Although everyone has different skin colors, different languages, and different cultures, as "people", everyone's pursuit of happiness, stability, tolerance, kindness, understanding, tolerance, loyalty, trust, etc. is actually the same.
We are only "people" first, then "Chinese", "Americans", "Koreans" ...
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A few days ago, Qi Wei's studio officially announced the good news that 38-year-old Qi Wei gave birth safely in the form of an article and a video. The video records in detail the whole process of Qi Wei from pregnancy to delivery.
She said in the video that although she and her husband have been preparing for a second child, the timing of this conception is more "embarrassing", it was on the last day of her menstrual period, because her husband could not hold on to the second child. I have to say that the name "Brother Qi" is not called in vain, and it is completely worthy of her style of daring to say and do.
Qi Wei and her husband Lee Chengxuan fell in love in the TV series "The Other Me in the World" co-starring in October 012, and their relationship has always been stable, and the two held a wedding in Las Vegas, USA, in September 2014. In January 2015, Qi Wei gave birth to her daughter Lucky.
Lee Seung-hyun is a Korean-American, the same age as Qi Wei, born and raised in the United States, when he grew up and returned to South Korea, he entered the Korean entertainment industry by chance, and then chose to go to China to develop. Qi Wei was born in Chengdu, Sichuan, debuted in talent shows in the early years, and has always been known for being atmospheric, daring and frank.
When the two met, Qi Wei was already a popular little flower in the Chinese entertainment industry and starred in many TV series. And Lee Seung-hyun could only be regarded as a newcomer at that time.
Due to pregnancy and giving birth to a daughter, Qi Wei's career has been somewhat affected, and Li Chengxuan said, "My wife gave away her (career) most golden time in order to give birth to her daughter." But I (as a man) are still in time, can be in the back, there is no age limit. So after giving birth to their daughter, the two decided that Qi Wei's career was already relatively good, so they continued to go all out in their career, while Li Chengxuan mainly took on the task of taking care of the family and raising his daughter at home.
Over the years, Qi Wei's career has become better and better, and with the arrival of live broadcast with goods, she simply stopped receiving films, mainly on variety shows and live broadcasts with goods, making a lot of money.
As a "housewife", Lee Seung-hyun has not been without moments of emotional collapse. Especially at the beginning, because he was under a lot of pressure from the outside world to himself, he once doubted whether he needed to receive treatment. But fortunately, he has traveled to many countries in the past few years, not only enriching his experience, but also investing in his future emotions, so his heart is more determined and inclusive. In recent years, because of his image of a good father and good husband, he has been affectionately called "human high-quality male" by netizens.
In August this year, when Qi Wei was on a live broadcast, she suddenly said that she was going to quit the entertainment industry, which startled the partners next to her. Only then did she calmly explain that she needed to go home to raise a baby and wait for delivery because she was pregnant, and she was going to change jobs with Lee Seung-hyun. On the other hand, Lee Seung-hyun, who returned to the rivers and lakes, joined the recording of "Brother in Trouble" and gained the support of a large number of fans. Even the people in the program team praised him, "I think 'responsibility' is not enough to describe you, you are a person with a big heart", "All brothers can find shortcomings, but Lee Seung-hyun does not", "People are warm and kind"...
Nowadays, the model of the two has become the male protagonist outside the female protagonist, flexible rotation and intermittent struggle, you retreat and I enter, you enter and I retreat, rest assured to hand over your back to each other, tacit cooperation allows family and career to be taken into account, so that they have become the most real, fireworks, and harmonious couple in the entertainment industry.
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At the beginning of this year, a suspected news on the Internet that Tang Wei returned to China with her daughter made many netizens speculate that there may be problems in her marriage with her Korean husband.
On October 26, Tang Wei attended an event in Beijing in casual clothes, and from the event photos, you can see that her left ring finger is still wearing a wedding ring, and her physical condition and mood look very good. At this event, she also responded to the rumors about her marriage with her husband on the Internet, and proved that the marriage between the two is still the same.
In fact, as early as August 15, the husband and wife recorded a video to bless the establishment of diplomatic relations between China and South Korea for 30 years, not only was the video full of positive energy, but the two also looked at each other and smiled many times, and the picture was very sweet.
Tang Wei was born in Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province in 1979, her father is the famous lay painter Tang Yuming, and she herself is a high-caliber student graduated from the Department of Chinese Opera Directing. In 2004, she won the Lily Award for Outstanding Actress for her first movie "Police Flower Swallow", and became famous at a young age. In 2007, director Li Ang was preparing to shoot "The Color Ring", Zhang Ziyi, Liu Yifei, Da S, etc. all fought for the role of Wang Jiazhi, but Li Ang felt that they were not close to Wang Jiazhi. So Li An chose the audition, and after seeing Tang Wei, he felt that Tang Wei had the shadow of Wang Jiazhi on his body.
