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The more ignorant a person is, the easier it is to rest on its laurels
At a party, my cousin talked about the mental journey of all these years of work.
When the real estate was relatively hot in the past few years, he caught up with this wave of dividends, coupled with the personality that could have endured hardships, made a lot of money, and bought a house in the city.
His peers are still struggling on the subsistence line, and he already has a car and a house, so the sense of superiority is exploding.
When he dines with colleagues, he will always show a lofty posture, pointing out the industry, and what others say is the first time to interrupt.
Friends in their spare time to read and charge, report offline training classes, he said that those are useless, this year, can fight the skill, who still fight knowledge, their own education is not high, skills are nothing, still buy a house and buy a car.
Later, the real estate market was cold, and the cousin's real estate sales performance plummeted, and he would only sell houses, and the days could be imagined.
And those colleagues he looked down on before, have already taken root in the real estate industry, reached the level of management, or changed careers to do something, remembering the past, how much regret he has to regret now.
Underestimating the strength of others, and not knowing themselves clearly, thinking that they are superior in ability, the three views are absolutely correct, believing that they are in contact with the whole world, and their mentality often becomes extremely inflated.
As Luo Xiang said: "The poorer a person's knowledge, the more he has inexplicable courage and pride, the poorer his knowledge, and the more absolute what you believe." ”
Dismissive of other people's opinions, immersed in existing knowledge and experience, unable to touch the underlying logic of things, often unclear that they understand the tip of the iceberg of the world.
Because they can't contact the unknown field, they are not willing to go out and see the values of others, they can't accept new things, they keep spinning in the existing knowledge system, they can't get growth and progress, and they gradually become self-contained.
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The more ignorant a person is, the easier it is to deny others
Many people are always willing to look for the shortcomings of others, give birth to a heart of comparison, and look for a false sense of superiority from the process of denying others.
However, spending most of your energy on others will stagnate in your own growth, often reflecting how ignorant you are.
During the Southern Song Dynasty, there was a man named Zhong Weiweng who thought that his calligraphy and paintings were first-class.
Everywhere he went, he always had to remove the words on the list and rewrite the plaque himself.
However, his writing was not very well written, and those who followed him cried bitterly.
Once, Zhong Weiweng passed by a temple in Luling, and there was a magnificent attic in the temple.
Zhong Weiweng and his officials gathered below, looking up at the plaque in the attic, which read "Dinghui Pavilion", and the name of the person with the inscription next to it was blurred.
Zhong Weiweng said that the writing of the list text was not good, criticized it at will, and asked the monks to wipe the plaque clean, only to find that it was actually written by Yan Zhenqing, and embarrassedly said to the officials under him: "Why is this kind of good word not engraved on the stone stele?" So he ordered his subordinates to carve the words on the plaque into a stone tablet.
Later, the incident was taken as a joke by his men.
In life, there are many people like Zhong Weiweng, who are obviously very ignorant, but often feel good about themselves, thinking that what they know is all, and they do not understand that there are mountains outside people.
Always think that their experience is accurate, their abilities are better than others, ignore each other's achievements, and often intervene in others.
Using this pattern of behavior yourself, you ask the other party to act according to this line of thinking; If you follow this set of values yourself, you will forcibly instill it into others.
When suppressing and denying others, the subconscious mind is affirming and elevating itself, so that self-confidence and superiority are satisfied, and it shows that it is superior to others.
03
Only by admitting one's ignorance can one gain new knowledge
Fang Jie, the founder of Aopu Yuba, went to work for a lighting company when he studied in Australia.
The boss is a master of business negotiations and often takes him with him to business negotiations.
At that time, Fang Jie was still very young, did not have the concept of "business negotiation" in his mind, and found that he was blank in this field, so he used various opportunities to learn.
Every time he had a business negotiation with his boss, he would record the process with a miniature voice recorder.
After returning home, he figured out the tricks of his opponent's questions over and over again, as well as the boss's strategy for analyzing the problems and answering the answers, and learned to use them to transform into a master of shopping mall negotiations.
In 1996, the boss retired, and Fang Jie took over his job and became the top professional manager in Australia. Later, he returned to China to start a business and founded the brand of Aopu Yuba.
Fu Sheng, the founder of Cheetah, once said: "The biggest obstacle for a person is the obstacle of knowledge, and acknowledging his ignorance is an effective way to upgrade his self-knowledge." ”
People with a big picture dare to admit their ignorance, constantly try to reach their own cognitive boundaries, and stimulate more possibilities.
Admit that your knowledge and connotation are "limited", and you will be receptive to exploring unknown areas; Admitting that you have cognitive blind spots, you will actively seek opportunities to make up for them.
Discover your ignorance, and after continuous precipitation and accumulation, build a moat with deep insight and strong ability on the basis of the original dimension, and transform into a person with foresight.
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The lower the cognition, the more people will behave as self-righteous, conceited to the point of thinking that they are omnipotent.
See clearly your own limitations, in order to avoid the trap of self-use, broaden your horizons, and reach a wider world, the following three methods, for reference:
1. Use curiosity to dare to explore new areas
Curiosity is the fastest growing passport and the starting point for gaining new knowledge.
A person's curiosity drives him to explore the unknown possibilities, and finds that he has never realized all kinds of things, limited to his own inherent cognitive cage, breaking the misunderstanding of thinking.
Maintain an open mind, be insightful of other people's ways of doing things and codes of conduct, accept a variety of insights, deepen your own knowledge system, and better empower yourself.
2. Cultivate green light thinking and quit habitual defense
When one's own insights and experiences are inconsistent with others, contradictions and conflicts will instinctively arise, forming an exclusionary mentality and habitual defense.
However, just listening to what you want to know or already know, your thinking will become more and more narrow, and you may wish to let go of your existing preconceptions and broaden your knowledge by integrating other people's ideas into the existing thinking framework.
Have a highly open attitude towards all kinds of insights, no longer criticize and question, there is no need to deny, give way to those ideas, take the essence and core for their own use, and achieve maximum growth.
3. Always have a humble attitude and humbly ask others for advice
By humbly asking others for advice and listening to what others express, you can largely jump out of the framework set by yourself and become no longer self-contained.
Putting aside past experience and insights, accepting the suggestions of others with a humble attitude can find loopholes in thinking and shortcomings in insight.
Maintain a reverence for new insights, embrace what you see and hear around you, and reflect your shortcomings from those suggestions, so as to make up for your own weaknesses and deepen your cognition.
The book Principles says, "No matter how much success I have achieved in my life, the main reason is not how much I know, but what I know to do in ignorance." ”
Few people will admit that they have cognitive biases in some aspect, nor can they see their knowledge blind spots, and they are dragged into the circle of arrogance and arrogance, which not only obscures the bright future, but also blocks the channels for accepting new knowledge.
However, everyone is a frog at the bottom of the well, and the breadth of information you receive is equivalent to the width of the wellhead, and the more information you receive, the wider the field of vision you see.
Explore outward, contact more cattle people, contact with a series of ideological collisions, do not cling to the existing experience, do not be indifferent to new things, step by step subvert their inherent cognition, to obtain progress and growth.
Chen Yao, pseudo Wenqing, has light in his eyes, warm in his heart, and if his dreams are cold, he will use hope to warm up.