Studies have found that among equally intelligent and adaptable people, when encountering difficulties, some people are able to persevere to overcome them, while others are stagnant.
The fundamental reason is that the former is better able to carry things.
Being able to withstand things is the embodiment of a person's ability and the most scarce talent of a person.
It is said that a person's attitude when things happen hides the direction of his life.
How much a person can carry determines how far he can go.
People who can really carry things often have these three abilities: methodical work, open-mindedness, and resilience when difficult.
Those who can carry things have a methodical approach
Writer Suzen said: "People don't need to have so many advantages, they are talented." ”
A person who can carry things must have the rules and principles he adheres to.
People with their own principles have their own heaven and earth in their hearts, and they will not compromise for selfish interests or be trapped by human feelings.
Adhering to the principle of being a person and doing things is the confidence of a person to speak hard and do things openly, because they can withstand both tests and temptations.
Dong Mingzhu, chairman of Gree, is a person who is very principled and has a set of rules and regulations for doing things.
She has always believed that the company must lead by example, put an end to nepotism, and do not form gangs, even if she is scolded by others and said that the six relatives do not recognize it.
In the early days, Gree's electrical appliance business was extremely hot, and many dealers often could not get Gree's goods.
At that time, Dong Mingzhu was the director of Gree Electric Appliance Management, and the distributor in Wuhan sought help from Dong Mingzhu's brother in order to be able to get the goods first, and promised that there would be corresponding "hard work" afterwards.
My brother originally thought that things were stable, and happily found Dong Mingzhu to explain the situation, but unexpectedly, he was sternly rejected.
In a fit of anger, his brother wrote a letter of renunciation, and they have not interacted with each other for more than 20 years, even if his brother said that he wanted to remove her from the family tree, Dong Mingzhu never compromised.
What she did reassured the boss, the employees, and the collaborators reassured, in exchange for today's success.
Dong Mingzhu's resolute, tough, and uneasy way of doing things makes others describe her: the road she has walked will not grow grass.
As written in the book The Principle of Power:
"Your strength comes from your principles in life and life, and this power makes others feel your respect for the outside world and makes others respect you."
The principle that a person adheres to is the best business card he walks in the world.
Such people, no matter where they go, will become great things sooner or later, and they can withstand things in the face of crisis.
People with a big pattern know that keeping the bottom line is the foundation of a person's foothold in the world.
In reality, there are many people who, for their own selfish desires, disregard the law of propriety and act recklessly.
As everyone knows, this is the beginning of pushing yourself into the abyss, and in the end it will only be blamed for yourself and self-inflicted.
Only those who can keep the bottom line can go wider and wider in life.
There is a good saying: a person's attitude towards adherence to principles determines the state and height of his life.
Only by being measured, principled, doing something, not doing something, and having a ruler in mind can we be unfavorable.
It is the ability to carry things, and to say that one is the pattern.
Those who can carry things can withstand the tempering, keep their hearts, and go to the end with their own smiles.
People who can bear things are open-minded
On the road of life, there are many injustices and tribulations, and the difference in sad and happy attitudes depends on the perspective of looking at things.
Many times, being able to carry things is not to be able to pick it up, but to be able to put it down.
Writer Wang Zengqi is humorous and open-minded, and his pen is full of beauty and warmth in the world, but he also has a bitter past that few people know.
In middle age, he has traveled around and spent a bleak decade.
During the period of decentralization and rural transformation, Wang Zengqi, who was nearly 40 years old at the time, carried sacks on his shoulders, swept pigsties, and picked up large dung, and picked up all the dirty and tiring work that had fallen in the first half of his life.
Someone once asked him, "How did you survive those years?" ”
His answer was simple, just four words: "Follow the situation." ”
The best attitude towards life is to accept the best and bear the worst.
Yang Qi once said: "We used to yearn for the waves of fate so much, only to find out in the end that the most beautiful scenery in life is the calmness and calmness of our hearts." ”
Not complaining when things happen, being open-minded and not calculating is tolerant of others, but also for one's own fulfillment.
Open-minded, seemingly relaxed, but in fact, it is the transparency of the world after the fact, and the relief of walking to the end of the water.
Being a transparent and open-minded person, not being more truthful in everything, and being kind to yourself is the biggest counterattack to a life of suffering.
Saw such a news:
When a traffic policeman was on duty, he found a grandfather leisurely pedaling a tricycle, but the car was full of firewood, and a person and a dog were sitting on the firewood.