A producer said before that Tang Wei is the only person in the entertainment industry who looks like he has read a book, and Ang Lee also said that Tang Wei looks like a history teacher. After that, Tang Wei won the Best Newcomer Award at the Taiwan Golden Horse Award for the role of Wang Jiazhi. Although "The Color Ring" made Tang Wei, Tang Wei's situation after that was not good, because she was blocked by the domestic entertainment industry, and the advertising endorsements on hand were terminated for a time, and all the program announcements were canceled. Even Li An himself said that Tang Wei's future road is not easy, and whether he can marry depends on the blessing.
Tang Wei had previously written a record that described the period of the color ring. She said, I'm banned, so what? She chose to study in the UK, although the 500,000 salary plus the endorsement fee of 800,000 yuan (originally the endorsement fee was 4.8 million after tax, but she couldn't bear the economic loss suffered by the advertiser because she was blocked, so she chose to take the initiative to return 4 million), this 1.3 million can buy a house and a car in China, but in the UK by the exchange rate diluted, it simply can't last long. After arriving in the UK, she first worked hard to learn the language, aiming to get a scholarship, and even wore her folded paper clothes on the street for alternative fashion shows on the hardest days. However, because of her efforts, after 1 month in London, she achieved from eating old books to self-sufficiency. These experiences not only increased her insight, broadened her horizons, but also made her more and more confident.
A few years later, she returned to the Chinese entertainment industry under the guidance of Ang Lee, and starred in many works such as "Late Autumn", not only won the future husband Korean director Kim Tae-yong, but also became the "queen" of South Korea that year, and was the only foreigner to win the Korean "Hundred Flowers Award".
In 2014, Tang Wei and Kim Tae-yong got married, and after marriage, Tang Wei settled in South Korea with her husband and participated in the filming of many Korean movies. Now Tang Wei can shoot if he wants to make a movie, and he won't shoot if he doesn't want to shoot, but he can win an award as soon as he shoots. She and her family settled in the countryside of South Korea, living their own life, even raising some chickens and ducks. In the face of the outside world's confusion, she said, "I find more and more what I really care about, it may be the life in the countryside, it may be my relaxed life with my daughter and husband, these quiet and stable relationships, all make me feel comfortable." ”
When young, people are always keen to pursue the highlight moments in life, and they treat love more than the sea and rocks, vigorously, and so on after having a certain experience and economic foundation, they prefer quiet and peaceful days, and the appeal for the relationship with the other half has also become stable, down-to-earth and comfortable.
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Recently, Da S and her Korean husband Gu Junye took a group of magazines together, and it can be seen in the magazine that Da S is in good condition, not only has his body recovered well, but his eyes are obviously completely different from the godlessness in his previous marriage with wxf. In an interview after filming the magazine, Da S said that he had long had enough of marriage, and she and Gu Junye were already old and no longer needed those empty forms, such as weddings or diamond rings.
She also said that after being with Gu Junye, she understood what happiness and stability were. After marriage, Gu Junye chose to settle in Taiwan in order to take care of his wife and stepchildren. In order to secure their lives, he chose to work hard. Judging from the many family photos that have been exposed recently, he seems to have integrated well with the family and circle of friends of Big S. Even Xiao S couldn't help but say that the new brother-in-law was really good.
The divorce of Big S and wxf before made a lot of noise, and they dominated the screen on the Internet for several months, and now they each have their own stable partners and lives, and the past is also gone with the wind. No matter who was right and who was wrong at the beginning, or there was never an absolute right or wrong in marriage, the follow-up to the divorce of the two also let the majority of netizens see how luxurious and important it is to have a decent ex.
In this world, no marriage can guarantee 100% that will not change halfway, just like partners, when one day, two or both parties no longer need each other, it is time to get together and disperse. In this life, we have to walk a lot of roads, some roads are wide and straight, some roads are winding, and some roads are muddy, and not every section of the road is so smooth. If you have such open-mindedness, then every beginning and end of a marriage can be regarded as just the beginning of a part of your life or the need to change the path.
People with such thinking will have more control and say in their lives and marriages. Everyone's definition of happiness is also different, just like Big S, 45-year-old "old" married Korean artist Gu Junye, her bald image is not liked by the majority of Chinese netizens, she also reaped the happiness in her eyes.
The scenery of each part of life is different, and the happiness of marriage does not lie in the external vision, but more in the feelings in one's heart.
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Last month, 47-year-old Lin Chiling announced her postpartum comeback and appeared on social platforms to promote her new book "Just Right Elegance - Zhiling's Sister's Way of Cultivation". Judging from the activity photos, Lin Chiling is still in good shape, her skin is fair and firm, and she is in excellent condition.
Lin Chiling and her Japanese husband Ryohei Kurosawa chose to settle in Japan temporarily after getting married. Some time ago, the media broke the news that Lin Chiling chose to return to Taiwan to settle, and netizens thought that there was a crisis in her marriage with Kurosawa. It was later clarified that it turned out that Lin Chiling's mother, Ye Cibei, was not in good health, so she considered returning to Taiwan to settle down to take care of her parents. And her husband Kurosawa's career is currently mainly in Japan, so he will fly back and forth, and during this time, he is mainly with his wife and little baby, and the focus of his career is slowly tilting towards Taiwan.
