Text/An Dongyue
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Someone asked: What does the most beautiful love look like?
I said that the most beautiful love is to understand each other in the depths of the soul and accompany each other for a long time. No matter what kind of wind and rain you encounter, you can face it together, share it together, know each other for a lifetime, and never give up.
Knowing each other is that two people understand each other, understand each other, do not need too many words, a look, a sigh, you can know what the other person is thinking and worrying.
Pity for each other, is two people value each other, cherish each other, regard each other as the most important person in life, care for each other, understand, tolerate, be each other's safe haven, not only can give each other the ultimate tenderness, but also give each other endless strength.
We often say that it is easy to love each other, but it is difficult to keep each other. In fact, what is more difficult than staying together is knowing each other.
Knowing each other requires entering each other's inner world, and it requires mutual understanding in the depths of the soul. Mutual understanding is a fate that can be met but not sought, and perhaps only people with similar souls will have such a tacit understanding.
Two people who know and cherish each other, if they can't stay together, will be a lifetime of regret, and vice versa, a lifetime of happiness.
02.
In this noisy world, there are many people who crave love, but fewer and fewer people really believe in love. This is probably because people who believe in love are always hurt in love, in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes, so they are defensive everywhere and no longer easily pay their hearts.
Indeed, sincerity is very expensive, can not easily give to others, only people who really understand you, love you, hurt you, and cherish you are worthy of your affection. It's just, where are such people?
A friend of mine, thirty years old, is still not married. She's not single, she just doesn't want to get married for the sake of getting married. The marriage she wants must be based on love. The love she wants must be known to each other and understand each other.
She has had several relationship experiences, but always after dating for a while, she finds that they are not suitable for each other in many ways. In her words, people who are not really right are doomed to not go together.
Parents, relatives and friends, constantly introduce her to the object, arrange her blind date. She had been there a few times, and she felt that it was too embarrassing for two strange men and women to sit together and look at each other, understand, and test each other, and then she never went again.
She said: "Feelings can't be forced, marriage can't be settled, I must wait until the real right person appears, otherwise I would rather not get married." ”
Last year, she fell in love, her boyfriend was a friend of a friend, met at a party, did not deliberately, but had a good feeling for each other the first time they met, and then naturally came together.
Not long ago they got married, and the wedding photos were particularly beautiful. She sent a circle of friends and said: "Finally waited for you, fortunately I did not give up, the rest of my life please give more advice." ”
03.
Perhaps afraid of loneliness, unbearable loneliness, many people got married early, tied their fate to another person, and later found that there are many irreconcilable contradictions between the two people, but because of many entanglements, they can only pass.
It is a compromise of real life.
Compromise is the despair of a beautiful love.
Why despair? Because I can't meet the person who really understands me, I don't have the confidence to wait forever.
I remembered the sentence: "If it's you for the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if it's a little later." ”
Indeed, if you can meet someone who truly loves himself, understands himself, and is single-mindedly good to himself, even if it is a little later, what does it matter? I was afraid, and after waiting all my life, I couldn't wait for that person to appear.
The road of life is bumpy, the suffering of life is metaphorical, we need someone to accompany and someone to understand, so we look forward to love. However, not all expectations will come as promised, and what love needs most is fate. When the fate arrives, that person will naturally appear.
Flowing years like water, flashy like a dream, the rest of your life, may there be a person, know and cherish you, do not abandon, stand side by side in the long years, hand in hand.
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Author: An Dongyue, a freelance writer, with warm brushstrokes, writes heartfelt words, and is willing to meet you in the deepest red dust. Welcome to follow.