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Just visited a post, I think it is a bit incredible, and I share it with you.
The post was posted by a mother who had just given birth to a second treasure, saying that she was waiting for delivery at the largest hospital in one of the districts of a strong second-tier city, but during the entire hospitalization, she did not hear the cries of the newborn baby, and the delivery bed was not crowded at all. Surprised, I asked the nurse, and the nurse admitted: "In the first few years when the second child began to let go, there were more women. But after only four or five years, there are fewer and fewer women. In previous years, the hospital could only merge gynecology and obstetrics. ”
Zhu Mama remembered that she had written a survey on the willingness to have three children last year, when the data of the sample survey showed that more than 62% of couples of childbearing age were unwilling to have a second or third child, but they did not expect that in the real hospital, obstetrics would be merged with gynecology.
It's really worth pondering! Why the fertility enthusiasm of couples of childbearing age continues to decrease, bamboo mother combined with what she has seen and heard, today also with you to explore.
Reason one: The new generation of couples of childbearing age is more rational and more egotistical
Our parents, the vast majority of them have the concept of "more children and more blessings", in order to have more children, they do not hesitate to violate the family planning fine, do not hesitate to demote and stop paying their jobs, and do not hesitate to toss and feel uncomfortable. But in our generation, the vast majority of post-80s and post-90s couples of childbearing age are more rational and more self-sufficient.
They understand very rationally how much effort and how much money it takes to raise a child in today's education. One child is fine, two children is double pressure, not to mention three children. As soon as there are many children, it is difficult for parents to guarantee equal access to education, which is also unfair to them. For example, an affiliated primary school in the city where Bamboo Mama is located can go straight to the key junior high school, but the tuition fee is 30w for the entire primary school, if it is a child who still bites his teeth to let her go to school, the two children can only give up the opportunity.
They are more self-seeking and eager to have their own independent space. The family has a four-legged gold-devouring beast, fast charging time, long standby time, need parents to accompany them at all times before going to kindergarten, and need parents to supervise and control learning after going to kindergarten, which is time-consuming and laborious. Parents with a child can also occasionally sneak a drama, play a mahjong, take two babies and then there is almost no time for themselves. Why let the child tie up all their own lives, many couples of childbearing age feel that the gain is not worth the loss.
The second reason is that the new generation of couples of childbearing age is more stressed physically and mentally
In the society of the big explosion of information, we are receiving all kinds of information every day, and useful and useless ones are coming one after another, which makes people dizzy. It can be said that since the invention of the mobile phone, our lives have become more convenient, we can obtain more information, and the physical and mental pressure is also greater.
Out of responsibility for their children, the vast majority of parents are "handed over to their grandparents to bring when they go to work, and brought by themselves when they come home from work." Such a model is very tiring, parents all day long like a gyroscope-like axis rotation, every day only fragmented time can be used, physical and mental exhaustion is the norm, really unwilling to dig a pit for themselves again and again. After all, the pit you dug yourself will have to be filled with tears.
Moreover, the elderly help to bring the baby, the two generations of different education concepts often have conflicts, on the one hand, we must do a good job of filial piety example, on the other hand, we want to do our best to communicate with the elderly in depth, this errand is not generally difficult. Moreover, there are many elderly people who are unwilling to bring a baby, and many elderly people do not want to sacrifice their quality of life in their later years, but they are advising their sons and daughters-in-law to have one.
The third reason is that the death of middle age makes couples of childbearing age prohibitive from having a baby
Perhaps it is that our material living conditions are too good now, there are too many things to eat, the way of entertainment and leisure is too easy, "can't control the mouth, can't open the legs" so that many couples of childbearing age have a feeling of first aging just over 30 years old. Staying up late for the next day, the whole day of the whole day can not lift the spirit, hangover a week and the next week every day to run the toilet, the hairline unconsciously moved backwards, the stomach inadvertently grew bigger... All of these sub-health problems are unbearable "middle-aged deaths" for many couples of childbearing age.
In order to cope with the "death of middle age", they can only start the health life of thermos cup soaking goji berries, take time to go to the gym to pick up an iron punch card, and start to sea tao health care products to ensure their nutritional balance... They don't have the time or energy to think about having a baby.
Bamboo mother does have a lot of friends around, young age is easy to cold, allergies, pneumonia, heat stroke, in the middle of the night to coax the baby the next day on the decadence, noon do not sleep in the afternoon collapse, physical fitness is not high so that they are discouraged from having a baby. Especially female friends, when they think of the long pregnancy period so difficult, the experience of having a baby through the ghost door is so dangerous, how many sleepless nights to coax the baby is so tired, they really do not have the courage to do it again.
As above, it is the bamboo mother who saw this post at noon and sent it with feelings. I don't know, is there a similar phenomenon around you?