It seems that this new family of three is still very happy. Netizens are accustomed to guessing whether they have encountered a marriage crisis from the idols' every move, but with Lin Chiling's super gold-absorbing ability, she chose to settle in Taiwan this time, in addition to the official disclosure that it is convenient to take care of her parents, it is more to facilitate the development of her postpartum career. After all, Lin Chiling as an artist, the market is mainly on the Chinese side, and Kurosawa Liangping's career is not as good as her, I believe this is also the result of the discussion and planning of the husband and wife.
If you don't talk about age, it's hard to believe that Lin Chiling is 47 years old, and she has maintained the appearance of the sister next door all these years.
Lin Chi-ling is 6 years older than Kurosawa Ryohei, and the two met in a stage play in 2011. At the end of 2018, when Lin Chiling was 44 years old, the two began to fall in love. In the summer of 2019, at the age of 45, she married Kurosawa, 38. After marriage, their road to seeking a child was very bumpy, Lin Chiling talked about that period in an interview, and she choked up tears, very sad, it is said that she tried IVF more than 10 times, and she was actively preparing for pregnancy during the time she disappeared, but fortunately, she finally gave birth to a son in January this year.
Because it is an advanced childbirth, after all, the physical function and state cannot be compared with young people, not only the recovery time is longer than that of ordinary mothers, but also often unable to take care of children, so she also suffered from mild depression after giving birth. But in many interviews, she mentioned her husband and children, praising her husband for being careful and responsible, taking good care of him, and being really lucky to have her husband by her side all the time.
Now, although she announced her postpartum comeback, she said that the focus must still be on family and raising children, and will not fight as hard as before.
A happy marriage is really never too late to start, and age is never a restriction on the pursuit of happiness.
By the way, Liang Yongqi, who previously wrote about tying the knot with Spaniard Sergio, and one of her best friends, 48-year-old Xu Ruyun, also married a Korean 9 years ago, and it was a flash marriage after 4 months of acquaintance. Xu Ruyun's husband is named Choi Jae-cheng, who is a senior executive of the SM advertising business department of a famous Korean economic company. The current marriage of the two is also very happy, but they have not chosen children. If you are interested, you can search for their stories.
epilogue
● Marriage and love have no borders, although everyone has different skin colors, different languages, and different cultures, but as "people", everyone's pursuit of happiness, stability, tolerance, kindness, understanding, tolerance, loyalty, trust, etc. is actually the same. We only have "people" first, then "Chinese", "Americans", "Koreans" ...
In the path of cross-border marriage, whether it is a celebrity or an ordinary person, most of them are very happy, but some are not so happy. Because there is no perfect happiness ratio, some people will think that the reasons for those who are not so happy must be caused by cultural and linguistic differences, etc. But cultural and linguistic differences indicate a reluctance to carry the pot.
Communication and getting along between people, whether between friends, lovers, spouses, seems to be dominated by language, but in fact, the fundamental factor that really plays a leading role and attracts people to continue to communicate and get along is reflected in language: life attitude, character, friendliness, cognition, tolerance, understanding, support and other internal qualities. In other words, only when people possess these qualities can they be embodied in language. If these qualities are not present, the language will correspondingly not reflect this aspect.
Some people who are accustomed to communicating and getting along with others in the same country, the same culture and the same language cannot believe how they can communicate and get along with foreigners smoothly after leaving the blessings of the same culture and language.
Scott Peck says in his book that most people close themselves off in their twenties and thirties and stop expanding their life map. In these combinations of cross-border marriage happiness, in addition to celebrities, there are more ordinary people around us, but they are not ordinary, they often dare to try new things, dare to explore new countries and cities. They also tend to be more positive, cheerful, firm and emotionally stable. As Qi Wei's husband, Lee Seung-hyun, said, the experience of traveling to different countries is also an investment in his future emotions.
So what is the root cause of happy marriage? Is it the same country, the same culture, the same language? No. The root cause of marital happiness is one's own strength plus the ability to manage intimate relationships and families. For those who have a single mind and often have a lot of negative emotions, they often do not have the ability to manage intimate relationships and families well, so whether they choose domestic marriage or transnational marriage, the result may be the same.
Whether in domestic or international marriages, happiness often occurs in people who are open-minded, optimistic, and have the ability to manage intimate relationships and families, whether men or women.
● Perhaps one of the ideas for making one's cross-border marriage happy is to let yourself experience more, see more, contact more, and after your thinking and mind become diverse and broad, the whole person will become more inclusive, and then have more cross-cultural and cross-language communication and getting along.
Therefore, our marriage happiness does not come from the same country, the same culture, the same language, but from our many excellent qualities and the ability to manage intimate relationships and families.
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