In addition to being an actress, spiritual mentor, and even an entrepreneur with a personal brand Goop, the emotional life of well-known Hollywood actress Gwyneth Paltrow has always attracted attention.
One of the most well-known is her 13-year marriage to Coldplay frontman Chris Martin (Chris Martin).
The two married in 2003 and have a daughter and a son, and announced their breakup in 2014, and this relationship of more than ten years officially ended in 2016.
In September 2022, Gwyneth Paltrow announced that he was married to American screenwriter Brad Falchuk again.
The two met through the American drama "Glee" in 2010, and when Gwyneth Paltrow announced his official separation from his ex in 2016, he began another relationship with Brad Falchuk.
On the other hand, Chris Martin has been in love with "Fifty Shades of Grey" actress Dakota Johnson (Dakota Johnson) since 2017 and has a very stable relationship.
In 2021, it was even reported that the woman had promised the man to propose marriage and would complete the marriage this year.
Even if Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin did not end up together, the two who have been married for more than ten years in the past still have a fairly close interaction relationship, and in order to be able to accompany their children to grow up, they have developed a suitable mode of getting along.
Consciously break up
In 2017, Gwyneth Paltrow wrote a personal essay in the British edition of Vogue, talking about whether it was possible for the two to maintain the same living conditions after breaking up with her ex-husband in order to continue to grow up with her children.
"I tried to wonder, as unlikely as it sounds, whether we could continue our family model to some extent. Can you create a way for us to continue eating together, vacationing, and even finding lightness and laughter again?"
"More importantly, can my ex continue to be a member of my family? A person who will continue to protect me and think about me? And can I do the same for him?"
The two then went to counseling together and learned the term "conscious uncoupling" – the end of a marriage or relationship in a positive manner and the focus on making the relationship more complete, not ending.
In the process of adjusting the life of both parties, there will inevitably be friction and some particularly frustrating moments, in addition to worrying about the child's life, they also need to worry about explaining the relationship state of the two to the outside world.
Gwyneth Paltrow then posted an article on Goop announcing his official separation from Chris Martin and mentioning a conscious breakup in the article.
"I've never been a person who was afraid to say something inflammatory, it came from a motive to change for the better. Sharing your weaknesses may help others."
Be brave enough to share your weaknesses
"Over the years, I've talked to a lot of things that people say I'm crazy: yoga, Reiki, longevity, gluten-free foods, vagina things... The negative emotions around everyone continue to spread online."
"Introducing something unfamiliar will have a lot of repercussions and will gradually be accepted by the culture. Although it was painful at times, especially in the early days, I have come to enjoy the characters in the cycle, and the curiosity that drives it."
"Conscious breakups, separations, divorces, whatever you want to call it, have now permeated the breakup culture. People don't ask me: Why do you say that? Instead, they ask: How did you manage this?"
"Every couple's situation is different, but for me, the most important thing is to take responsibility for the breakdown of the relationship. I tried to heal some aspects of myself through the relationship, but I wasn't honest with myself. I used to be blind and defensive, refusing to be hurt and paranoid. I have to face this and be brave enough to share it."
Gwyneth Paltrow, who was originally paranoid in his relationship, began to reconcile with himself after a conscious breakup, and tried to feel the broken up of a relationship from his partner's point of view.
In many cases, she says, separation is often the responsibility of both parties, but everyone is used to being hurt because they never have to face the emotions in their hearts.
It is very important to learn to let go of resentment because it will make us believe that we are right. And this resentment can blind us to our mistakes.
Breaking up is growth
"The point of a breakup is that if you have to go through a breakup, it's growth. Use this opportunity to really examine yourself and heal broken patterns so you don't find yourself in the same situation again."
"You used to love your ex, and maybe you still love him, so keep those good things in your heart." This brings us to the most radical point: you can always love some aspects of your ex."
"In fact, that's why a conscious breakup can work. Love all the wonderful parts of Tatar. They are still there and can still make you feel the feeling for that person."
Life has ups and downs, as well as relationships, and if life is perfect all the time, we can't perceive all the nuances in life.
"When children are young, they learn that love comes in many forms. I knew my ex-husband was destined to be the father of my children, and I knew my current husband was destined to be the one who grew old with me. A conscious breakup makes us realize that two different loves can coexist and nourish each other."