So I stopped the tricycle and asked the uncle, but I didn't expect to ask again and again, only to know the life of the uncle sighing:
The parents are gone, the wife is difficult to give birth and gone, the brother is gone, and the only relatives are the stupid brother and an old yellow dog on this tricycle.
The traffic police couldn't believe it, and continued to ask the uncle: These things are particularly painful for anyone, but I see that you were very happy just now, and why?
The uncle gestured forward with his hand and said, "Look forward, people always have to look forward!" ”
Fate treats him harshly, but he returns with magnanimity, which is the best interpretation of a person's self-life.
The world is suffering, life is just a hard resistance, integrate pain into the experience of life, and then with an optimistic and open-minded heart, continue to walk the road under your feet.
When you don't complain about things and don't dwell on the pain of loss, look ahead, and you will find that life is always gifted, and life is full of surprises.
British writer Thackeray said: "Life is a mirror, you laugh, it laughs; You cry, and it cries. ”
There are no desperate situations in the world, only people who despair of their situation; Life is never the way you live, it's the way you want to remember.
Most people who can carry things are open-minded, because they can accept all confusion, forgive all shortcomings, see through the truth of life, and continue to move forward lightly.
People who can bear things are resilient when it is difficult
There is a passage in "Island Bookstore": "In everyone's life, there are the most painful years that make life beautiful and vast. ”
Sometimes, when things happen, your life is destined to be full of ups and downs;
Hold on, and you'll find that suffering is just another synonym for grinding.
Chinese Canadian athlete Maggie McNeill was abandoned by her biological parents since she was a child and lives in a foreign country, but she never sells miserably, only desperately.
With swimming talent, she was also plagued by asthma at one time, and she did not choose to complain, but chose to fight silently, fight back, and write a chapter in her life.
Every day, I devote myself to swimming training programs, constantly challenge myself, complete self-transformation, and finally win the butterfly championship at the Olympic Games.
As Nietzsche said, "What does not destroy you makes you stronger." ”
Being able to carry things is not fearless, but that you are willing to face difficulties and persevere to the end, knowing that you feel pain.
People who can swallow bitterness silently into their stomachs often become more and more courageous, and they will turn all grievances into motivation to move forward.
This journey of life is full of obstacles and difficult to overcome, but if you work hard to the extreme, life will naturally pull you along.
The hardest time is often the closest to success; The wound hurts to the extreme, and it is precisely the beginning of healing.
How much you can carry it, how wonderful the rest of your life will be.
Jing Hao, the protagonist in the movie "Miracle Stupid Child", is a miracle stupid child who still lives and grows up tenacious in the face of suffering.
He was abandoned by his father, his mother died early due to illness, and his sister who was dependent on him suffered from congenital heart disease, in order to raise money for his sister's treatment, he took risks to borrow usury, wanted to start a business, but was repeatedly wounded.
But he was never defeated, never gave up, and did everything he could.
In the end, after a lot of hardships, he took the little people who also lived at the bottom and created his own company.
General Patton of the United States said:
"The measure of a person's success is not the height at which he has reached the top, but the rebound force of his fall to the bottom."
Tribulations make people grow, and only those who are indomitable in the vortex of life have the ability to walk the world and create their own brilliant life.
The really powerful people are those who can live the bad days in happiness, carry the critique of life, but the corners of their mouths are always up.
There are no obstacles that cannot be passed, there is no road that cannot be passed, and the real hero of life still chooses to love after seeing the truth of life.
In a bad life, tirelessly persist, waiting for you will be a life of peak turns.
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Bai Yansong once wrote this paragraph:
There will always be such a time in a person's life, your heart has been turned upside down, but in the eyes of others, you are just a little quieter than usual, no one will find it strange. This kind of war is doomed to go it alone.
Life is in the world, and no one is not stumbling and carrying the weight forward.
Being able to carry things in case of trouble is the confidence of self-recognition, and it is also a unique personality charm.
Only by doing things in a disciplined way and acting in a principled way can we have a bottom in our hearts and act steadily and far-reaching;
Be more open-minded and not disturbed by gains and losses, in order to live well in the moment and live yourself;
Have resilience in times of difficulty and do not escape when encountered, in order to be able to come to the extreme and be reborn in Nirvana.
Only in this way, after thousands of sails and tasting a hundred flavors, can we not mess with things, not be trapped in the heart, and be a true warrior in life.
Author: Jovy has a book