There is a saying in "Rhinoceros in Love": "A person can live on carbon dioxide, as long as she has love." ”
It is undeniable that a good relationship is the best companion in the journey of life for a person, and it is also the courage to support him to embrace a better life.
At each stage of the relationship, people's performance is not the same, just like a paragraph seen on the Internet, the two people who originally liked to eat roadside stalls, when they first met, in order to show each other the best side, so they chose to eat at high-end Western restaurants.
In order to show that she has a small appetite, the girl said that she was full after eating a small bite, and the boy was not embarrassed to eat more, and as a result, when the date ended, the two met again at the roadside stall.
When they first met, both sides would cover up their shortcomings and try to make themselves more perfect; when they got to know each other, they were not afraid of each other's shortcomings, and it seemed that each other felt better to be seen, and they were saved from hiding.
From the perspective of gradual deepening feelings, people are different in different degrees, and when a person loves you to the extreme, it will change.
Deep love is panic
I like to see this sentence in The Reader: "Love to the depths is panic, because life and death are impermanent, and it is impossible to make up for it; but after panic is deep love, because only love lasts, and only love heals." ”
In fact, the most beautiful love in the world is like this, on the one hand, afraid of loss and parting, on the other hand, it is especially cherished at this moment of encounter and companionship.
When I watched "Journey to the West" when I was a child, I only thought that the exaggerated places were very interesting as adults laughed; when I grew up and looked back, I felt that the ten thousand-year promise of love was still short-lived for each other.
Of course, the panic mentioned here is not a worry about feelings, which is obviously two different things.
The so-called panic is only a kind of inner point to oneself, so it should be called "sober", always telling yourself the existence of love; but worry is a kind of externalized lack of self-confidence, which will be manifested as distrust of the other party and doubts about feelings.
So, what happens when a person loves to the extreme? There are three main signs of change to follow.
First, I want to share more family chores with you
I've always believed that men's commitment to housework is an obligation, not an extra help to the family.
The more people who love each other deeply, the more they will feel that the trivial matters between life should always be borne, because there is never anything that the other party is naturally responsible for, and there is nothing that they cannot take the initiative to bear.
A friend Xiao Chen, met his current wife in high school, the two went through a series of processes such as high school, college, finding a job, and stability, and finally received a certificate at the beginning of this year.
Xiao Chen's wife has always been that kind of slightly fat girl, and she can obviously see the little tiger teeth when she laughs, which is very cute.
After the two got married, Xiaochen's wife was preparing for pregnancy at home, so she began to contract various housework at home, and sometimes Xiaochen said that when he left work, his wife would also complete it in the gap between boredom.
Interesting things happened, it was during that time that the minister began to leave work on time, rushing to the car after work, and not getting together with colleagues and friends after work.
The reason is simple, in order to get home as quickly as possible, and then before the wife acts, the family work is done as much as possible.
In Xiao Chen's view, the position in a family is not determined by who earns money and who supports the family, but depends on whether you really trust the other party.
People who are truly willing to give love will take out their time unconditionally and then use it in family chores.
Bad habits are slowly worn away in getting along
Singer Zheng Jun invited his close friend Liao Yimei when participating in "Lu Yu Has a Date", and in the program, Liao Yimei said that he was surprised that Zheng Jun did not hold a wedding, and felt that Zheng Jun had indeed changed a lot.
After marrying Liu Yun, Zheng Jun's temper has obviously converged, and what is particularly unexpected is that such a young and unruly teenager will show a unique iron man tenderness to his son, which is not admirable, and the original love is so deep that people can have the determination to change themselves.
In our lives, we will meet some people, facing others better than their families, they will throw a lot of negative emotions to their lovers, and say that "in front of the people they love will show their true selves."
In fact, in the end, it is still not enough to love, because it is not enough to love, so I feel that I can hurt.
I heard my mother tell me about some things after she married my father, when my mother was pregnant with me, and my body became particularly sensitive, and I couldn't stand it as long as there was any strange smell, especially the smell of tobacco and alcohol.
When dad was young, he smoked very badly, probably because he always watched his dad smoke, so he always had that addiction.
However, seeing that my mother was so uncomfortable, one night, my father suddenly decided to quit smoking, at first my mother thought that he was just talking, but later I found out that my father did it.
Until now, Dad had never smoked or gone out to get drunk with friends, as he said, "If you want to go out and spend money on haysers, let a few of you eat well at home."
I like the saying: "Don't think that a person will change for no reason, when he changes, it is because he wants to change".
When people meet people they really love, they will take the initiative to correct their own stinky problems, and this change is often the most direct and touching.
No matter how long the wait, it will become the most beautiful expectation
I remember that some time ago, Li Shaofen waited on the basketball court for the GIF of Academician Zhong Nanshan to spread throughout the circle of friends, and everyone lamented the sincere feelings of the two.
Indeed, deeply loving a person, no matter how long the wait is worth it, it will accumulate in continuous thoughts, and gradually become the most beautiful expectation.
I remember once going to Ergu's house to play, and inadvertently being fed a large amount of dog food, when our family and Ergu's family were ready to go skiing together on the nearby snowy mountains.
At that time, three cars were prepared, and when they were about to leave, the eldest brother shouted: "Wait a minute, my mother has not yet gotten on the bus!" ”
As soon as the voice dropped, the second uncle said in the back: "Look at my memory, the tire of my car was pierced by glass yesterday, and I haven't checked if there is any problem." ”
After saying that, he went to get the spare tire in the garage, and everyone who wanted to go to the second aunt stopped to see if there was a problem with the car.
After the second uncle checked it again, he smiled and said, "Oh, I don't know what it is, is this unfortunate, or lucky, this car has a problem at this time, it may be delayed for the time being." ”
After saying that, he went to discuss with my parents, walked two cars first, and then he repaired the car and immediately changed it.
In this way, we first went to the snowy mountain, and the second aunt and uncle came later, and on the way, the eldest brother was full of doubts, because the car had not been used at all during this time.
After my parents listened, they looked at each other and smiled, adding a "knowledge point" - some things are broken, and it is the best.
Deeply love a person, only willing to use all kinds of excuses to wait for her, in various ways to love her, when we meet the person we love to the extreme, we will also look forward to her appearance in waiting.