On April 16, 2022, Shen Mengchen said in the variety show "Chinese Wedding",
She was not ready for the wedding, and the other guests present expressed great incomprehension.
It is no wonder that in February this year, Shen Mengchen and Du Haitao only ended their 9-year relationship and officially announced that they had obtained the certificate.
Now is the time to prepare for the wedding, why not?
Shen Mengchen saw the doubts of the others and slowly explained:
"In fact, the wedding has been preparing for a long time, but it has been delayed for various reasons."
"Although I used to yearn for a meadow wedding, now that I am mature, I don't need that fairy tale world anymore."
Is it really not needed? Her face was clearly full of regret.
Da Zhang Wei said meaningfully: "Those that you once wanted but did not get, will be full of regret when you think about it later."
After the program was broadcast, some netizens said: "People who are too active in love will only make the other party not cherish." ”
There is no doubt that the other party mentioned by netizens refers to Du Haitao.
Why do netizens say this?
What role did Shen Mengchen play in this relationship? Is there a precursor to such an outcome?
1. Before graduating, he changed careers to become a host
In 1989, Shen Mengchen was born in Jishou, Xiangxi.
In this small town with beautiful mountains and rivers, Shen Mengchen spent a happy childhood.
When he was a child, Shen Mengchen was very introverted, and he was sentenced to two people now.
This is mainly due to the influence of the father.
In Shen Mengchen's memory, his father always looked like he didn't smile.
The discipline of her was very severe, and for a long time,
Shen Mengchen became a little timid and not good at words, and she hated such a character very much.
At that time, Shen Mengchen was very eager to become a humorous and funny person, and did not want to become as serious and rigid as his father.
So when she went to school, she liked to play with cheerful people.
Only in a cheerful environment can Shen Mengchen make himself optimistic.
The reason why there is this feeling is because Shen Mengchen's "introversion" arises from the repression brought by the family, not from her nature.
Therefore, over time, she was influenced by her friends around her, and her personality was corrected little by little, and she became no longer introverted.
In 2006, Shen Mengchen was admitted to his favorite acting major at Hunan University and began to set out for the road of an actor.
In his sophomore year, Shen Mengchen saw that Hunan Satellite TV was holding a star sister election activity, and felt that it was an opportunity, so he signed up to participate.
Unexpectedly, as soon as she appeared on the stage, she won the Most Photogenic Award, the Health Posture Award and the Runner-up Award with her pure and lovely face.
More importantly, she was also invited by Hunan Television to be the location host.
The opportunity was unattainable, but Shen Mengchen hesitated.
First of all, because her ideal is to be an actor, she is very unwilling to change careers before graduation.
Moreover, she had not been a host for a day, and she was a little worried that she would not be able to do it.
But after a fierce ideological struggle, Shen Mengchen finally decided to accept the invitation.
Because she thinks that the competition in the line of actresses is too fierce, it is better to be a good host first, and then find an opportunity to act after becoming famous.
As a non-professional host, Shen Mengchen encountered many difficulties after joining the work.
But she always maintained a modest and studious attitude, and asked her seniors in the stage for advice as soon as she had the opportunity.
After several years of experience, Shen Mengchen's hosting skills have been greatly improved, which has also allowed her to get more opportunities.
In 2013, the director team of "I Am a Singer" invited her to serve as Lin Zhixuan's singer agent.
Among the seven agents in the same period, she was the least qualified and the least famous.
But she was the luckiest.
Because Lin Zhixuan's performance in the show is very eye-catching, even the exposure of Shen Mengchen is extremely high.
Coupled with their frequent interaction in the show, there was a scandal at one point, forcing Lin Zhixuan to come forward to clarify.
In short, through this program, Shen Mengchen is a small fire.
During that time, her Weibo followers also soared from tens of thousands to more than 400,000.
Since then, she has often appeared in major variety shows in Hunan TV, and her fame has become increasingly large.
In 2015, Shen Mengchen was appointed instead of He Jiong and Wang Han to host the summit of "I Am a Singer".
When he first received the task, Shen Mengchen felt incompetent and wanted to resign.
But after the comfort and guidance of director Hong Tao, she slowly accepted the reality and was ready to do her best to die.
