Love can be unconditional, but it must be principled.
In recent years, there is a parenting saying that "be friends with children", emphasizing that in life, parents should respect their children and get along with their children like friends.
There is no doubt that parents should give their children love and freedom and space for autonomous activities, but are parents really suitable for friends with their children?
Education comes first, and then you have spare energy to be a friend.
As a parent, you must first fulfill your duty as a parent, and secondly, you must become friends with your children.
When the child is young, do not rush to be "friends" with the child, the child of this age does not have the ability to measure and judge things.
If you don't make rules for your children when you are young, even the best education when you grow up may be useless.
So, don't be friends with your children at the age when you make rules.
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In recent years, the term "sense of boundaries" has become more and more important.
There is a book that describes the sense of boundaries like this: the boundaries between people, the inner self- boundaries.
The sense of boundaries, to put it bluntly, is to grasp the appropriate measure in interpersonal relationships, you have your space, I have my freedom, do not interfere with each other.
Such boundaries can help us not to "intrude" into other people's territories at will, but also protect ourselves from being disturbed, have a suitable sense of boundaries, and better get along between parents and children.
At home, parents often make their children's sense of "boundaries" blurred because they love their children and want to become friends with their children.
Children who lack a sense of boundaries will never grow up.
Because his heart has always stayed in the primitive attachment stage, such as he has the ability to do it, he does not do it, he feels that this is all the business of his parents.
A very important reason why children lose their sense of boundaries is that parents themselves lack a sense of boundaries and choose to be friends with their children when they should make rules for their children.
However, a child's development requires a sense of boundaries.
The lack of a sense of boundaries is the source of many painful relationships.
For children, rules are boundaries, what can be done and what cannot be done.
The establishment of a sense of boundaries is a gradual learning process.
If children do not develop boundaries and establish a sense of rules at an early age, they will often do some things that cause headaches for parents in their future lives.
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The essence of education is a cultivation of parents.
It is not simply to meet the child's requirements, but to cultivate his reverence.
Children with a reverent heart are more likely to follow the rules, and they will have stronger self-discipline and rationality in the future society.
To educate children, we must not only have a temperature, but also a scale.
Tell your child that there are three bottom lines that cannot be violated, that is, not to hurt themselves, not to disturb others, and not to destroy the environment.
Love can be unconditional, but it must be principled. Love is the premise of education and the basis for establishing rules.
Every word and deed of parents has an unforgettable impact on children.
If there is any parenting skill in the world that is the most effective, it is the words and deeds of parents!
If you're going to be friends with your children, be a respectable mentor.
Mentors come first, and friends follow.
And tell the child: I love you, but I will never indulge you.
Source: Xinhua News Agency