Author: Nanfeng Editor: Li Jin
Source: Journal of Marriage and Family
Small long bridges, emerald green lotus ponds.
Accompanied by a burst of rhythmic music, a tall man jumped and jumped in the blue water and blue sky, full of energy.
Netizens took a closer look, only to find that this is actually Teacher Liu Hegang. No wonder netizens are full of surprise, after all, they are accustomed to seeing Liu Hegang standing on the stage like a green pine on weekdays, and the typhoon is dignified and atmospheric.
Unexpectedly, he had such a cute and grounded side under the stage.
Netizens have left messages:
"I thought you were just a singer, but you were still a dancer."
"The male god is always so handsome."
More netizens simply gave a thumbs up to show that they loved love:
"Teacher Liu is so good, filial piety to parents, love wife, love family, love children, and love everyone!"
Mention the name Liu Hegang, people's minds will surely ring those familiar and moving melodies:
"My old father, the person I love the most, there are ten points of sweetness in the world, and you have only tasted three points..."
A song "Father" was sung into the hearts of the Chinese people, so that the Chinese father, who was quiet but deeply in love, has a vivid image since then.
Father Music: Liu Hegang - Long love road
"Holding my mother's hand, tears flowing down, those hands, although rough, but she is the most gentle..."
A song "Mother" expresses endless gratitude and deep respect for the mother for the children of the whole world.
Mother Music: Liu Hegang
"A thousand miles of road, I did not take a step, I saw tears flowing in my mother's eyes..."
A song "Children Travel a Thousand Miles", which makes people cry and sings the voices of many wandering wanderers outside.
Children's Journey Music: Liu Hegang - Father
Liu Hegang, who was born as a bitter child, now has a successful career, his parents are healthy, and he has also married Miss World, who is 10 years younger than himself, and his children are complete.
How did he step by step from a dilapidated mountain village to the art stage, and the fire spread all over the country?
01
The mother's love is selfless, and the waist disease is not cured to save money for him to study
Liu Hegang was born on November 26, 1977, in a small village in Qiqihar City, Heilongjiang Province.
There are two older sisters on it, and he is the youngest child in the family.
In Liu Hegang's childhood memories, there is both the heartache and pain of facing the loess and facing the sky, and the simple joy of listening to folk songs and minor tunes.
The song was casually hummed by the mother while she was working.
Although her education level is not high, she is extremely talented in singing, and she has also inherited a good voice to Liu Hegang.
Under the influence of his mother, Liu Hegang fell in love with singing at a very young age, and after going to school, he liked music very much, and won the first prize in the singing competition in junior high school, which was famous in the township.
But the conditions at home are too poor, and there is only 300 yuan of income a year of hard work.
Therefore, 4 yuan of harmonica and 26 yuan of semiconductors are already the greatest support that poor parents can give to their sons.
Liu Hegang is very sensible, understands the difficulties of his parents, and never complains.
But the mother was unwilling, she spent all day planting crops and doing farm work, bent on saving money to support her son's pursuit of dreams.
However, long-term hard work destroyed her mother's health, and she fell into the problem of lumbar tuberculosis, so serious that her bones were gray.
Doctors demanded that she be hospitalized quickly, otherwise it would be difficult to cure her if she missed the opportunity.
But where her mother was willing to spend money, she refused to be treated, and only bought painkillers to return home.
In order to reassure the child, she gritted her teeth and grabbed a wooden stick, and trembled and got up from the kang, looking like she had recovered from her illness.
However, an early school break allowed Liu Hegang to discover his mother's secret.
The mother, who said she was cured, couldn't stand up at all. Cooking and burning firewood, she had to lie on the ground and move little by little with difficulty.
Liu Hegang came from sorrow, crying to quit school and stay at home to take care of his mother.
The mother suddenly became angry and snapped at him, "If I delay school, my mother will die for you to see!" ”
Liu Hegang endured heartache, choked on tears, and secretly vowed to study well.
After some hard work, he got an acceptance letter from the Heilongjiang Provincial Art School.
However, the tuition fee of 7,000 yuan a year is like a hypnotic charm, which whitens his father's head overnight.
The filial piety of Liu Hegang decided not to study.
The thin mother once again spoke firmly, "Even if you smash the pot and sell iron, you will also read it." ”
Maternal love is the warm sunlight above your head when you are deep in darkness; It is a strong support behind the hard climb.
