I, a Japanese, married to China for 10 years, married 1.3 million to my husband, and I worked to support my family
Narrator: Ono
Finishing: Mr. Xiao Han
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I am Ono, 36 years old, from Japan. 10 years ago, I married from Japan to China, and since then started a new life, and in Japan is not the same, all things in China are strange to me, need to slowly understand and adapt, in the face of difficulties, I am not afraid, because there is a husband who loves me and hurts me, all things, we can face.
After marriage, at first very happy, the husband worked hard outside, I learned Chinese culture at home, and took care of housework, the life itself was very calm, but the husband became a little impetuous after returning to China to work for two years, felt that the current company did not reuse him, decided to jump ship, I did not oppose at the time, can be positive, there is a good thing to pursue, however, in the new company, it is indeed much better than before, the husband has become happy.
But with the promotion of my husband, often in order to socialize the night, and even later became obsessed with playing cards, in 2018, almost all the money was lost, and the 1.3 million yuan that my parents married was also secretly taken by my husband to gamble, originally this money was reserved for future children to study, but my husband was too bad. In order to live, my husband turned back to the shore, and I had to go out to work and maintain the family. The child has the help of in-laws and gives us enough space to work, but life can no longer return to the happy and happy days of the past.
In 1986, I was born into a family of architects in Kanagawa Prefecture, Kawasaki City, Japan, my father was a very famous architectural designer, my mother was an oil painter, and I was the only child in the family, called an only child in China. Since I was a child, I have received a good education, after all, the family environment is like this, my parents not only studied, but also vigorously cultivated my hobbies, such as painting, dance, mathematics and so on.
When I was a child, I was innocent, carefree, and happy to grow up, which also gave me a healthy mind.
Dad is a very dedicated designer, usually spending time in the studio, only two or three days a month, which is also the happiest time for our whole family. In fact, as a woman, my mother has also complained, but I can understand my father's work attitude.
My mother and I spent every day in the studio, and sometimes when my mother went to school to teach students, she was locked in the studio alone and then painted randomly.
Unexpectedly, when I was 9 years old, a painting could sell for 160,000 yen, equivalent to 8,000 yuan, and I was very happy at that time, and my mother also thought I had a talent for painting. But over time, my paintings have not improved much. After junior high school, a classmate became a disciple of my mother, he was very talented, very patient, I not only had a playmate, but also someone who practiced painting with me.
My mother is usually very strict and does not allow me to be lazy, so many times, I am opportunistic to paint, but what I get is my mother's severe criticism.
In high school, my classmates won awards in art competitions for high school students all over Japan, and I was not even qualified for the finalists, so my parents discussed and asked me to give up painting and learn design instead.
For art, I don't seem to have inherited the good genes of my parents, but I like psychology very much. When I entered the university, my grades were not satisfactory, and I interviewed several schools, but they were all ruthlessly rejected. Mom and Dad acted frustrated, as if I were an indisputable child.
When I was in college, I met my current husband Zhao Le. He studied in Japan and stayed in Japan to work after graduation, and our meeting brought a lot of joy to my life. At that time, my husband was very romantic, he could speak sweet words, and he would cook a lot of Chinese food, which immediately fascinated me.
My parents do not approve of this relationship, and many parents, think that I will marry far away in the future, will definitely suffer losses, but in the sweet period of love, can not take care of the advice of parents, and after graduation, we choose to return to China to get married, but the only requirement given by my parents is that we must work and live in Japan for three years to observe whether we can live together for a lifetime.
This examination was finally passed.
After getting married, we returned to Japan, worked for almost four years, completed my parents' assessment, and got a dowry of 26 million yen, equivalent to more than 1.3 million yuan. The husband is very happy, but this money, parents are prepared for the future grandchildren, so for a long time, no one thought that they would spend this dowry.
In 2012, we just returned to Chengdu, Sichuan, China, we encountered the Wenchuan earthquake, although the distance is very far, but the earthquake is very strong, the husband decided to help his compatriots at the first time, to support more than ten days, but also missed the honeymoon opportunity, but I think my husband is great, and did not blame.
Before returning to China, my husband found a job, and after returning from Wenchuan, he went to work. And I take care of my husband's food and clothing at home every day, of course, I will also learn some cultural knowledge about China, after all, to live with my husband for a lifetime, many cultural differences still need to be slowly improved.
But this job, only lasted for two years, the husband often complained that the boss did not give him affirmation, did not give promotion and salary increase, and finally chose to jump ship. It was very uncomfortable to see him during that time, and I felt uncomfortable in my heart, just because it was not long after I gave birth, so I still supported his job hopping.
But in the second job, there is often a need for business trips and socializing, which also means that the husband will be busy until late, at first he will go home late, and then he will not return home at night. I never complain or have a conflict. However, when it came to 2018, I suddenly found that the bank card was missing, and when I found it, I found that the money inside was missing.
After asking his husband, he twisted and said that he had invested in himself, but the investment failed, so he did not dare to say. But this is not the case, the moment the debt collector chased to the family, I knew the truth, my husband gambled and lost all his savings, fortunately, I and my children's living expenses were handed over as always.
After these unbearable things, we have been unable to raise two children normally, both to pay off debts and to live, and I have to go out to work to earn money to support my family. The in-laws were also angry when they knew about it and agreed to help us with the children.
Later, I found a job teaching Japanese and art, because now I speak Mandarin very standardly, so I can also do this job, although I don't earn much, but it can reduce the pressure on my husband to some extent. He also turned back to the shore and went to work steadily.
There are many unsatisfactory things in life, in the face of difficulties, husband and wife are in the same heart, I believe that happiness is far away, it will slowly approach us.