Recently, the news of actor Wang Dong's domestic violence wife has been stirred up, so that the word "domestic violence" has once again entered the public's attention.
News of Wang Dong's abusive wife
Speaking of Wang Dong, you may not be familiar with it, but when it comes to the popular TV series "All Is Good", you are certainly not unfamiliar, Wang Dong is the actor of "Liu Qing" in that drama.
Wang Dong as Liu Qing
In the drama of "All Is Good", Wang Dong showed his good acting skills.
In order to chase this literary and artistic handsome, mature male god full of hormones, I once watched the drama without landing on the ground.
His humorous and funny personality in the play and the image of the iron brother-like guardian heroine make me not associate with his future "domestic violence man".
However, it is often after the broken filter can we truly see the nature of a person.
According to a video posted by Wang Dong's wife on social platforms, Wang Dong violently kicked his wife with his feet and hit his wife with a chair and a bed board.
Wang Dong's wife abused at home
After seeing this masochistic video, my heart ached like thousands of ants nibbling at the same time.
As a woman, I don't know how she endured the weak and helpless woman at that time.
The physical strength of men and women is inherently disparate.
When the Creator first created man, his intention was never to let man's strength be used to beat a woman. And the delicate woman did not exist for that fist.
However, "domestic violence" occurs so frequently.
Initially, the contact with the word "domestic violence" was learned in the well-known TV series "Don't Talk to Strangers".
Anjiahe
That is the shadow of our childhood, but also the nightmare of the majority of female compatriots.
The surgeon in the cloak of human skin, Anjiahe, with a vicious face and a twisted personality, still creepy to this day.
His fist, as stiff as Wang Dong's, smashed into Mei Xiangnan, who had no power to bind the chicken, countless times.
If television shows only part of domestic violence, how cruel the real reality should be.
Why has toughness become exclusive to men who do not lack strength?
Why is weakness an excuse that women cannot resist?
If, for the first time, when you suffer domestic violence, you will fight back without hesitation;
If, for the first time, you firmly say no to the first abuse, won't those poor tragedies happen less?
I have wondered countless times, if one day, I am also caught in this unknown beating, will I not hesitate to pick up the bench and smash it back when he is tired? Will it be exchanged for his more vicious revenge?
We were also delicate flowers, and we were also the pearls in the palms of our parents.
My father was reluctant to slap his face, and how hard he became the territory of others' violence. -
A while ago, a video of a vegetarian also made us terrified.
Shaanxi Wang Moufei's abusive wife
This is a video of a father blatantly abusing his wife in front of his children.
In the video, the man punches and kicks his wife, and then drags his hair into the bedroom and beats him violently. The child was crying and crying next to him, but it did not awaken the man's sanity at all.
Anticipating that all these storms were coming, the mother gently comforted the baby on the side.
Yes, all this, to her, seemed to have become accustomed to it.
As soon as the video was exposed, the majority of netizens angrily denounced her, and the police took the man away for interrogation overnight.
Men's units also issued a swift and resolute announcement to dismiss men from all their duties.
However, she unexpectedly chose to end it hastily. An inertial beginning and an inertial end.
Even if the noise is well known, even if the Shaanxi police have accepted her case, she does not argue to forgive her.
What we see may only be the exposed side of her resentment, but behind her, there are many unclear scars on her.
I hate to pound words with iron and steel, ashamed of male rape and helpless to her weakness.
In 2022, China's feudal society has long been history.
We don't have to bend the knees all the time, and we don't have to bear the burden of humiliation every time. We are not just whose wives and whose mothers, but also ourselves!
If you can't support your self-esteem, who cares about your dignity?
If you don't care about your pain, who will pity your wounds?
Domestic violence will continue, because your repeated concessions will only make him worse.
What you need to learn is not only to resist, but also to love yourself.
Oppose domestic violence
As early as December 27, 2015, the 18th session of the Standing Committee of the 12th National People's Congress voted to pass the Law of the People's Republic of China against Domestic Violence. As China's first anti-domestic violence law, it came into effect on March 1, 2016.
The authority of the law has slightly deterred those who are eager to move, but domestic violence is still repeatedly prohibited.
In the final analysis, legal confinement is only a means, and what really needs to be changed is the concept of male superiority and female inferiority that has been deeply rooted in China for thousands of years.
Today, although the status of women has skyrocketed, the majority of women comrades have also made outstanding contributions in all walks of life.
