"All love at first sight is just a lust." I've heard this phrase a long time ago, and now I agree with it even more. Not only that, but I also have a new perspective on love.
People nowadays like to talk about love, as if love is something eternal. In fact, love has not always existed, let alone always existed, and it can even be said that love is just a nice name given to human desire for themselves.
A guy sees a beautiful and sexy girl and likes her. She also liked him. Such feelings are called "love". In fact, he just likes to "on" her, and she doesn't reject it.
The so-called love is only the result of human beings secreting hormones in order to reproduce. The so-called fierce love is just an excess of hormone secretion.
People nowadays find it difficult to imagine a marriage without love. But a hundred or two hundred years ago, there was no place for love in marriage. People don't marry for love, but for something else.
For ancient Chinese, the first task of marriage was to produce offspring, so that there would be someone to offer incense after their death. Because in Chinese's concept, if no one offers incense, they will become a lonely soul and wild ghost, which is a very terrible thing. Therefore, there is a saying that "no filial piety has three, and no future is greater". For ancient Europeans, the main purpose of marriage was to have descendants inherit property. At that time, in the East and West, love was not necessary for marriage, but they all paid attention to the right door.
Most of Chinese had never seen each other before they got married, and they didn't know what each other looked like until they spent candlelight night in the cave room. Is there love in such a marriage? Does Ruth in "Titanic" have love with her fiancé?
Ancient Chinese literati doctors who wanted to find love could only go to the land of fireworks, so there were many ji in China; The nobility of Europe wants to find love, and only to find a lover, so Europe has many lovers. And this so-called love is only to cast a veil of affection on their desires and make their behavior less naked.
Today's people say that you need love to go to bed or get married, but they just say that the person I am looking for is at least what I want to have a relationship with.
People love to say that "marriage is the grave of love", but will love not disappear without marriage? In fact, love is a consumable, the shelf life is terribly short, as long as there is no freshness, love disappears, and it has nothing to do with whether to marry or not. It is more appropriate to say that "time is the grave of love".
The current monogamous marriage system is only developed by human beings to facilitate management. In fact, it is an anti-human system. For all animals, the best strategy to survive in the survival of the fittest is to have sex with as many opposite sexes as possible, and the current institution of marriage precisely limits this human instinct.
With the disintegration of the traditional concept of inheritance and the emancipation of human thought, the current marriage system will inevitably collapse. The ever-increasing divorce and cheating rates are a signal.
What are your thoughts on love and marriage? Welcome to discuss.
