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Every time I watch "Do You Know", I see Minglan living a difficult life in the Hou Mansion, and I can't help but fantasize: If Minglan marries He Hongwen, will life be smoother?
After all, He Hongwen is the only son in the family, his mother has been ill in bed for a long time, only his grandmother helps the housekeeper at home, the He family has a simple interpersonal relationship, there are not so many aunts and sisters-in-law to deal with, and marrying is the head mother who holds real power.
But after reading the original work, I found out how difficult the marriage road of ancient women was.
Whether Minglan marries He Hongwen or Gu Tingye, marriage is not destined to be an easy road.
If Minglan marries He Hongwen, they will probably live a lifetime of respect and respect, but Minglan will not be sincere to the He family's brother, and the He family involves the Cao family, and Minglan's life will not be so easy.
The He family knows that the Cao family is not a good stubble, why would they rather give up marrying Minglan than accept Cao Jinxiu?
01. Soft-heartedness is both good and bad
The Sheng family made an appointment with the He family, and after the mourning of the country, the He family officially went to the Sheng family to hire. For this reason, He Hongwen also invited He Mu from Baishi Tan.
Who knows, the He family has not waited for the day of hiring, but in the middle of the way, they killed a Cao family who had been exiled for thousands of miles.
He Hongwen, who originally fell in love with Minglan at first sight, was shaken after seeing Cousin Cao.
At that time, the Cao family was exiled, and now he can return to his homeland with the grace, but his cousin Cao was taken in as a concubine by an officer during the exile.
Not only that, Cousin Cao was also poured with safflower soup by the officer's head lady, and if you drink too much, you can't give birth.
If you want to go back in the future and find a good family again, I am afraid that it will be impossible again, so the Cao family decided to rely on the He family.
And He Hongwen and Cao Jinxiu grew up together, not to mention whether there is love, at least childhood friendship.
Looking at the pitiful Cao Jinxiu, He Hongwen's heartstrings were plucked.
Therefore, when Cousin Cao knelt on the ground to ask Minglan, He Hongwen would be so overwhelmed and even throw the problem to Minglan.
Many people feel that He Hongwen is not assertive, and if he can make up his mind at the beginning and properly arrange Cousin Cao, he will not lose Minglan.
But after rebrushing whether you know it or not, you will find that He Hongwen is not without ideas, but he has expectations in his heart.
As Minglan said to her grandmother: "Staying with others, in the end, depends on the lowest place of character." The lowest point of Brother Hongwen is at most soft-hearted. ”
He Hongwen couldn't help but soften when he saw Cousin Cao begging for himself.
When Cousin Cao knelt on the ground and begged Minglan to give her a way to live, He Hongwen, like Cousin Cao, longed for his future head mother to be magnanimous and allow her cousin to pass through the door.
This will not only fulfill his affection for the Cao family, but also solve his dilemma.
Who knows, He Hongwen's inaction forced Minglan to say: "I want to marry Langjun, if the most important thing in my heart is not me, then I would rather never marry for the rest of my life." I don't swallow this bowl of raw rice either. ”
Minglan tactfully threw the question back to He Hongwen.
At this time, he had to choose between Minglan and his cousin.
When the decision is not in one's own hands, anyone can become that kind gentleman.
Once you have to choose between the two, there is a trade-off between the pros and cons, and humanity is exposed.
Human instinct is to seek advantage and avoid harm, and even the most good person will make the choice that is most beneficial to him.
Therefore, those girls who are truly in love hope to maintain a little rationality and carefully choose their future lives before making a choice.
02. The unclear-minded mother is the root cause of the destruction of marriage
In fact, He Hongwen wants to marry Minglan because Old Mrs. He takes a fancy to Minglan, and she thinks that Minglan is a capable woman who can help He Hongwen manage the family well in the future.
As the saying goes, if you marry a wife, you should marry a virtuous.
He Hongwen wants to marry a good wife, and Minglan wants to marry a husband with simple interpersonal relationships, and there is no problem in taking what he needs.
But He Hongwen's mother is a weak person.
In the original work, Old Mrs. He hated the Cao family in her heart, and if it weren't for He's mother's face to endure three points, she would have driven the Cao family back to her hometown long ago.
But Cousin Cao begged Minglan unsuccessfully, and Aunt Cao began to play the family card against Mother He, coaxing Mother He to beg her mother-in-law Old Mrs. He: "Mother, I think about it, my daughter-in-law is still good for Ming Ya... However, before my sister left, she begged me again, saying that it was good to ask Jin'er to be a side room. Mother, what do you say? ”
Old Mrs. He was angry on the spot: "We can't climb the daughters of high-door big households, low-door small households are not good, ordinary people's daughters can't get on the table, you have picked it yourself, is there anything more appropriate than Minglan?"