However, traditional Chinese ideas are still deeply rooted.
In many of China's remote rural areas, women's status remains low.
They can't go to the table to eat, men can't talk and women can't interject.
A lot of dirty and tiring work is undertaken by women, but men are at ease playing cards and gambling.
To the local men, the woman seems to be an object, which can be scolded at will, trampled at will, called at will, and discarded at will.
The terrible thing is that the local women still swear that they are normal.
This distorted value really refreshed my bottom line.
The state has spared no effort to emphasize and enforce nine years of compulsory education, and it would be painful to see this aspect today.
So, if one is willing to fight and one is willing to be beaten, then is our appeal a bit redundant?
Salvation is first and foremost self-salvation
Salvation, first of all, is self-salvation.
At the same time as I was resentful, I also remembered my cousin's story.
My cousin, who is very beautiful, at the age of 20, the matchmaker breaks through the threshold of matchmaking.
But the cousin was lonely and arrogant, and no one could get into her eyes.
At the age of 25, there was finally a handsome boy who made his cousin secretly agree.
But the man's family is average, with a mentally ill mother and a lazy father, and the family is destitute.
It is said that women in love have a worrying IQ, especially cousins.
There are so many young talents and well-off men who do not marry, but they are partial to this poor ravine farmer.
No matter how much her aunt and relatives persuaded her, my cousin still married without hesitation.
Just two months after marriage,
The couple who should have been newly married, but the cousin returned to her mother's house with black and blue eyes and a limp leg.
The aunt went crazy and generally asked the reason, and the uncle pretended to calmly check on the cousin's injury.
Under the interrogation of her aunt, the cousin told the truth.
It turned out that after the cousin got married, she had to serve the mentally ill mother-in-law and zhang Luo's family's three meals a day. In addition, not only do you have to go to the field to do farm work, but you also have to go home at night to clean the chicken coop and the kennel.
One day, she was so tired that she overslept and missed lunch preparation time.
The husband, who had always been gentle, suddenly changed his face.
Like a grumpy male lion, more like an uncivilized beast, sharp nails poking into cousin's skin, rough palms waving at her delicate face, and years of farm work with strong and powerful legs stomping on her cousin's knees.
The cousin burst into tears, and the aunt's liver and intestines were broken.
Every slap was not only on my cousin's face, but also on my aunt's heart.
What kind of pain is that?
Victims of domestic violence
Later, the cousin-in-law gambled and swore again, tearfully begging for his cousin's forgiveness, and for this, at all costs, bought a necklace for his cousin.
The cousin was soft-hearted and obediently went back, no matter how righteously and sternly the aunt and uncle demanded a divorce.
Suffering is always just beginning when you give in for the first time.
After my cousin went back, she had a peaceful life.
However, life is a long road, living is three meals a day, three meals for four seasons, every little thing is a chai rice oil and salt that cannot be erased.
The cousin constantly quarreled over Qian and her brother-in-law, and the quarrel always ended with her scarred.
She had regretted her impulsive decision more than once, but again and again she forced herself to smile and tell her parents that she had no regrets.
Finally, one day, she miscarried when she was pregnant.
For a small matter, the brother-in-law was violent to the point that she miscarried.
Sure enough, domestic violence, only 0 times and countless times.
The tough aunt and uncle could not bear it any longer, and finally forced their cousin to divorce.
The cousin, who had been recuperating for a long time, gradually came out of the shadows, but she could no longer have children.
Pain is always so unforgettable, only pain will make people wake up.
Two years after her cousin's divorce, she met a man who was particularly spoiled for her.
They never got married again, they lived like that quietly.
The paperwork in short supply is worth ten million vows.
My cousin learned to fight back, a slight look, both sharp and cold.
We quipped that the ability to defend ourselves was finally gaining strength.
self-defence
Domestic violence, only those who have experienced it personally, know its pain.
The pain is not only the scars that can be seen everywhere on the body, but also the endless trauma of the soul.
But time can't heal your pain, and years will not heal your wounds.
All injuries need to be healed by themselves.
Only by firmly rejecting domestic violence and bravely resisting can we have the confidence not to be afraid of everything.
Fellow men who hold up butcher knives, what you are strangling is not the woman, it is your freedom, your happiness.
If it is really an iron bone, why not go to the battlefield to show your pride?
If you are really a sonorous boy, why not break into a legendary world for yourself?
To a weak woman who has no power to tie the chicken, how can you show the heroic nature of your big husband?