After two days of preparation, Shen Mengchen finally stumbled to complete the challenge.
Although many netizens accused her of "hosting embarrassment", this opportunity did bring her great attention.
Since then, Shen Mengchen has been more praised by Hunan Satellite TV, and has vaguely succeeded Xie Na as a "new sister".
She also revived her dream of being an actress and began to participate in some film and television dramas.
Although he was always complained about his poor acting skills, Shen Mengchen still enjoyed it.
Although Shen Mengchen's road to fame has had a lot of negative news, it is insignificant.
If you dig deeper, you will find that these news have traces of deliberate hype.
After all, the competition in the entertainment industry is so fierce, it is understandable to play some tricks in order to become popular.
The reason that really made her controversial was her "singable and weeping" love history with Du Haitao.
2. Fall in love with the "stupid son of the landlord's family"
In 2013, Shen Mengchen and Du Haitao met on a show.
Although Shen Mengchen was already a little famous at that time, there was still a certain gap compared with Du Haitao.
The two sides didn't think much about it when they first met, but continued to get along as colleagues.
But after a long time, Shen Mengchen was still attracted to Du Haitao.
Because she thinks Du Haitao is very attractive.
Although Du Haitao is a "gas bag" in "Happy Base Camp", nicknamed "the stupid son of the landlord's family".
But outside the program, Du Haitao is a humorous person, and he is also a "pistachio" in the eyes of colleagues.
Shen Mengchen was too deeply influenced by his original family and had never resisted humorous people.
And the contrast of Du Haitao's personality is even more intoxicating to her.
So Shen Mengchen took the initiative to attack, asked for Du Haitao's contact information, and asked him to repair a computer and have a meal.
After all, Du Haitao is 2 years older than Shen Mengchen and has been immersed in the entertainment industry for many years.
Therefore, Shen Mengchen's careful thoughts he could see clearly.
But Du Haitao did not show too much initiative, because he still "loved" another person in his heart, Wu Xin.
In 2005, Wu Xin and Du Haitao won the first and second places in "Shining New Anchor" and entered the "Happy Base Camp" together.
Since then, they have become good friends, and they have "lived together" for a period of time during the period of financial constraints.
Since then, Du Haitao has always had a good feeling for Wu Xin, who is four years older than him, and even openly showed love in the show.
In 2010, Du Haitao confessed to Wu Xin on a show, saying that he was willing to do anything for her.
After that, he confessed "affectionately" to Wu Xin on different occasions for three consecutive years.
But the funny thing is that Wu Xin had a boyfriend at that time and did not need Du Haitao's flooded love at all.
What is even more ridiculous is that although Du Haitao said that he loved Wu Xin, he never broke his girlfriend around him.
Therefore, Du Haitao is just a confession to fry CP with Wu Xin.
There is no doubt that Du Haitao did have strange feelings for Her because of the care of Wu Xin in the early years.
But several public confessions in succession are obviously speculative.
On the other hand, even if Wu Xin knows it, he can only accept it helplessly for the effect of the program.
It is precisely for this reason that Du Haitao is very restrained about Shen Mengchen's appearance.
But with the increase of contact between the two, he slowly developed a good feeling for the young and beautiful Shen Mengchen.
Once when the two of them ate together, Du Haitao patiently peeled shrimp for Shen Mengchen.
Shen Mengchen was touched by his gentle behavior at that time, and his whole heart melted.
Next, the two people naturally became boyfriend and girlfriend.
It's just that at that time, both of them were in the ascendancy of their careers, worried that the announcement of the relationship would have a negative impact, so they were always sneaky.
But there is no impermeable wall in the world, and in 2015, their relationship was exposed.
In March of that year, someone published an online photo of Du Haitao and Shen Mengchen traveling to South Korea together, and the scandal between the two was confirmed.
Since then, some netizens have found that the two are wearing the same pajamas in the pictures of different programs.
Well, even the rumors of the two living together have been hammered.
However, after the relationship was exposed, they did not get blessings, but attacks.
Shen Mengchen also began to realize from this time that her love path would face something.
3. Humble love
All along, Hunan Satellite TV has been deliberately creating the topic of Du Haitao and Wu Xin.
