Hu Die, the first beautiful woman in the Republic of China, is a strong presence in the history of Chinese cinema.
She is China's first officially elected "film queen", winning 3 consecutive titles in 2 years, spanning the era of Chinese silent films and sound films.
Although the actresses of her contemporaries have all been star-studded, most of them have not died well.
Some people may say that they are unladylike and experience ups and downs, which makes the ending bleak.
But those encounters, for Hu Die, are not uncommon.
It was only that she dealt with suffering correctly, overcame it, and made it her own treasure.
In this life, suffering is a kind of practice, and adversity is a kind of precipitation.
People who can withstand all kinds of poisons have been scaled all over their bodies;
People who can laugh and watch the wind and clouds have been full of holes;
Every self-reliant person has never had a place to rely on.
A person's attitude towards suffering determines the height of his life.
1 If you can't change the facts, accept it
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "One day, we will accept all the impermanence of life. ”
For children, being separated from their partners is painful, and the feeling of suffering is even worse than that of adults.
When Hu Die was a child, she often had to face this kind of separation.
When she was 3 years old, her father became the chief inspector of the Beijing-Feng railway, and her family began to move in Tianjin, Beijing, Guangzhou and other places.
The journey is a small matter, and the most sad thing for her is to leave her dear friends often and go to completely strange places.
When she first arrived, Hu Di was inevitably timid.
The environment is completely new, the children are strangers, they gather at her doorstep, speaking dialects she does not understand, pointing at her.
Young Hu Di hid in the house in fear.
Her heart was restless and lonely.
In the daily conversation of adults, she has understood that due to the nature of her father's work, leaving familiar friends and meeting new friends will be the norm for her.
Hu Di watched for a while, and finally plucked up the courage to step out of the house and quickly became acquainted with the children.
She learned the local dialect and mischievously imitated the loud shouts of the vendors who sold things.
Hu Die accepted and integrated into everything new, she not only got the love of her friends, but also made her family feel happy.
In this way, everywhere she went, Hu Di spilled her laughter everywhere, made friends everywhere, and became strong in saying goodbye from time to time.
When he was a child, Hu Di had already realized a truth: if you can't change the facts, then accept it.
The poet Whitman said, "Let us learn to go with the flow like trees, facing setbacks such as night, storms, hunger, accidents, etc." ”
In this world, there are always some things, even if the pain is deep, it will not help, and drilling the tip of the bull's horn will only hurt yourself more.
Accepting the truth is the first step in overcoming misfortune. This is not resignation, nor is it not a lack of ambition, but a positive attitude.
In the remains of a 15th-century church in Amsterdam, the Netherlands, there is an inscription like this:
"If that's the way it is, there's no choice."
Since you can't change the facts, accept it calmly and do a good job in the present.
After Hu Die became an adult, she handled all encounters, whether it was public opinion violence or the loss of true love, she handled it according to this understanding, and she became more and more firm in her own view.
2 Compared with the smooth sailing of her career, Hu Die's feelings are quite twisted and tribulations.
During the filming of the feature film "Autumn Fan Complaint", 17-year-old Hu Die played the female lead for the first time, and the male protagonist was lin Xuehuai, who was dashing.
Lin Xuehuai has a crush on the "Pear Vortex Beauty" Hu Di in the play, and has intentions outside the play.
It was the age when the love sinus first opened, and Hu Die, who had not experienced love, was suddenly moved.
She threw herself into that love with all her heart, loved unreservedly, and forgot herself.
What she did not expect was that Lin Xuehuai was a scumbag without compromise.
When she tirelessly pursued her career, he stopped moving forward and had a lot of awkwardness about her growing popularity.
Hu Di did his best to pull him, hoping that he could grow, who knew that he not only achieved nothing, but also added a lot of stinky problems, soaking in the dance hall all day, drunk and dreaming, and wandering skeletons.
When Hu Die couldn't bear to propose a breakup, Lin Xuehuai exposed his ugly face even more, relying on various threats from a marriage contract, stalking and beating.
To this end, Hu Die had to go to court with her former lover and fight a lawsuit for 1 year.
She appeared in court 8 times, exhausted, and almost collapsed.
The tabloid reporter in Shanghai used all kinds of fragrant words to orchestrate many gossips about Hu Die, pushing her to the cusp of public opinion.
In that whirlpool of public opinion, Hu Die's image and body and mind were seriously damaged.
During that time, except for filming, she locked herself in her home and saw no one.
Any little wind and grass made her like a bird of fright.
Hu Di once felt that she had lost the ability to love, and even lost the courage to live.
One night, she opened the window and took a sharp step forward, but she was suddenly startled by her own thoughts.
