shiding hopes that her marriage can have a better outcome.
After all, they used to love each other so much.
When they first fell in love, Su Shiding and Lu Ge were in a long-distance relationship, one in Xi'an and the other in Shanghai.
Su Shiding once asked Lu Ge: If I have been working in Xi'an, what would you do?
Lu Ge said: Then I will come to Xi'an.
This sentence gave Su Shiding a lot of courage, and she decided to resign and go to Shanghai.
On the day he first arrived in Shanghai, Lu Ge handed over his salary card to Su Shiding.
He told her that you can do what you want later.
Later, Su Shiding really did what she wanted to do.
About two years after marriage, she went to Beijing to work alone for career development, while Lu Ge stayed in Shanghai.
Once again, they are busy separately, the contact is becoming less and less, and the relationship is becoming more and more unfamiliar.
The two who have crossed a different place to get married for love have the idea of divorce this time.
When his marriage was in jeopardy, Lu Ge suffered from depression again.
His emotions fluctuated greatly, but Su Shiding was busy with work and could not be by his side in time.
Those bad emotions have nothing to tell, they can only be accumulated in the heart, making the marriage rift between the two more and more obvious.
In fact, Su Shiding had sensed Lu Ge's bad mood, but she didn't know what to do.
It wasn't until she herself suffered from depression that she understood the pain and helplessness, how much she longed for someone's company.
It's just that she put herself in her shoes, and she also didn't dare to ask Lu Ge to accompany her.
In this way, the two of you did not say anything, and each survived the loneliest moment.
Finally, Su Shiding sent a text message to Lu Ge saying: We really don't need each other anymore, let's divorce.
Lu Ge's character is also very strong, and his reply to Su Shiding is: You don't need me for a long time.
Su Shiding and Lu Ge are very similar people, they often compete in secret, trying to find a sense of evenness.
But too much competition in the relationship is also hurtful to each other.
Like talking about the reason for participating in the show, Su Shiding said: I want to come to see Lu Ge and see what he has become now.
Lu Ge said: I am not looking forward to meeting Su Shiding, I just lack money...
In this relationship, Su Shiding and Lu Ge either do not communicate, or the communication becomes opposite.
Slowly, the two became farther and farther apart, feeling that they did not need each other.
But they don't really need it, obviously Lu Ge hopes that Su Shiding will pay more attention to himself, and Su Shiding also hopes to be accompanied by Lu Ge.
Unfortunately, these needs are never spoken.
The two did not really communicate, and turned the beautiful story into a mess in silence.
As Lu Ge said: Because of the interlacing of time, we miss each other.
If it is said, the marriage between Su Shiding and Lu Ge is full of silence.
The marriage of the second couple, Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng, should be full of quarrels and divorce at every turn.
The two met at the party, just because a friend said that Song Ningfeng was divorced and needed to be cared for, Zhang Wanting enthusiastically stepped forward and said that I was suitable.
Zhang Wanting is a very active character, and not long after falling in love, she dared to say to Song Ningfeng: "I'll give you a baby." ”
After falling in love for less than a month, she was also really pregnant.
Looking at the unexpected arrival of the new life, Zhang Wanting panicked, and never made up her mind to receive the certificate with Song Ningfeng.
The reason for Zhang Wanting's hesitation is that the person in front of her is not familiar.
The two had just met, and they got married and got pregnant without knowing each other, which made her feel a little scared.
And her way to resolve her fear is to desperately change Song Ningfeng, hoping that he will mature quickly.
At the same time, Zhang Wanting did not change anything, believing that Song Ningfeng should accept the real her.
Therefore, she was free to be herself, and she could explode at any time because of anything, and quarrel with Song Ningfeng again.
During the quarrel between the two, Song Ningfeng occasionally refuted, was often silent, and would not coax people.
This reaction made Zhang Wanting even more broken, she always felt that she was coldly violent, and all emotions were not taken seriously.
But Song Ningfeng's idea is also quite simple: I don't know how to coax people, I will wait for her anger to pass first.
When the cognition of the two was misaligned, and they did not communicate in time to solve the problem, the marriage began to become shaky.
Zhang Wanting will stubbornly believe that there is a problem in her marriage.
Then pointed the spearhead at Song Ningfeng, feeling that he had no way to take care of her emotions.