Now that the heroine has suddenly changed, many viewers naturally do not accept it.
Du Haitao's fans said that Shen Mengchen was too cunning and wanted to borrow Du Haitao to take the throne.
Shen Mengchen's fans said that Du Haitao's cartilaginous man was not worthy of his own goddess at all.
Only those who are disgusted with both of them will sincerely bless: You two are good at getting together, and save yourself from harming others.
Seeing that public opinion was menacing, Du Haitao did not stand up to protect his girlfriend, but repeatedly remained silent, trying to drag it until the heat dissipated.
Only Shen Mengchen stood alone on the cusp of the storm, facing the pointing and pointing of the crowd.
Not long after, Du Haitao offered to break up, but the reason he gave was to protect Shen Mengchen.
Although outsiders, and even Shen Mengchen himself, said that they could not understand, there was no doubt that Du Haitao did indeed do so.
Recalling the bits and pieces that were once together, those gentle pictures were vividly remembered, and Shen Mengchen was very painful.
During that time, she suffered from anorexia, a meter and a half tall, and lost only 90 pounds, which can be described as physically and mentally exhausted.
Shen Mengchen once said that Du Haitao had his own light on his body, and he would be inexplicably attracted to him.
Now this light had escaped, leaving only Shen Mengchen's small boat to circle in the dark night of the sea.
After another period of time, Shen Mengchen found that he could not give up this relationship, so he began to find ways to save it.
She called Du Haitao to get back together, but she didn't know how to open her mouth.
When Du Haitao saw that she did not speak, he coldly replied, "What's the matter?" Nothing to hang up! ”
When Shen Mengchen heard that he was so desperate, his heart was like a knife and tears were like rain.
Some people say that the more active people are in their emotional life, the more passive they tend to be.
Because the more you give, the harder it is to accept the consequences of failure,
Many times for the so-called love, you can only wronged yourself, Shen Mengchen is like this.
She couldn't accept an inexplicable breakup or the futility of more than two years of feelings.
Therefore, we can only give in again and again, and use our own humility to win back the hearts of the other party.
In the end, after all, Shen Mengchen couldn't help but run to Du Haitao's house to ask for peace, and this relationship was able to continue.
But the twisted melon is not sweet, and the love that is forced cannot be.
Although they are compounded, conflicts caused by different concepts still occur frequently.
Once Shen Mengchen and Yang Di co-hosted the show, and it was inevitable to joke with each other for the sake of entertainment.
But Du Haitao was jealous of this, and the two had a big fight, which escalated into cold violence and did not speak for a week.
In the end, it was Shen Mengchen who took the initiative to apologize and asked for Du Haitao's forgiveness.
This incident made Yang Di's situation very embarrassing, and also made other male hosts who partnered with Shen Mengchen cautious from then on.
It is reasonable to say that what he does not want to do to others, but Du Haitao did not think in a different position, nor did he care about Shen Mengchen's feelings.
At a New Year's Eve party in 2018, Du Haitao once again cue Wu Xin:
"My happiness is very simple, as long as Sister Xin is happy, I am happy."
At that time, he and Shen Mengchen had been in love for five years, and it had been almost three years in public, and he had come to this set again.
Even Wu Xin couldn't look at it anymore, and replied on the spot: "Don't tie me up anymore, when will you get married?" ”
According to netizen statistics, Du Haitao has publicly confessed Wu Xin five times in a row, and privately there is no way to know.
This is the treatment that Shen Mengchen, a legitimate girlfriend, is difficult to enjoy.
However, for Du Haitao's behavior, Shen Mengchen silently accepted it and still did not abandon it.
Perhaps in her opinion, the ability of two people to be together is the most important, and these details can be ignored.
Moreover, Shen Mengchen had already made up his mind that he would not marry Du Haitao in this life.
But even this guarantee, Du Haitao had never given it to her for a long time.
4. "Forced marriage" is forced into a traffic password
Although shen mengchen and Du Haitao were just together, there were voices of opposition everywhere.
But over time, many people silently accepted this setting.
Once, Shen Mengchen mentioned in the show that she and Du Haitao had been in love for too long, and her family and friends around her were urging marriage.
