The 81-year-old man, with 3 sons and 1 daughter, 2 sons gave his mother an idea: "The little brother has the most difficult life, you sell the house, the money is given to the little brother, let him buy a new apartment, and then he will give you a pension and send the end, and the house belongs to him." A year later, my mother regretted it
81-year-old Zhang Guofeng, with three sons and a daughter, a monthly retirement salary of 2600 yuan, after the death of her wife, she lived alone in the old house, the first is the daughter from Monday to Friday to accompany her, the weekend let several sons take turns to take care of, a few years later, several children are exhausted.
Later, the second son proposed to let his mother sell her old house, because the transportation was inconvenient, it was far away from several children, it was better to buy a new house, live with the younger son, take care of it, and the mother could inherit the house after a hundred years.
The reason why the second son said this is because the younger son's family conditions are the most difficult, and he wants to help him in disguise, which is a good thing to kill two birds with one stone.
Zhang Guofeng happily agreed, making a request that the newly purchased house must be registered in her name. Not long after, the younger son sold the old house for 1.6 million yuan, and bought a new house with 1.97 million yuan, with a difference of 370,000 yuan and took the real estate certificate to borrow 400,000 yuan.
The mother is old, this matter is handed over to the younger son to deal with, but did not expect that several sons concealed her, and wrote the name of the younger son on the real estate deed.
Zhang Guofeng is a strong personality, love to calculate the old lady, and after living with the daughter-in-law, less than half a month on the contradiction, for this new home she feels uncomfortable, suspected of living on the third floor, climbing the stairs is too laborious, and said that the bath is not comfortable, in short, the new home is very uncomfortable.
The younger son thought that the mother just moved over and was not used to it, waiting for a while, later, overcoming these difficulties, but began to be dissatisfied with the daughter-in-law, for example, she felt that the sofa at home was too high when washing her feet, and the daughter-in-law specially bought a shorter one, but the old lady was still not satisfied, and the daughter-in-law said: "I am using a hot face to paste other people's cold ass stock." ”
The old lady said that this was the daughter-in-law cursing people without dirty words, too disrespectful to her, she did not want to suffer such grievances, why should the daughter-in-law give her a look. For this small matter of sesame green beans, the younger son felt that there was no need to go on the line, but the old lady felt that the younger son was partial to his wife and did not take himself seriously.
Once, the daughter-in-law said to take the child back to the mother's house, at first said to go for a day, and then a few days did not come back, the old lady said that the daughter-in-law is too self-righteous, before going out to talk to her, before not greeting in advance, this home as an inn, too casual.
The old lady always hoped that the son would come forward and teach this ignorant daughter-in-law, but the younger son did not take it seriously, which annoyed the mother, and she resolutely did not want to live with the daughter-in-law and wanted to live in a nursing home.
The old lady had no money in her hands, and she offered to sell the house, and the younger son used to have a small house, and after moving in with his mother, he rented it out. So even if he sells his house, he still has a place to go.
The younger son heard that his mother had this idea and was blinded. The newly bought house himself also out of 400,000, the old lady is very stubborn, is not willing to live together, the second son also persuaded for half a day, and finally said that you are not used to it, just go to my place to live, the old lady is unwilling, afraid of adding trouble to the second son, and finally the second son can only respect the mother's own decision.
The younger son was naturally not happy, and tried to persuade the mother, and finally the family came to the mediation room for help, and when the mother learned that the younger son was hiding from her and the newly purchased house was listed in his name, she cried bitterly in an instant, not expecting that her own son would treat her like this.
The younger son admitted that this was not done properly, but the second brother and sister also agreed at the time.
The second brother said that their boss loves to "nibble on the old", these years always look for their mother to get money, there is no self-motivation, they are afraid that their mother's house will be remembered by him when they arrive, and they will be lost when they ignore it.
Although they are for the good of their mother, the old lady still can't accept it, my house is up to you, I don't agree, your house must be returned to me! The younger son was emotional when he saw his mother, and finally agreed to do as his mother wanted.
The lawyer advised the old lady: "The market is not good now, if you sell this house now, you may lose more than 100,000 yuan, it is not cost-effective." ”
In the end, they gave an idea, the old lady wanted to go to the nursing home, then respect her meaning, the house is not sold first, the cost is paid by several children.
The second elder also expressed his willingness to pay, considering that he had said that the younger son would send the mother to the end of the pension, and the house would belong to him in the future, and in the end he would bear all the expenses of the mother in the nursing home, if one day, the mother did not want to live, and then move back.
The old lady's attitude has also eased up a lot, and she has not argued to sell the house anymore, in fact, she just does not want to live with her daughter-in-law.
The above material source is "Mediation Room"
People are old, sometimes like children, some old people may "compete for favors" with their daughters-in-law, always thinking that their sons can stand on her side, in fact, they are some trivial things, in fact, as a son, sometimes coax the elderly to say a few words, she may not be so calculated, what they care about is not the event itself, but an attitude problem.
When people are old, they must also learn to look away, be a little less angry, try not to find things, and get along harmoniously with the family, which requires everyone to work together and operate with heart.
