Recently, Liang Xiaoice, known as the "Queen of Costumes" and "Ice Beauty", opened a live broadcast to sell goods, and interacted closely with her husband during the live broadcast, smiling and eyes, and was not affected by the low popularity at all.
In the classic TV series "New Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai", Zhu Yingtai and Liang Shanbo turned into butterflies and flew doublely.
However, Liang Xiaoice, who played Zhu Yingtai outside the play, was married to Ma Wencai's actor Chen Jiahui, and has been as sweet as ever for 22 years.
Netizens, while admiring and blessing, could not help but ask:
How can you always live your own comfortable life like Liang Xiaoice?
Abundant love nourishes the right three views
In 1969, Liang Xiaoice was born into a family that was not wealthy.
There are many children in the family and the economy is tight, but the parents are always conscientious and even work multiple jobs to support the family.
When my mother arrived home from hard work every day, the first thing she did was cook. Although the family is not rich, several children have never been hungry, and the family is happy.
Growing up in such a loving family, Liang Xiaoice never had a sense of lack, but was full of gratitude to his family and life.
Liang Xiaoice just entered junior high school, and was excavated by the star scouts because of her good looks, and invited her to shoot advertisements. She wanted to help her parents lighten the burden, so she agreed.
Worried that she would lose herself in the entertainment industry, her mother talked to her like a friend:
It doesn't matter if people are poor, the most important thing is to have backbones and rely on their own hands.
A man, the most important thing is hard work, integrity, single-mindedness, character is more important than wealth.
In 1990, Liang Xiaoice signed up for the hong kong sister selection, and ran on the same stage with Yuan Yongyi, and finally won the third place of the hong kong sister, and thus entered the show business circle.
Among them, her mother's teachings have a deep influence on her.
She has always focused on her own acting career, running between home and the crew at two o'clock every day, never passing on gossip with male stars who shoot scenes.
In the face of the rich man's pursuit of confession, Liang Xiaoice said calmly: "You have a wife and children, do you want to cheat in marriage?" Sorry, I don't do the second wife. ”
The rich man took out all his wealth to seduce her: "How should I spend my hundreds of millions of assets?" ”
Liang Xiaoice refused: "What does it have to do with me?" ”
The rich love in her heart and the correct three views give her enough confidence not to cling to anyone in the circle.
Liang Xiaoice self-esteem and self-love attitude, which attracted the attention and appreciation of actor Chen Jiahui.
The two have cooperated in many TV series, many directors and actors of the same crew have praised Chen Jiahui in front of Liang Xiaoice, and the man has also successfully narrowed the distance between them in the name of sending Liang Xiaoice home.
And Chen Jiahui's transfer is eight years. Even if I am very busy filming, I have never slackened off in the past eight years.
After a long period of contact, Liang Xiaoice found that he was his ideal lover: diligent, honest, single-minded and responsible.
It turns out that Liang Xiaoice did not read it wrong.
After marriage, Chen Jiahui pampered his wife even more. Liang Xiaoice postpartum depression, Chen Jiahui directly let her go outside for a vacation to relax, and he stayed behind to learn how to take care of his son.
Married for 22 years, he is not only the pillar of the family, but also a good husband and father.
It is precisely because Liang Xiaoice stick to his principles that he waits for this happiness.
Taught by her parents, she knew:
The love she wants is not a sweet confession, not a reward from above, not a possession based on profit, full of instability;
The love she wants is a silent payment, an appreciation of equal respect, a long-term shared responsibility, a firm choice, a down-to-earth and reassuring one.
If love cannot add icing on the cake to life, it is better to be lacking than indiscriminate.
She said on social platforms: "Instead of pleasing others, please yourself." Be alone in your own world and go with the flow in someone else's world. ”
If she goes to please the rich for money, maybe the entertainment industry will have one more worry-free Kuotai;
But she wanted to please herself more, and finally used eight years to confirm the love of this life and marry the ideal love.
In June this year, Liang Xiaoice posted on Weibo to celebrate her husband's birthday, thanking Mr. Chen for leaving her youth behind. It has attracted netizens to envy this pair of immortal couples.
In the eyes of everyone, she has always been optimistic and positive, but there is a past that has been talked about by many people.
Live comfortably and earn it by your own efforts
Liang Xiaoice, who has a smooth career, is deeply loved by the audience.
But some media said that the only thing she did "wrong" in her life was a war of words with Hong Kong sister champion Chen Farong.
Once participating in a charity event, Liang Xiaoice because he did not wear a uniform jacket, and after taking a group photo, he was blamed by president Chen Farong: no team spirit, bo eyeballs, and low-level means.
Chen Farong also pulled his girlfriends Zhu Yin, Hong Xin, Cai Shaofen and others to take sides for themselves, gradually isolating Liang Xiaoice.
