The neighborhood is deep
Text/Feng Lianwei
There are few neighbors in the secluded alleys, and the grass eaves are happy to live side by side.
Steamed pears are often co-cooked, and watering is also the same channel.
--Don Yuhu, "Title Neighbor"
"Three brothers, you just came back, right?" Have you eaten? Let your sister-in-law cook and come to our house tonight. ”
Every time I return to the old house in the countryside, as long as the neighbor brother hears the sound of us parking, he always has to come from home to say hello and sincerely invite us to his house for dinner; Even though we had never eaten at his house, we were deeply moved.
Walking on the old streets of my hometown, I see familiar faces, hear warm greetings, and feel the simple folk sentiments steaming. There is a world of difference from a city where you live in a high-rise building: living in a city, living together in a building for many years, the neighbors are not clear.
Back to the old house, between the neighbors, the aunt and the eldest brother and sister-in-law, want to go to whoever wants to be a guest; Go to the countryside, natural organic vegetables, leeks, celery, cabbage, water radish, potatoes, eggplant, peppers, all the vegetables in the vegetable garden, as long as you are willing to eat; When the owner of the vegetable garden is in the field, he will take the initiative to pick it according to your choice, and when the owner of the vegetable garden is not in the field, you can also pick it independently, and then meet and say a word; More often than not, the neighbors knew we were home and selectively picked them and sent them home according to the varieties in their vegetable garden. Spring stubble leeks, early summer kidney beans, summer monkeys, autumn apples, yellow sweet potatoes, winter cabbage, taro, these fresh, fragrant, tender and delicious organic food, I am the first to get from the neighbors.
The deep neighborly affection, better than brothers, like sisters, made me unforgettable.
When the mother was alive, the most said sentence was "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors." It is better to be a neighbor than to the opposite door." We sisters are asked to have a good relationship with our neighbors at all times, no matter where we live.
Looking through the relevant materials, "neighbors" are a kind of resident organization in ancient times. The Shuowen calls "five families as neighbors", and "Zhou Li" calls "five families as neighbors, and five neighbors as li". In ancient times, neighborhood relations were very important, and whoever destroyed this relationship was likely to lose the external environment and conditions for survival, and who was likely to be passive. In general, neighborhood relations can be further understood according to the boundaries of the Han Dynasty.
During the Qin Dynasty, which had not yet been overthrown by the Han Dynasty, neighborhood relations were consolidated in a very cruel way, which was called the "continuous sitting system", that is, a family committed a crime, and the neighbors sat together, which made the neighbors of the Qin Dynasty form a trembling and mutual surveillance relationship, but what Qin Shi Huang did not expect was that his even sitting system also made the neighborhood relationship closer, close enough to overthrow the rule of the Qin Dynasty.
This kind of sitting system is really terrible, and the people have to strengthen their interaction with their neighbors in order not to be killed for their neighbors' crimes, and the frequency of visiting the door is several times more frequent than before. Get up in the morning to go to the neighbor's house to see, eat at noon to the neighbor's house to see, and come back in the evening to see the neighbor's house. At the beginning, I wanted to discover the misdeeds of the neighbors as soon as possible, so as to report upwards to avoid their responsibilities, but over time, the neighbors formed a heart, everyone knew each other, the feelings were deeper, and the five neighbors responded accordingly. This is the reason why when Liu Bang and Xiang Yu rebelled against Qin, most of their important generals were their own townspeople.
When Liu Bang, the ancestor of Han Gao, entered Xianyang, he investigated the tense neighborhood relations of the Qin Dynasty, the purpose of which was to establish a neighborhood relationship in which everyone was honest. The rulers of the Han Dynasty also stressed that officials should play a leading role in harmonious neighborhood relations, that is, they could continue to maintain good neighborhood relations after becoming officials. When Emperor Cheng of Han was emperor, Xue Xuan served as Zuo Fengyi, and when the officials were on vacation, Cao Tuan and Zhang Fu refused to rest and still insisted on going to work. Xue Xuan said to him, "Gai Li Gui is harmonious, and humanity is still passable." On the day, the official ordered a rest, and the servant came for a long time. Although Cao had public office, his family also hoped for private favors. It is advisable to follow the crowd, return to the wife, set up wine and dishes, invite the neighbors, laugh and have fun, and si can also be done. Xue Xuan meant the idea that the ruling class had long formed, that is, officials should return home on rest days, reunite with their families, and pass wine between them and their neighbors. Zhang Fu was ashamed after hearing Xue Xuan's words, and all the officials thought that Xue Xuan's words were reasonable. The harmonious neighborhood relations of the Chinese nation were basically formed in the Han Dynasty and became the basis of the neighborly relations on the mainland.
