When it comes to the living Buddha Jigong, everyone can think of a saying: wine and meat through the intestines, the Buddha's heart remains, the Jigong's humor, dashing freedom to show vividly.
In Japan, there is also a "modern version of Jigong", she lived to be 99 years old, not only like Jigong drinking wine and eating meat, but also very popular. She has had three unruly loves, escaped into the empty door for 40 years, but still does not take the Buddhist law in her eyes, and openly admits that she is infatuated with male sex.
"The beauty of love lies in stealing love, I enjoy it very much, men should be careful." 」 Such a bohemian remark came out of the mouth of a nun, and even the Japanese who had always been open to the public were red in the face.
However, the criticism of the outside world did not affect her achievements, she is a well-known Japanese female writer, after compiling her own interesting affair into a book, she even won the National Cultural Medal personally awarded by the Japanese Emperor.
However, such a legendary woman kept confessing to China in her later years, expressing her shame for China. What's going on here?
After marrying, he came to China from her husband
The Japanese nun, whose original name was Harumi Setouchi, was born in 1922 to a traditional family in Japan, where her father ran a Buddhist altar shop.
At that time, Japan was not like today, where women's status was extremely inferior and they were appendages of men. Therefore, Harumi, like other Japanese girls, has been indoctrinated from an early age with the traditional idea of "not marrying her father, and following her husband after marriage".
However, at that time, Japan fully learned from the West, and the Western ideas that flaunted freedom and equality swept through Japan like a wild wind and waves, and Japanese women began to awaken and "declare war" on traditional ideas.
From the outside, Harumi is a typical Japanese woman, gentle in appearance, gentle in personality, and never does anything to disobey her parents. At the age of 19, she was still studying at the University of Tokyo, and under the full authority of her parents, she married her music teacher Jun Zuoye.
Jun Zuo Ye is a traditional Japanese man, with a strict personality, does not like to talk, indulges in the study of music, especially likes Chinese classical music, has a deep yearning for China, and wants to go to that magical land to see.
In 1943, Zuo Yejun's dream came true, and he was invited by the old Fu Jen University (now Beijing Normal University) to teach in China. Junxi Zuo ye couldn't help himself, and immediately packed his bags and came to China with his pregnant wife, Harumi.
Qingmei also likes China, quickly adapts, and gives birth to a lovely daughter, a family of three living a peaceful and beautiful life. By 1945, however, Japan had declared its unconditional surrender, and Japanese expatriates living in China had to be repatriated.
However, Harumi and his wife had opposed Japan's aggression against China, and they had deep feelings for China, so they decided that they would die in China. In this way, for more than a year, the family of three secretly stayed in Beijing, and even lived in the basement in order not to be discovered.
However, a year later, their Japanese identity was discovered, and under the arrangement of the Nationalist government at that time, they boarded a passenger ship bound for Japan and returned to Japan.
After returning to Japan, Sano Jun lost his job as a university teacher and had to find a new job in Tokyo to support his family. As a housewife, Harumi stays at home to take care of her daughter.
However, because her husband has been working outside for a long time, And Harumi is a 23-year-old good year, she is empty inside and feels that life is extremely boring. After a long period of lack of love, she actually cheated on her husband behind her back.
Students who fall in love with their husbands and elope together
Harumi's derailment is none other than her husband's student, Kinoshita Othiko. Kinoshita is handsome and handsome, and only 19 years old, with a strong smell of male hormones, the first contact between the two, Harumi fell.
From then on, Harumi was overwhelmed, leaving her husband and daughter behind and talking to Kinoshita about her unrequited love. It was as if she had been caught in a demon, and she felt uncomfortable not seeing Kinoshita Otomi one day, and her body and mind were completely captured by Kinoshita.
But the paper could not contain the fire, and their private affair was still discovered by Zuo Ye Jun. Zuo Ye Jun worked hard outside, but his wife led his students into the door, and a strong sense of vinegar surged into her heart. But he did not want the divorce to ruin his reputation, but abused Harumi through various means.
This sense of shame recognized by her husband and her dissatisfaction with her husband's domestic violence were intertwined, and for a time It was better for Harumi to live than to die. So she made a decision that would ruin herself, she found Kinoshita and told the other party, "You take me away, let's elope together." ”
Kinoshita naturally ran away from home with Harumi, rented a simple house in Tokyo, and lived together.
Harumi's behavior of abandoning her husband and daughter and eloping with her lover will be pointed out by a thousand husbands even now. But she didn't care at all, she could stay with her lover, she was willing to give up everything she had!
However, Qingmei, who betrayed her husband, also quickly tasted betrayal.
Lived with her husband for 8 years, love triangle
After living with Kinoshita, in order to survive, Harumi, as a graduate of the University of Tokyo, found a job at a newspaper and began her own writing career.
However, the quiet life was soon broken. Kinoshita, who works at the bar, actually falls in love with the female boss, leaves Harumi, and leaves without quitting.
Just as the so-called Heavenly Dao is good reincarnation, who has the heavens spared, Qingmei has played a good hand of cards, and it is impossible to return to the family. She had to heal her wounds alone, work hard, and put all her energy into writing. Harumi was talented and bold in her writing style, and soon became famous in the industry and was accepted into the Japanese magazine "Writer".
During her work, Harumi met a third romance, also a non-lun love affair, for The Japanese writer Hitojiro Kosugi, who already had a wife.