Father and brother are officials in the dynasty, the family is rich, although they are daughters, their appearance and temperament are first-class, and they are also loved by their fathers, brothers and sisters-in-law at home, and she was brought up by my old sister, and in the future, your family of three will live alone, and she can also take care of housework, take care of her mother-in-law, and assist her husband-in-law.
I have seen it for so many years, it is the most suitable for the Ming girl, and the Cao family will come out with a moth here! Being a concubine? Hum! The daughter-in-law hasn't entered the door yet, but even the concubine room is ready, I don't have the face to talk to my old sister! ”
Old Mrs. He's words made Mother He see the power clearly, but she was still relieved to let go of the Cao family and wiped her tears again.
Old Mrs. He said coldly: "Looking for a house, for the family, for the errands, everyone who should help is helped, can it be that you have to manage the Cao family for a lifetime?" Also, you sew my fingers together!
The family business I divided from the eldest and second eldest is for Brother Hong'er to start a family in the future, and I didn't ask you to subsidize the Cao family.
Son and the Cao family, you share the weight! The Cao family has men, sons, hands and feet, can it be that the family is called the He family to support it? In this world, there is only emergency rescue, not poverty!
At this time, I will take charge of the property for you, and when I swallow my breath, according to such a soft son as you, if you don't find a reliable granddaughter-in-law, maybe these are all surnamed Cao! I'll make it clear to you, in the end, it's you begging for your daughter-in-law, you think for yourself! ”
Old Mrs. He's words were very harsh, which shocked Mother He's heart, and she knew that she would never dare to say more about the Cao family to her mother-in-law.
It's a pity that He's mother obviously knows that the Cao family and the He family are powerful, but she is still ruthless, and finally she ran to pray for her son to accept Cao Jinxiu, and He Hongwen is also a solid soft-hearted person as Minglan said.
A good marriage, but because of He's mother's confusion, his life was ruined.
However, for Minglan, not being able to marry the He family is not necessarily a bad thing.
As Minglan said: "No matter what, there is a Cao Jinxiu inserted between them after all, and she exists after all." ”
In the end, He Hongwen still didn't love Minglan enough, or even said he didn't love it.
Instead of spending your life with someone you don't love, slow down and wait for the right person.
Life is short, why bother yourself!
03. Instead of letting it go, it's better to stay by your side and watch it
In fact, Minglan did a lot of mental construction in order to marry into the He family.
As long as He Hongwen does not accept Cao Jinxiu as a concubine, she can help him properly dispose of the Cao family.
But He Hongwen couldn't let go of Cao Jinxiu, and said to Minglan: "It is true that I regard my cousin as my own sister, and I have never the slightest personal relationship between men and women, but the matter has come to this, I can't watch her die, so I can only wronged you."
However, Sister Ming must believe that the He family is just a safe place for her cousin, she can have food and clothing without worry, but also... That's all! ”
Ming Lan shook her head gently: "Believe it or not, it's not to listen to what you say, but to see how you do it." ”
He Hongwen's heart was full of apprehension: "That day I went to see my cousin, she was so thin that she was so thin that she had a bone left, she only waited for me with a breath, she couldn't even speak, she only begged me with her eyes, I was weak and useless, I couldn't harden my heart, so I agreed."
Sister Ming, if she dies like this, she will become a lump, and it will be in my heart for the rest of my life, so that I will always remember her... I... I don't want to keep thinking about her, I should only have my wife in my heart! ”
Therefore, whether the person He Hongwen finally marries is Minglan or not, Cao Jinxiu will be a burden that he cannot shake off in his life.
If He Hongwen does not take Cao Jinxiu in, and Cao Jinxiu dies because of him, then she will become a knot that he will not be able to untie in his life.
Instead of this, it is better to keep Cao Jinxiu by his side, guard her, and keep her safe for a lifetime, which can be regarded as worthy of his conscience.
But in this way, Cao Jinxiu will become the third person in the relationship between He Hongwen and his future wife.
No matter what kind of decision, choosing to marry He Hongwen will not get complete care and love, because it is destined to be a road full of thorns.
Therefore, when Minglan learned that Gu Tingye had gone to great lengths to set up a situation in order to marry her, she agreed without hesitation.
A person who truly loves you, he will not put you in an awkward situation.
Instead, he will stand in front of you to solve your problems and make you no longer burdened.
To find out if a person has you in his heart, don't look at what he says, but look at what he does.
Words deceive, but actions do not.
If he has you in his heart, he will always pay attention to your emotions and not let you suffer a little grievance.
Even if it is not done properly, it will be explained reasonably afterwards.
Judging from He Hongwen's attitude towards Minglan, he can't feel that he has love in his heart.
This just proves that Minglan's choice is right.