The further development of neighborhood relations has reached the more famous "Wu Zhang Six Foot Lane": according to the "Tongcheng County Chronicle", during the Kangxi Period of the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Ying, who served as a scholar of Huadian University and a Rebbe Shangshu, was adjacent to the Wu family in his hometown of Tongcheng, and there was an alley between the two courtyards for both sides to enter and exit. Later, the Wu family wanted to build a new house and wanted to occupy this road, but the Zhang family did not agree. At this time, the Zhang family wrote an urgent letter to Zhang Ying in a fit of rage, asking him to come forward to solve it, but Zhang Ying replied: "The thousand miles of repair books are only for the wall, let him be three feet, why bother, the Great Wall is still there today, and I don't see Qin Shi Huang in that year." The family read it, understood the meaning, and took the initiative to give up three feet of open space. The neighbor Wu family also moved three feet because of the touch. Since then, the two families have become a friendship between the two families, and tolerance is to turn the dry goe into jade and eliminate the mustard, and the six-foot alley has thus become. On November 21, 2006, tang Jiaxuan, then state councilor, after visiting Liuzhi Lane, wrote an inscription: "Tongcheng Liuzhi Lane, Harmonious and Famous City Yang." ”
The Tang Dynasty poet Wang Bo also left a famous poem: "The sea has a confidant, and the world is close to each other." The poet Du Fu wrote: "The plate restaurant market is far from tasteful, and the bottle restaurant is poor and only old. Ken drank opposite his neighbor and called out the remaining cups across the fence. ”
Niang did not have the knowledge in books, but she handled these neighborhood relations thoughtfully and meticulously, she had not heard the qing Dynasty Wenhuadian University scholar and the Ministry of Etiquette Shangshu Zhang Ying's oil poem: Thousands of miles to repair books only for the wall, let him three feet why bother? But in the village, the mother always lowered her posture and treated people modestly.
The mother always subtly influences us with her own practical actions. When the living conditions in our family were still very difficult, usually the guests at home whether they were wrapped in dumplings or steamed white rice, the mother always had to send some of the rest to the neighbors. Especially when she was old, my eldest brother and I were both working in the city, and Xiao Jingniang's tea, fruits and snacks she used to eat very little, most of them were given to neighbors, she always said: "Rural people are also rare tea leaves and fruits and snacks that they usually can't see or are reluctant to buy, give them some, than I drink and eat myself." ”
Every New Year's Festival, my mother called me to let me buy her some knife fish, shrimp skin, sausages, etc., and my mother said: "All year round, these neighbors send me vegetables and food, and for the New Year's Festival, I also send something to express my heart." ”
From the time she married her father at the age of 16, to the time of her death, she lived in the village for seventy years. In such a long period of time, the mother from a yellow haired girl to a wife and mother, to the ups and downs to pull our sisters into adulthood, to become a grandmother, to become a grandmother, to become an old grandmother, an old grandmother, a house from the front street to the back street, from the east end of the village to the west end of the village, the mother is full of praise in the mouths of all the neighbors.
After the death of the father, the mother lived alone in the old mansion in the countryside, whether it was usually home or the weekend home, or there were a group of neighbors who accompanied the mother to chat in the old mansion, they were all around a round table, a circle of aunts and aunts sitting on the matza, the teapot on the round table was soaked in the teapot of the big brother or the tea leaves I brought back, the whole set of tea sets was also carefully prepared by the eldest brother for the mother, the aunts and sisters chatted hotly, completely lifted the loneliness and loneliness of the mother, and sent us a piece of peace of mind as children.
When she couldn't find her mother in the old house, she went to the neighbor's sister-in-law's house to chat. The sister-in-law regards the old woman as her own mother-in-law, the first thing after getting up every morning is to go to my door first, to see if the old woman is up, if you hear the old woman cleaning and watering the flowers and feeding the birds in the courtyard, you can go back to your home with confidence; If you can't hear the sound and can't see the old woman, you will definitely knock on the door and push the door into the courtyard until you see the mother herself and confirm that she is safe. Usually the mother goes to the sister-in-law's house to chat, if it is time to eat, the sister-in-law is doing her best to cook for the mother.
Neighbors who send food and drink to their mothers are both close neighbors and distant neighbors. A tea, a meal, a dish and a porridge, sent is a love and love for the neighbors to the mother.
The last 9 days before her mother's death were spent in the old mansion. When the mother returned to the old house, she had experienced two shocks in the hospital, and after returning to the old house, the neighbors came to visit, heard the greetings of the neighbors, and the extremely weak old woman still tried to open her eyes; After the second brain infarction, the old woman has been unable to speak for nearly a year, and the mother can only use her eyes to express her concern and gratitude to the villagers, and many neighbors have walked out of the room with tears.
When the old woman died, dozens of villagers came to help the mother to the funeral, many of them were working outside, after hearing the news of the mother's death, did not consider their own economic losses, hurried back, simple, selfless neighborly love let the deceased old woman and the mother's relatives moved.
Now back in the country house, the enthusiasm of the neighbors always makes our family move with happiness; Sometimes the aunt and the eldest lady will take the initiative to talk to us about the scene when the mother is alive, and she will cry when she is talking, and through the tears of the neighbors, I also feel the strong neighborly love that the mother formed when she was alive.
Daddy is gone, the old house of the hometown is still there, the left neighbor is still my familiar aunt big brother and sister-in-law, I will be like the mother when she is alive, pass on this neighborly love from generation to generation, enjoy this priceless friendship and happiness.
【About the author】Feng Lianwei, a native of Linyi, Shandong. He is a member of the Chinese Writers Association, the China Essay Literature Association, the China Natural Resources Writers Association, the Shandong Writers Association, the vice president of the Shandong Provincial Prose Literature Association, and the deputy secretary-general of the Shandong Natural Resources Writers Association. His works have appeared in magazines such as Reading, Overseas Edition of Prose, Hundred Schools of Prose, Oasis, Chinese Reportage, Contemporary Prose, Shandong Literature, And Times Literature; Some works have been selected into various annual prose anthologies, and have won several awards such as the Annual Prose Award of "Times Literature", the Best Work Award of "Qilu Works Annual Exhibition", and the National Prose Competition issued by the Shandong Writers Association; He is the author of "Still Water Deep Flow", "True Water Without Fragrance", "Like Water Flow Year", "Water Leaves Fragrance", "Water, Speaking" and other prose collections.
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