When her mood was at its worst, Zhang Wanting, who was pregnant, even thought about jumping off the building to make Song Ningfeng regret it for the rest of her life.
Having said that, I feel that Song Ningfeng is very wrong.
However, the state presented by the two in the show, on the contrary, Zhang Wanting is more suffocating.
She would constantly emphasize the hurt she had suffered in her marriage, but did not give Song Ningfeng a chance to explain.
The guests in the observation room broke the true meaning in one word: Zhang Wanting is like a controller in marriage, and Song Ningfeng is an aphasia.
There is no equal dialogue between the two, only the accusations of one party and the desire of the other to stop talking.
This asymmetry develops over the long term and eventually becomes an insoluble problem in marriage
The third couple in the show is Ai Wei and Chen Meiling.
The relationship between the two is like the contrast between Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng.
This time, Ai Wei is the controller, and Chen Meiling is the aphasia.
Of course, as an old husband and wife who is more than half a hundred years old, the two can walk together for so many years, and there is still a lot of love.
A few years ago, when Chen Meiling was diagnosed with uterine tumors and polycystic liver, Ai Wei did not hesitate to go bankrupt to treat her.
Including learning that the operation may require changing the kidney and liver, he will not hesitate to say to Chen Meiling: I can donate to you.
The two also discussed life and death.
They are all thinking about each other and hope that they will leave later.
That way, you can take care of each other, help arrange and deal with all the things in the end of life.
What a strong love this is, so that you can be fearless in the face of life and death.
But also because they love too much, many people often ask each other in the name of love.
For example, after being ill and having surgery, Ai Wei would ask Chen Meiling not to stay up late playing mahjong.
Undoubtedly, Ai Wei's starting point is for Chen Meiling's good.
But Ai Wei did not consider that Chen Meiling likes to go out to play mahjong, in fact, she wants to relieve the pressure on her body.
Due to illness, health and other problems, Chen Meiling has accumulated a lot of suppressed emotions, and can only think of anything when playing mahjong.
However, Ai Wei always feels that health is more important than emotional problems.
He would constantly discuss mahjong with Chen Meiling and ask her to obey her ideas.
Chen Meiling did not obey, so Ai Wei gave an ultimatum: If you play mahjong again, it will mean that we will divorce.
Living to be in his 60s, Ai Wei forced Chen Meiling to obey by divorce.
Out of love, Chen Meiling will choose to compromise in the moment, but she is not happy in her heart.
She confessed to Ivey on the show: I know you're nervous about my health problems, but the attitude of being too accusatory seems to disrespect me.
It is clear that Chen Meiling wants to be respected, especially if she is sick, and she is more looking forward to living like a normal person.
And what Ai Wei gave her was often condescending and downward.
Like bringing up the issue of playing mahjong again in the show, Ai Wei will question Chen Meiling again and again:
Have you ever regretted playing mahjong? Have you ever thought we would actually get divorced? What the hell are you thinking?
When he saw this clip, Yi Lijing, who was sitting in the observation room, said: Ai Wei is the state of an arbiter.
He ruled on right and wrong in marriage.
But where is there absolute right and wrong in marriage?
Take the issue of playing mahjong, Ai Wei's obstruction is worried about Chen Meiling's health.
Chen Meiling also understands Ai Wei's worries, but she doesn't like to be scolded when she is unhappy.
They couldn't talk about who was right and who was wrong, but they didn't find a way to communicate that was acceptable to both sides, and they broke up unhappily.
Looking at the whole episode, you will find that there is love between the three couples, and there are also problems.
Much of these problems stem from not communicating, or not communicating correctly.
Some people are silent in marriage, and some people are speechless in marriage.
No amount of love and thought is expressed, and the scales of love will tilt until it collapses.
This reminds me of what Guo Keyu said last season: What if there is love, can you say goodbye if you have love?
In fact, there is love and there is silence, there is quarrels, and there is mutual hurt.
Behind the hot love, there are more chicken feathers and problems, this is a real and cruel marriage.
"Goodbye Lover" reveals this truth and cruelty, like a marriage apocalypse.
In the past, many people would be taboo about talking about divorce, but now divorce is put on the surface and made into a show.
Viewers watch other people's stories, learn from them, and learn to handle intimacy better.
Regardless of whether the marriage ends well or badly, all emotions and experiences will enrich life.
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