As Liu Hegang later sang in the song "Mama":
"It was you who lifted up my ambition, and I had the ambition to break into the world." It was you who riveted enough for me, so that I was not afraid of the wind and rain. ”
Call a mother, call a mother.
Because with her, I am not afraid to go anywhere.
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Father's love is deep, and he would rather cut off his fingers than let him quit school
Fortunately, with the help of 47 villagers in the village, Liu Hegang barely managed to make up for the tuition and successfully entered the school.
And the father, did not breathe a sigh of relief.
The debt had to be repaid, the son's tuition had to be paid, and he worked hard day and night.
As a result, due to excessive fatigue, the little finger of the left hand was rolled into the tractor, causing a comminuting fracture.
In order to save 3,000 yuan in medical expenses, he directly sawed off his broken finger.
Blessings are incomparable, and misfortunes are not alone.
The following year, the tired father broke the little finger of his right hand again.
Liu Hegang ran home when he heard the news, crying loudly in pain, but his father comforted him: "Don't worry about me, just go to school well." ”
After 4 years of art school, my father paid two little fingers.
This incident has become Liu Hegang's pain and regret for his father's life, and it has become the source of his strength to work hard.
Some love, so thick and deep that you can't say it, then use songs to confess.
"Thinking about your back, I feel tough. Touching your hands, I felt the hardship.
In 2006, Liu Hegang won the gold medal in the ethnic group of the Qingge Competition with a song "Father", and received the highest score in history, which no one has surpassed so far.
With a career improvement, Liu Hegang took his parents from his hometown for the first time to take care of them at any time.
But parents do not adapt to urban life, the body frequently appears in condition, high blood lipids and high blood pressure together to find the door.
Liu Hegang was so anxious that he couldn't sleep at night, looking around for medical treatment.
Until the end, he was instructed by a famous doctor to rent a piece of land on the outskirts of Beijing and let his parents cultivate the land like they did in their hometown.
Unexpectedly, since working in the small vegetable field every day, my parents' illness has slowly improved.
Liu Hegang finally breathed a sigh of relief. However, parents seem to still have concerns.
When will the son's lifelong event be solved? When will the bird of love arrive?
03
Couples who know how to be grateful, the marriage will not be too bad
In July 2009, The teacher who has always admired Liu Hegang introduced a girl named Zhan Yang to the elderly single.
The girl has an extraordinary temperament, can sing and dance, and also participated in the selection contest of Miss World.
At the first sight of her, Liu Hegang glanced at ten thousand years.
The two had known each other for more than a month, and he was always shy, and he said to Zhan Yang without shyness, "Believe it or not, we will get married on 'Eleven'." ”
As a result, his enthusiasm frightened Zhan Yang into ignoring him for weeks.
In order to reassure Zhan Yang, Liu Hegang flew directly to Zhan Yang's home to meet his future mother-in-law and tell his life experience and account.
In the face of Liu Hegang's sincerity and honesty, Zhan Yang's mother told her daughter that the man who is down-to-earth and filial piety is very reliable, and it is right to marry.
In this way, after only 3 months and 3 days of acquaintance, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang were licensed to marry.
Just at that time, Zhan Yang won the second place in the Chinese division in the 59th Miss World Selection Contest, and had the opportunity to represent China.
But in order to form a stable family, she voluntarily gave up the title of Miss World and returned to the family.
From this, Liu Hegang deeply felt the deep love behind this abandonment.
In order to leave Zhan Yang with a lifelong unforgettable memory, Liu He just held a grand wedding and set the theme as "Me and you, love flying".
He also wrote a special song "A Lifetime Together", pouring out the promise of a lifetime.
"A lifetime of love, two hearts, no regrets in this life..."
However, romance in love always meets pots and pans after marriage.
Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang were also unhappy because of various disharmonies in their living habits.
But after a period of running-in, the two people still found the best way to get along.
In 2012, the two ushered in the birth of their son.
A few years later, the youngest daughter was ushered in, and a "good" word was formed.
In the whole process of Zhan Yang's production, Liu Hegang has been waiting aside, and has seen his wife's pain and difficulty.
At the moment when the child was born, Liu He just burst into tears, and he knew that he would give back to his wife with a hundred times more love.