Liang Xiaoice retorted that he was wearing an activity uniform, but he had just arrived after getting off the plane, and no one told him to wear a jacket for group photos.
In the face of slander, she did not tolerate it and fought with Chen Farong for several days.
Afterwards, she said in an interview:
"I have been in the industry for almost 30 years, and after this time, I will remind myself that when I was stepped on by others, I would go home to cry if I wanted to cry, and I would cry out when I went home in pain, but I didn't know why this time was particularly painful, so I would call out."
Her mother reassured her not to take it to heart, but she still stood up many times to defend her dignity.
She no longer faced everyone with the usual gentle and obedient image, but began to learn to express her inner dissatisfaction.
In 2021, Liang Xiaoice, who has faded from the screen for many years, returned to the public eye because of his cave business performance.
So far, I often live stream the goods, and I also post happy moments with my family on social platforms.
Netizens complained that she was "overbearing, out of shape, consuming classics, showing love", she laughed over, even if there were only a few hundred people in the live broadcast room, she also actively interacted, and the smile in the corner of her eyes did not diminish at all.
Because she knows: it is not shameful to rely on her own efforts to exchange for a happy life, and the judgment of others has nothing to do with herself.
As she quoted from Zhou Runfa on Weibo:
"To live, don't turn yourself into what others like, but turn your life into what you like."
Guard the boundaries of kindness and live your own comfortable life
Looking back on Liang Xiaoice's experience, whether it is love or career, she always chooses according to the standard of making herself comfortable.
For many people, it is not easy to live the life they want, often requires a lot of courage and determination, and always faces a variety of choices and choices, so how can we be like Liang Xiaoice?
1. Feel love, appreciate love, share love
There is a saying that in the garden of the poor there are not only flowers and plants, but also kindness and satisfaction, peace of mind and the joy of tiredness.
Although Liang Xiaoice was poor when she was a child, she was full of gratitude to her parents who worked hard to support her family, and she chose Chen Jiahui as her life partner because even though he was not rich, he had been silently good to himself.
Everyone has a love groove in their heart, and when it is filled with love, the person's heart also has a sense of security and attachment.
And learning how to perceive love is also the source of enrichment of love tanks than to ask for love.
Just like Liang Xiaoice, he can always see the efforts and efforts of his family and lovers, and he also gives back to the family with positive love.
If the original family is not enough to irrigate our love trough, we may wish to make a wish list and feel the inner abundance in the process of realizing our wishes through our own efforts.
You can also carry a notebook with you to record the experience of "love" you encounter every day: maybe the weather is nice, maybe it's a kind smile from a stranger, or maybe you learned a new word today...
When the water accumulates, your love trough will always be filled.
2. Hold the switch of happiness in your hand
Many of the troubles in our lives come from "asking for approval," and if the direction of our efforts is to prove to others, it is equivalent to putting our own standards of happiness into the hands of others.
And Liang Xiaoice has always firmly believed that happiness should be obtained by his own hands. Whether it is material or love, if you want it, try to fight for it.
In this process, stick to your heart, not be tempted by the prosperity of the outside world, and do not waver by the judgment of the outside world.
Focus on yourself and try your best to fulfill your wishes. When you add bricks and tiles to happiness with your own strength, you have strength in your heart.
Because of this, Liang Xiaoice always confident and calm.
3. Respect your own experience and have the courage to express your true feelings
To live your own comfortable life, in addition to being clear about what you want, you must also be aware of what you don't want.
Some people often avoid conflict, wronged themselves, and tried to keep others satisfied to maintain peace. But the more so, the more negative emotions accumulate in your mind, and you have to allow yourself to speak up.
Just like recently, the 9-minute embarrassing clip in the variety show "Peach Blossom Wood" dominated the hot search.
Song Dandan suggested that everyone perform the program to familiarize themselves with each other. Although the young people present here looked embarrassed, in view of the fact that the proposer was a senior and an authority, he had to submit to the decision of the patriarch.
In this regard, only Wang Chuanjun firmly responded: "I will definitely not act."
"I had a strong feeling of being pushed along. I don't like that feeling very much. ”
In his eyes, instead of passively completing the "performance task", it is better to naturally hear and dance when everyone is in love.
This undisguised and sincere expression has resonated with many people.
When you have negative feelings about something, don't rush to suppress it, eliminate it, stop and observe, try to live with it for a while, by asking yourself: Why do I feel this way? Little by little to discover the truth behind it.
Only like Liang Xiaoice and Wang Chuanjun, respecting their own experience and having the courage to express their true feelings, will your boundaries not be repeatedly trampled on, and your heart will naturally be comfortable.
May you see the truest self on the road of life, and always have the courage to live your own comfortable life.
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