In today's high-pressure society, more and more people have grown into the most annoying flattering personalities. People with a "flattering personality" usually continue to abandon themselves, and satisfy others, care too much about what others say about themselves, and hope that the other party can agree with their own views.
Compare yourself to see if you have the characteristics of a flattering personality?
In particular, the "flattering personality" is:
1, always worried that others do not like themselves, do not dare to reject others, always in order to meet the expectations of others and grievance themselves;
2. People with a flattering personality often lose their own principles and bottom lines in the process of interacting with others, and do not know how to refuse any request from others;
3, people with a flattering personality are always careful to suppress their true desires, try to gain recognition by pandering to others, and dare not boldly express their true wishes and ideas, in fact, behind the hidden is often inferiority, fear, fear of loss.
Young parents, if you happen to see my article, I sincerely recommend that you pay attention to the following aspects to prevent children from becoming flattering personalities:
1. Praise the child, don't always hit the child
Every child has self-esteem, and if every thing you do or express your opinion receives is denial, criticism, and blows, then even the strongest heart cannot bear it. Children in elementary school are in the stage of self-confidence cultivation, if they are always suppressed, they will become inferior, dare not bravely express their ideas in front of everyone, for fear of being ridiculed. Such children are very likely to become "flattering personalities" when they grow up;
2, to give children companionship and parents more love
Now some parents are busy at work, resulting in a long period of absence from the growth of their children, so the children will feel very lonely and helpless.
3, do not be too demanding of children
As soon as the child is born, the parents have great hopes. Children from school, scores have become the only way for parents to care about their children, so children psychologically think that their parents' love for themselves is conditional, and when they become adults, they will only use flattery to get the love and affirmation of others, and they are used to hiding their shortcomings.
Young parents, we must give the child's growth stage enough psychological nourishment, every time we recognize and appreciate or deny and criticize, will bring different degrees of impact on the child's physical and mental growth, let us work together to keep the child away from the "flattering personality" and live out the most authentic self.