His wife missed her grandmother, who had taken care of herself since she was a child, so he would not travel far and wide to pick up the old man, accompany the old man to nag, and eat the food handed by the old man.
Zhan Yang's father died early, and it was not easy for her mother to raise her alone, Liu Hegang took his mother-in-law to live with him, and called her "beautiful girl" sweetly every day to make the old man happy.
Because Liu Hegang is too busy at work, the burden of raising children and supporting the elderly is all on Zhan Yang.
He was very distressed, so he confessed to his wife all the time and thanked her for her dedication to the family.
At the same time, Liu Hegang also took the initiative to slow down the pace of work and strive to reduce the burden on his wife.
Zhan Yang has grown more under the influence of Liu Hegang.
Once she was not good at expressing, there is love only buried in the heart, driven by her husband, she learned to express in time, there is love to boldly say it, the family atmosphere has become more and more harmonious.
04
Knowing gratitude is the most beautiful family style
As the old saying goes, "It is easy to go from frugality to luxury, and it is difficult to go from luxury to frugality".
Liu and Gang are an exception.
After going through hardships and hardships, after he achieved fame, instead of extravagant and wasteful, he deeply felt that a happy life was not easy to come by and cherished more and more.
Liu Hegang rarely travels by luxury car, and picking up and dropping off children is either by subway or bus.
He rarely uses luxury goods, and everything in the house is used repeatedly, and a razor can be used for 8 years.
Under the influence of his education, the two children were simply dressed and had simple personalities.
They want to buy gifts for grandma and grandpa, not to reach out to their parents for money, but to pick up scraps with their own hands for money to buy.
In ordinary days, Liu Hegang has deeply penetrated the attitude of gratitude into the bone marrow.
He thanked his neighbors for their help, put lights on the village, built roads, built squares, and worked hard to help solve various problems.
He was grateful for the help of the teachers along the way, visited and greeted him from time to time, and did not forget to exert his own strength and strive to promote the younger generations.
His every move was watched by the child.
Every day when the children went to and from school, they would take the initiative to salute the teacher and the uncle of the security guard.
Liu Hegang, on the other hand, must take a day a week to take his children to visit his parents, wash the feet of his parents with limited mobility when he has time, and firmly hold his mother's hand when he goes out.
The children are very filial.
They followed dad's example and washed their grandparents' feet.
There are good things to eat at home, and they must be left to parents and elders first.
One night, Liu He just got up to find that his son had not yet slept, and took a mop to wipe the floor in the bathroom.
When asked, I learned that the child was afraid that there was water on the ground for his father to wrestle...
Cai Yuanpei once wrote in "The Cultivation of Chinese": The family, the school at the beginning of life. The character of a lifetime, the so-called ever-changing one, is mostly embryonic in the family.
A good family style is better than tens of millions of famous schools.
Teaching by example is undoubtedly the best gift that Liu Hegang gave to his children.
Liu Hegang once wrote such a sentence on Weibo:
"Crying is not life, laughing is not life, crying and laughing is not life." After the tempering of life, the strong strengthen themselves, and the weak self-destruct. Life is not bumpy, there is no color, and the wonderful journey must be full of thorns. ”
A few words, a lot of heart.
In the chaotic life of soldiers, his heart was crushed and he stumbled, but he always smiled and accepted, persevered in danger, regarded the ups and downs as stepping stones, and illuminated the road ahead with his inner light.
In the end, he bid farewell to the confusion of "drawing his sword and looking around at the dazedness" and ushered in the spring of "blowing away the wild sand and starting to gold".
In this life, no one's success is waiting for it, and everything must rely on their own hard work.
May you and I all be like Liu Hegang, in the upgrade of fighting monsters again and again, surviving the tempering of fate, looking for a way out to find vitality, and reaching the other side of life.
Resources:
1. The inheritor of the "Northeast Folk Song King" Guo Song hand-picked, singer Liu Hegang is an unknown side of the folk song Chinese
2. Vocal Music Department: Liu Hegang's "Father" sings and cries everyone: loosen the throat, naturally bite the word, and the song can "have flesh and blood"!
3. Liu Hegang: Composing a song of success in setbacks, a folk song in China
4. Liu Hegang Weibo account
5. Liu Hegang Douyin account