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After dinner, I took Qiyue to the square to play, and just happened to meet Kiki's mother also playing with Kiki, Kiki is 5 years old this year and is in kindergarten.
Although the two girls are 1 year apart in age, they are about the same size, Kiki is one year older than my family's Seven Joys, but she looks more like a sister.
Kiki's mother told me that Kiki is not tall, thin and small, too introverted and timid, and dare not take the initiative to express anything when encountering anything, Kiki's mother is always worried that her child will be bullied in kindergarten and bullied.
Kiki's mother listened to her friends talk about some bullying children on campus, so she often worried that Kiki would encounter the same thing.
Yes, children always have to grow up, parents can not always stand behind them to protect them, if it just happens that their own children are timid and cowardly, will the children be bullied at school?
This kind of thing must be prevented in advance, and cannot wait until the child is really bullied to save it, at that time, the child's heart and body will definitely be hurt.
Especially in kindergartens, children sometimes have unclear language expression at this age, and even do not know that the other party's behavior is bullying themselves, and the teacher can not do everything, at this time the child will eat dumb in vain.
Therefore, parents must pay attention to it, prevent it in advance, teach their children the knowledge of anti-bullying, and let their children learn to protect themselves!
In kindergarten, children who are bullied often have 3 qualities
There are many children in the kindergarten, there are at least 20 children in a class, so why are your children targeted and bullied?
In fact, if we look closely, we will find that children who are often bullied have some similar traits, and there are about 3 traits to summarize specifically.
Children are short or thin
Imagine 2 children playing with the same toy at the same time, one of them is tall and looks very unpleasant, while the other child is short, thin and weak.
At this time, if a "good deed" comes and grabs the child's toy, which child's toy do you think he will grab?
Needless to say, he would grab the toy of this diminutive child, because such a choice was the least threatening to him.
Everyone will weigh the pros and cons before making a decision, and the psychology of profit will make the child choose to bully the object that is weaker than himself, so that he can get the greatest benefit, reduce unnecessary trouble, and the short child will become the first choice for being bullied.
Just like Kiki, compared with children of the same age, Kiki is shorter in size, and will look very small in the class, and sometimes strong children will bully her when playing games or playing with toys.
The most serious thing is that during an outdoor activity, Kiki was stepped on by a little boy and then pushed down, after the fall Kiki's arm was bruised, crying in pain, Kiki's mother saw her daughter being bullied, and she was very distressed.
Timid and cowardly
The child's personality is more or less with a little innate genetic factors, some children are extraordinarily extroverted, commonly known as "self-familiar", and anyone can speak, in public places are not afraid, speak generously and generously is very majestic.
However, some children's personality is more introverted and well-behaved, dare not take the initiative to express themselves, will be afraid of cowardice when encountering things, and never dare to take the initiative to speak out.
Therefore, when such children are bullied in kindergarten, they often choose to remain silent, because they are always afraid of telling the truth and do not know how to express their hearts.
Such a performance will send a wrong signal, that is, the psychological hint that "you are a soft persimmon and can be bullied and bullied at will".
Those children who like to bully others will always choose to bully this timid child, because this will make these bullying children find a sense of existence in it, and they will mistakenly think that they are very powerful and capable.
There is such a timid child in the Qiyue class, this child has always been brought by her grandmother, her parents are very busy at work, and usually have little time to manage their children.
The little girl has a very timid personality, when she encounters things, she will hide behind her grandmother, and she does not dare to refuse the requests of others, looking particularly cowardly, and has been bullied several times in the class, and once her arm was bruised and bleeding very badly.
For a while, the little girl cried every morning and refused to go to kindergarten, and staged a pulling war at the kindergarten door, because she was often bullied, and the child had a fear of the kindergarten in his heart, always worried that he would be attacked again.
More honest kids
Honest children generally have a more docile personality, rarely say "no" to other people's opinions, as long as others put forward requests, he will agree and meet.
Children with such a personality give people an impression of "no opinion, no idea", and those children who love to bully people will specifically pick honest children to bully, because they know that honest children will not resist themselves, and they dare not go around preaching.
Children who are too honest are generally more aggrieved, and often give up their own principles in order to satisfy others, which is really distressing.
Let the child become tough and bravely say "no" to the bullying loudly
Although we don't want to be a bully, we don't want to be an air bag and become the object of being bullied by others.
Therefore, parents should teach their children in advance to identify what is bullying and bullying, how to say "no" loudly to refuse unreasonable requests, and to know how to protect themselves.
Qiyue also had such concerns and worries before he first entered kindergarten, when I consulted a senior kindergarten teacher, who said that if he wanted his children not to be bullied, he should instill this knowledge in advance.
She recommended me a set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Education Picture Book", which is specially designed for preschool children, which is very in line with the law of children's psychological development and is the best way for children to learn anti-bullying knowledge.
I would take Qiyue to see it before going to bed at night, and I didn't expect that this set of books would have a particularly great impact on children.
Qiyue used to be afraid when he had conflicts with children, but since reading this set of books and facing unreasonable things, Qiyue was able to bravely reject each other, and it was reasonable.
Since kindergarten, she has never been bullied in kindergarten, and even if there are occasional quarrels, she can bravely defend her rights and protect herself.
This set of books has a total of 8 volumes, with clear themes, covering the most common daily bullying phenomena, physical bullying, emotional bullying, implicit bullying, physical injury, social bullying, financial bullying, relationship bullying, verbal bullying, etc., giving children the most comprehensive guidance methods, suitable for 2-8-year-old children to read.
Each book conveys knowledge content to children in the form of stories, so that children understand the meaning of bullying, know how to refuse, and learn to bravely protect themselves.
For example, if you are relatively short and fat, always called "little potato", such a situation makes you feel very hurt inside, then what should you do is the most correct?
The content of the book is to quote the most real scenes and cases around them, so that children can quickly feel empathy, a strong sense of substitution, and children can learn to deal with skills and methods while reading stories.
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If you have children who are about to go to kindergarten, or your children are timid and often bullied, then please pay attention to them, because children in early childhood often encounter trouble, not not to say, but not to express themselves completely, but these hurts will leave a mark on the child's heart.
To prevent children from being bullied, parents must be prepared in advance, instill in their children a sense of self-protection, enhance self-confidence and ability, and children can grow better!
How do you teach your children to protect themselves?
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