I saw such an article "70-year-old couple celebrates the birthday of their 3-year-old daughter", 70-year-old mother, 71-year-old father, 3-year-old daughter, it is reported that the girl's mother unexpectedly became pregnant naturally more than three years ago and gave birth to her smoothly. Caused a discussion among netizens, all parties have different views, in short, divided into the following two factions:
One: Wish the baby a happy birthday and wish the two elderly people a healthy and long life.
Two: As parents, if you can, please think more about your children.
I once read the saying: "Life is nothing more than constantly picking up and choosing, there is no absolute right or wrong, only absolute choice". We are not parties to this incident, and if we can, we hope not to bring too much subjective consciousness to attack or encourage this phenomenon. Everyone has their own choices, once you make a choice, no matter what awaits you ahead, you must go firmly and don't think about what it would be like if you chose another path, those things are only things that should be considered before making a choice, and no matter how you imagine after the choice, it is redundant.
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The original text of the incident was that the 70-year-old couple planned to live to 110 years old in order to take care of their young daughter, and in the case of the incident, giving birth to a super-elderly woman is also a great risk, and the pressure can be imagined. Use this event to bring us to the topic we will discuss "young parents of old children".
Since the opening of the second child, the main force that actively responds to the call is the poor, the post-70s and post-80s, while the post-90s generation has a relatively low willingness to have a second child. Then, more "old parents" and young children's family combinations are created. Let's review, why open the second child?
I think that the opening of a second child is nothing more than the following reasons:
First, the current phenomenon of population aging is relatively serious
Second, the proportion of the population is gradually declining
Third: the imbalance between men and women
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Today we will talk about some of the more important phenomena that exist in "cub old parents".
Do parents spoil their children too much?
It is said that the four happy events in life are nothing more than a long drought and manna, other places meet old knowledge, the cave room flower candle night, when the gold list is inscribed, for the old and the son, I believe that whether it is ancient times or now, it is definitely a great happy event. In various TV series, you can see that you are old and have children, and the excitement of parents is full of words. Not to mention the old age, for the younger children, the family is unable to pamper, causing the children to be unscrupulous. The plot of grandparents and grandparents pampering their grandchildren too much can be seen everywhere in TV dramas.
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Aside from the TV plot, there are many examples of old children in our village, the difference between the smallest and the larger ones is more than ten years, there is very little communication between the children alone, and the ones who can talk together are relatively small. For the difference is okay, it can be directly imagined that the eldest son and eldest daughter, who are already a little unbalanced, have to take care of the younger ones at all times, a sentence Since ancient times, the big ones let the small ones, and the eldest brothers are like fathers and sisters-in-law are like mothers.
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There must be excessive coddling, but the degree of coddling is inconsistent. Thinking about this matter in the long run, there is resentment between children because of the partiality of their parents, if there are only brothers and sisters left, can they still help each other with all their might?
Does the parents' knowledge reserve keep up with the pace of the times, can the bear child be convinced?
Could there be such a phenomenon in reality? The answer is yes, I have personally seen a child scare his "old parents", you don't know as much, the writing is not as good as mine, you still teach me!
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Of course, I believe that the emergence of this phenomenon is inseparable from the previous phenomenon of "coddling". For the education of children, this is a very real problem, compared to those young parents who are just at the pace of the times:
Unable to guide children in time, while cultivating family affection; Unable to strictly regulate children's bad behavior and be "ruthless"; At the same time, there may be another phenomenon, when holding parent-teacher meetings, attracting different eyes from other children, and showing a little difficulty when teachers assign various tasks to parents.
However, there are no absolutes, and it can only be said that most of them will have these problems.
So, can the bear child still be convinced? The answer is obvious.
Can parents accompany their children from a young age to a family?
The biggest pressure is that the child has just reached adulthood and ushered in a series of things that need the help of others. At this time, the parents are old, all kinds of irresistible factors have come, and no one can guarantee that they will be old and strong when they are old. Try to ask, if the parents are physically unwell and need a large amount of money when the child himself is unable to do anything, isn't that worse?
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One of the most powerless things in the world must be to find your pockets empty when you need money, and you can only watch your heart twist like a knife. Of course, when that distant moment of decision comes, I believe that parents will plan ahead. We can't predict the future, so we can only carry the weight and try to help the child do more things.
May all the families of "young parents and old parents" be prosperous and prosperous.