Since then, the topic of the two "getting married" has often appeared on hot searches.
In 2018, Shen Mengchen posted a group of photos of himself wearing a wedding dress.
Subsequently, some people said that Du Haitao proposed to Shen Mengchen, and the two were preparing for the wedding.
But it didn't take long for Du Haitao to respond that they had no plans to get married, and Shen Mengchen was filming a show.
This made many people feel that Shen Mengchen was taking the opportunity to hint at Du Haitao's marriage proposal.
So a hot search was born, "Shen Mengchen forced marriage in disguise.".
Later, because it was debunked, it became "Shen Mengchen forced marriage unsuccessfully".
In fact, most netizens are looking at the hilarious mentality and cannot really understand the thoughts of the parties.
She and Du Haitao have been in love for many years, and it is only natural that she will have a vision of family and marriage.
Even if it was really "forced marriage", it was Also Shen Mengchen's helpless move, because Du Haitao had never promised her.
Once, when she was on the show, she said that she most wanted to change the label of "Du Haitao's girlfriend" into "Du Haitao's wife".
At the same time, she also revealed that she has been designing wedding scenes.
As soon as these words came out, the guests at the scene thought that their good deeds were near and offered their blessings one after another.
But who knows, this matter has not been followed for a long time, and many people are curious about where they have gone.
Zhang Han quietly asked Du Haitao in a program: "When are you going to get married with Shen Mengchen?" ”
Du Haitao replied: "At every stage, we are doing what should be done at each stage step by step. ”
This vague answer, which simply translates to "it's not yet time to get married."
Marriage is originally a matter of two people, and if one party does not take the initiative, there is no way to proceed.
But for Du Haitao, although he did not have the courage to get married, he still had the courage to hype in the name of marriage.
In 2019, Du Haitao and Shen Mengchen participated in the variety show "Daughters in Love".
In the program, Du Haitao snot and tears at Shen Mengchen's father and vowed to marry Shen Mengchen.
This look of infatuation also moved Father Shen's eyes red.
After the show was broadcast, some netizens accused him of making a show: "Who stopped you from marrying?" Is it good that you don't want to propose? ”
But I have to say that Du Haitao's set is really good.
This show was hyped up, and he also took the opportunity to become popular again.
Du Haitao, who discovered the traffic password, repeated the trick the following year.
In October 2020, he revealed to the public that he was preparing to get married.
It is always correct for the parties to say it themselves, and many people believe it to be true and send them blessings.
As a result, the matter remained closed.
Fast forward to 2021, and the two have been together for 8 years.
Shen Mengchen joked to himself on the variety show: "It is useless to urge marriage, Du Haitao can't even blow (urge) the tornado." ”
This remark has caused countless netizens to express their heartache.
Within a few days, the news of the two breaking up broke on Weibo, and it was said that they had emptied each other's records.
Therefore, some people said that shen Mengchen's words angered Du Haitao, which led to the breakup.
As a result, they suddenly came out to refute the rumors that this was a misunderstanding, and the two just set weibo to be visible for only half a year.
Then he also interacted sweetly on Weibo and showed a wave of love.
But the matter of marriage is still far away.
It was not until February 2022 that Du Haitao and Shen Mengchen officially announced their certificates and ended this 9-year love run.
Finally, there was no need to see the news of "forced marriage" anymore, and everyone was relieved.
Then again, since Shen Mengchen exposed the news that he was "not ready to do a wedding", nearly 3 months have passed.
How the two of them decide now is unknown to outsiders.
However, on July 10, some people saw Du Haitao and Shen Mengchen appear at Hengshan mountain and pray together for blessings.
In the photo, Du Haitao's figure is visibly thinned to the naked eye, and his body is quite erect.
Praying for blessings and losing weight, I don't know if the two are preparing for the wedding.
Perhaps, this time it is really a good thing to approach!
epilogue
Shen Mengchen once said: "I like to go off the ordinary road and don't like decent things." ”
After learning about her and Du Haitao's love experience, I found that she had the same preference for love.
But in any case, the two finally cultivated the right results.
As an outsider, what can you say other than wish them happiness?