Teacher Luo Xiang shared a speech on what love is on the short video platform, which I appreciated. He said: "Love has no skills, some only sincerity, patience and fate. True love must not be an instant touch, but must be a lasting commitment. Sacrifice to each other, achieve each other, respect each other. ”
1. Do you believe in love at first sight and want to make love with your own body?
Wake up! Girls, some girls will always look forward to the love of Prince Charming Cinderella in idol dramas, two people who don't know each other will love you to death when they see each other, and life after marriage is as sweet as honey. That's just the screenwriter's beautiful character, the arrangement of the script.
We always like handsome guys, beautiful beauties. It was all superficial appearance, a momentary heartbeat.
There is a poem that says it well: "If life is only like the first sight, what is the autumn wind and sorrow." "People are beautiful at first sight, because we only understand this person through the surface, there is no deep intersection, and we understand a person's character, hobbies, and shortcomings.
When choosing to start a relationship, be sure to get to know each other and build on honesty. Whether you can accept his shortcomings, whether he can tolerate your bad problems. At all, don't believe it, I love her, all her flaws, bad problems I can accept such bullshit. It was nothing more than a sign of self-deception when it wasn't obtained. Understanding each other is a responsibility for oneself and for others.
2. Love, no skill, only sincerity
When two people come together, it depends on hard-won fate. However, if you want a relationship to last long, it is not about skill, but about sincerity and patience.
I have seen the bad side of each other, but still, I will not leave and be responsible to the end. Hand in hand, support each other, carry difficulties together, and share happiness together.
Only when you like someone from the bottom of your heart and sincerely will his words and deeds reveal, yes, the joy of the other party. Only by managing a relationship with your heart and sincerely thinking about each other will such a relationship last.
When we get acquainted, we will deliberately restrain ourselves, hide our bad problems, and just want to show our good side to each other. Under such beautiful conditions, we love and attract each other, and we have the illusion that this is not my perfect partner. With the help of sweet words, we fell in love and enjoyed the sweetness of love.
When the freshness and excitement fade and return to the dull. In the face of life's trivial, trivial matters, we will argue endlessly. At this time, we will also remove the perfect disguise and show our shortcomings in front of each other in an unobstructed manner.
At this time, without the protection of the original freshness, will you also doubt yourself. Is this the person who was at the beginning, am I blind, would choose, such a thing?
Two different thoughts, there will always be a spark when the soul collides. At this time, patience becomes especially important. We must learn to control our emotions, endure each other's bad habits, and correct them in later life and grow together.
Love is dull, occasionally, need surprises, we, will remember each other's birthdays, and will prepare surprises for each other during the holidays. This may have an element of skill, but it requires more sincere dedication. Because, really attentively, I will carefully prepare the gifts that the other party likes, and care about the feelings of the other party.
A relationship will always have ups and downs, stumbling and stumble, and patience is crucial.
3. A good relationship is mutual achievement
A good relationship is when two people become a better version of themselves together. In a relationship, don't delve into who loves whom more, love, is not a one-sided give, only two-way pay, we can manage the relationship well.
Any relationship is based on respect. Boys must not be macho, solipsistic, and have the idea that men are inferior to women. Only when we are equal and respect each other will our relationship be easy and pleasant.
There will always be sacrifices for two people together, perhaps, he is busy with work. You have to sacrifice more rest time and do more housework. Perhaps, your temper is not good enough, a little hot, he has to grievance himself more to make you happy.
Because, the two people have different origins, different families, different growths, and different education levels, so both people will have differences. Ideological gap, behavioral gap. When disagreements arise, one side is not required to fully accommodate the other. Each step back, for the sake of the other, sacrifice yourself.
Respect each other, sacrifice each other, and achieve each other. Mutual achievement is not to use each other, but to learn from each other's strengths and improve their own shortcomings. At the same time, the two people learn together, grow together, and find the meeting point of the heart together. If a relationship makes two people worse and more tired, you should think about it at this time.