Why did she take her own life for some malicious slanderers.
If she dies, the world will never have the chance to see her true self.
First self-love, in order to be loved, the audience likes her, she should cherish herself, make a good movie, that is for them, but also for themselves, the best return.
Hu Di pondered for a moment, stepped back and closed the window, returned to the room, and immediately began to contact the crew.
The next day, she lifted her spirits, went out early and returned late, insisted on shooting on the set, and was more dedicated than ever.
The gossip that surrounded her was getting less and less every day.
Hu Die immersed herself in polishing and shaping the role, and the audience recognized her acting skills more and more, and she also stepped into the throne of the film queen in the shooting of one movie after another.
A person's greatest bankruptcy is despair, and his greatest asset is hope.
Hu Die held the biggest asset, and naturally had the confidence to turn over.
She was infamous by malicious denigration, and when she was most desperate, she did not give up hope, and finally had a brilliant career achievement.
See the rainbow after the wind and rain, and people's lives will surely glow with a different brilliance after being baptized by wind and rain.
After this disaster, Hu Die is also more mature.
3 In the toughest times, try to survive
At the same time as the success of her career, Hu Die also continues to look for the person who can be entrusted for life.
Later, she met the tea merchant Pan Yousheng, who was steady and calm, giving her the feeling she wanted.
Pan Yousheng understands Hu Die, and he can see the appearance of Hu Die's scenery and long to be loved. He felt sorry for her and was willing to fulfill her.
He gave Hu Die the courage to start over, and told her that they would be together for the rest of their lives, and they had once spent a happy time together.
Suffering always comes unexpectedly.
A check report given by the hospital made Hu Die feel like a thunderbolt on a sunny day.
Pan Yousheng was diagnosed with advanced liver cancer, and his life entered the countdown.
Hu Di watched with heartache as Pan Yousheng was tormented by illness, and the brilliance in his eyes was lost little by little.
She did her best to fight with the disease for Pan Yousheng, trying to keep him with love, but she couldn't do anything.
In the end, Pan Yousheng still left her.
That year, Hu Die was only 43 years old.
The person who loved her the most in the world went, and Hu Di entered the most difficult day of her life.
She looked around, isolated and helpless, in the vanity fair of the show business, it has always been possible to share the same happiness and suffering, and now she is suffering from this great difficulty, let alone relying on the shoulder, she does not even have a sincere comfort.
Her success is no longer shared, and her unbearable is nowhere to be found.
Hu Di lost the motivation to continue working, and she stopped filming for 10 years.
For 10 years, Hu Die endured bitterly, alone, trying to hold on.
The objects that Pan Yousheng used during her lifetime are preserved in the same way as they were at home, and she always does it herself and cleans it.
Hu Di often carefully wiped Pan Yousheng's picture frame, looked at the way he smiled in the photo, and burst into tears.
"After I leave, you must be well, there are so many viewers who like you, still waiting to see your new film!" 」
She clearly remembered what Pan Yousheng had told her before she died.
She wiped away her tears, carefully looked through every still in the past, and recalled the shooting of each movie.
The nostalgia for her beloved and the obsession with the film industry gradually healed Hu Die, and she finally survived and began to make a comeback.
After years of baptism and precipitation, Hu Die's acting skills have become more and more superior, and she has also won the honor of "Asian Film Queen".
Later, Hu Die quit the film industry and moved overseas until her death.
Hu Die was willing to spend the rest of her life in silence, but the audience did not forget her.
6 years after her death, she won the Chinese Film Century Award and the Actress Award, which is also the best consolation for her.
She worked hard to survive in the darkest moments of her life, and those days that survived made the highlights of her life.
4 Sanmao said a word:
Suffering has become a lesson for us, a kind of education, and if you make good use of this suffering, it is cleverness.
Life is full of suffering.
The attitude towards suffering determines the height of a person's life.
In the face of suffering, some people lie directly flat, some people suffer from gains and losses, and those who can cross the past and reach a certain height are all sober people like Hu Di.
She calmly faced all kinds of suffering, did not give up hope when she was most desperate, tried to survive in the most difficult times, and survived hardships and desperate places until she broke through the cocoon and became a butterfly.
Hu Die's life is full of legends.
People miss her beauty and acting skills, but also admire her character and ability.
She always believed that she was a seed, even if life buried her deeply, as long as she did not give up, as long as she survived, she would eventually wait until the day when she broke through the ground.
At that time, I will stand at the height of the ideal and smile at the breeze and the moon.
May we all maintain our love of life, calmly fight against the suffering of the world, and welcome the sunny days in our lives.