In Kosugi Renjiro, Harumi felt a charm from a mature man unlike the previous two men, she fell again, and did not care about the identity of "lover", and the underground love affair with Kosugi Renjiro lasted for 8 years.
During this period, Harumi not only received financial help from Kosugi Renjiro, but also under the guidance of the other party, her writing skills became more and more exquisite. In 1956, she launched her Virgo "Women's Dasheng, Qu Ailing", which caused a strong response as soon as it was published, and won the New Wave Fan magazine award in one fell swoop.
Next, she successively published works with strong feminine overtones such as "Hana rui" and "Kaoko Stirs Up Trouble", which were highly sought after by Japanese women, established her status in the Japanese literary circle, and won the Women's Literature Award.
However, Qingmei has cut through thorns on the road of literature, and her emotional life has once again lit up the red light. Kinoshita, who had left her behind, appeared in front of her again. Although he is no longer young, he is still as handsome as before, and Qingmei can't let go of this man, and once again he throws himself into his arms, almost like a TV series.
But Kinoshita is not a man worthy of trust, he came with a purpose. He rented a house in Tokyo, allowing Harumi to pay the rent and his living expenses, and live a life of yo-yo.
This love triangle lasted for a while, and was discovered by Kosugi Renjiro, who did not blame Harumi and voluntarily chose to quit. However, Harumi still has illusions about Kinoshita and uses her own writing fees to open a company for him. But the dog can't change the-eating Kinoshita cheated again, targeting the female employee of the company.
Betrayed this time, Harumi was completely heartbroken, and she and Kinoshita cut off each other and no longer believed in love. After that, she completely let go of herself, often taking different men home for the night. According to incomplete statistics, there are more than a dozen men who have had relationships with her.
But the more men Harumi interacts with, the more empty her heart becomes, and the more she feels that men are unreliable.
On November 14, 1973, a blockbuster news broke in the Japanese literary circles: 51-year-old female writer Harumi Setouchi had been ordained.
Shave out of the house, drink wine and eat meat
In fact, in Harumi's original vision, she wanted to be a nun. However, due to her scandalous and bad reputation, the major churches rejected her, fearing that she would bring bad customs in the courtyard.
But there are also people who are willing to "take" her in, the monk Imatomitsu of the Tendai Sect's Nakazun-ji Temple, a well-known writer and screenwriter, who has seen every work of Harumi, has been friends with her for a long time, and does not care about her past.
Therefore, at the recommendation of the monk Higashi-tomitsu, Harumi shaved her head and became a nun with the title of "Silent Listening".
After becoming a monk, Qingmei devoted herself to practicing and was not close to male color, but she still went her own way in life, drinking wine and eating meat, completely disregarding the rules and precepts.
Some people were not accustomed to her behavior, accusing her: "Since you drink wine and eat meat, why do you have to escape into the empty door?" ”
In this regard, Harumi replied without any concern: "I am a nun when I put on my robe, and when I take off my robe, I am a layman, and I can eat and drink when I want, and it is not an insult to the Buddha." ”
Not only that, Qingmei's attitude towards men has not changed, she has repeatedly made shocking remarks, such as "guarding a man all her life, sooner or later will be tired, stealing is the most wonderful way", and "in addition to her husband, no other man likes how boring, capture more men, isn't it a great sense of accomplishment?" ”
Although Qingmei's remarks do not conform to mainstream values, they have also gained a vote of fans who "agree". She became a "female Internet celebrity", and every time she gave a lecture, the audience was always full, and fans even had to buy tickets two months in advance to get a seat.
Although she is an alternative being in Buddhism, it does not affect her life or her creation. In 1992, after 30 years of dormancy, she released her new work "Asking Flowers", which won Japan's highest creative award, the Tanizaki Junichiro Award, as soon as it came out.
Harumi did not stop, she used the ten-year award "The Tale of Genji" to be translated into Japanese vernacular, and was awarded the National Cultural Medal by the Emperor of Japan himself, becoming the only Japanese nun to receive this medal.
In 2005, Harumi's legendary experience was made into the TV series "The Generation of a Woman", which was displayed in front of the audience. But Harumi is not satisfied with the TV series, saying in public: "This is only a part of the truth. ”
Reflecting on the war of aggression against China, we are ashamed of Chinese
In her twilight years, Harumi lived more transparently, giving public speeches everywhere, propagating anti-war ideas, and calling on everyone to love peace.
In 2003, U.S. forces invaded Iraq and displaced people. Harumi not only donated her savings to the war-torn Iraqi women and children, but also launched a fundraising campaign to call on everyone to donate money and materials.
Harumi had lived in China for several years, felt the friendliness and kindness of the Chinese people, and witnessed the brutality of the Japanese army invading China. She has always regarded China as her second home and has come to China more than once.
During her public speech, she said to the Japanese audience more than once: "I am ashamed of the war of aggression launched by Japan, and I feel ashamed of Chinese." Harumi behaved calmly, hoping to influence every Japanese present with her every move.
Twilight Qingmei suffered from a variety of old age diseases, but in the face of death, she still had a posture of "life and death are indifferent, and if you don't obey", the words she often hangs on her lips are: "I hope that when I die, I can die quietly in writing." ”
On November 9, 2021, Harumi Setouchi died of heart failure at the age of 99.