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Editor / Little Love Letter
Recently, the lawsuit of a celebrity couple abroad has attracted the attention of netizens around the world.
The male protagonist of the classic film series "Pirates of the Caribbean" Johnny . Depp, with his wife, the heroine of "Aquaman," Amber. Hield's "domestic violence problem" is in court.
Domestic violence has become a social problem that has been of great concern at home and abroad in recent years.
Sad things happen all the time, regardless of age, regardless of gender, group or profession.
Some people can bravely stand up and speak out, while many people can only suffer and thus affect their lives.
The protagonist to be talked about today, the well-known actress Yu Xiaohui, has experienced the double blow of her husband's domestic violence and infidelity, and her love road is bumpy, and she is willing to spend more than half a hundred years alone.
1. The flowers bloom silently
Yu Xiaohui's appearance in many film and television dramas is mostly based on the roles of "rich wife", "famous character" and "villain beauty".
But many people should be most impressed by her is probably the 1996 TV series "PeaceTime".
It was shortly after she started filming film and television dramas, partnering with Zhang Fengyi, Wu Yue and others, and winning attention for herself with the beautiful and gentle and quiet "Murong Qiu".
Stills from The Age of Peace
Compared with those spicy, snobbish, and flamboyant characters, among the many characters who have been interpreted, only "Murong Qiu" is closest to Xiaohui himself.
She is beautiful, gentle, and her facial features are exquisite and exotic.
Even though she grew up in a miserable family, neighbors were able to spot her outstanding side among several siblings.
At that time, many elders encouraged Yu Xiaohui to become an actor, so after graduating from high school, Yu Xiaohui, who was 18 years old, was admitted to the Shenyang Repertory Theatre and became a drama actor.
At this time, she was still more than a decade away from her first famous work.
And this more than ten years of time has also made her experience too much pain.
After becoming a drama actor, the young Yu Xiaohui is always dazzling on the stage, and her beautiful face and youthful breath make many people of the opposite sex salivate.
The love sinus began to open, and soon she met and fell in love with an official eunuch who was several years older than herself under the arrangement of chance.
This talk of love, ah, the old saying said to pay attention to a door to the right.
Are there happy marriages with disparities in family status?
Yes, but this odds need to be gambled. Bet on the character of the other party, bet on the character of the other party's parents.
When Yu Xiaohui's parents learned of their daughter's relationship, they seemed to be not very satisfied, and what they cared about was the problem of "door to door".
When love is a headshot, other questions can be blurred.
Yu Xiaohui had no experience, did not think so much at all, and fell into the quagmire of love.
In 1985, 20-year-old Yu Xiaohui, full of expectations for a happy marriage, married the second generation of officials who were older than herself and richer than her own family.
At that time, Yu Xiaohui was also considered to be highly married, in colloquial terms, climbing a tall branch. Others think so, and So does Yu Xiaohui's husband.
After the marriage passed, the wolf in sheep's clothing began to expose the corners of his true mouth.
I don't know if it is Yu Xiaohui's birth problem, or personality reasons.
In her married life, she took great care of her husband and also made small and low accommodations. Maybe she feels that she is more tolerant and considerate, and her husband can understand and love her more.
It was just that it backfired, and Yu Xiaohui's heartfelt love did not get a response, but magnified his ugly humanity.
2. There are thousands of disasters
When contradictions and quarrels broke out, some people chose silence and some people chose to comfort, but Yu Xiaohui's husband chose to beat up his weak wife.
After punching and kicking, the man still left with anger without a trace of remorse, leaving Yu Xiaohui alone in the same place to bear the double-layered pain of the psychological body.
Afterwards, she once again chose to forgive, feeling that her tolerance and concessions could be exchanged for the peace of the family.
But people at that time may not have known the phrase "domestic violence is only zero times and countless times".
Yu Xiaohui's step-by-step forbearance makes her husband more wanton, not only violent at any time, but also ignores the existence of her wife and has close contact with other women outside.
Unable to bear it, Yu Xiaohui plucked up the courage to find out the cheating husband theory, who knew that he was abused by the husband who was wrong first.
Enough disappointment and chills, I saw through the essence of this tragic marriage.
Yu Xiaohui and her husband parted ways and struggled to win the custody of their son, and the mother and son began their life adventures.
After becoming a single mother, Yu Xiaohui put all her thoughts on her son, and she did not want her son to have a bad life because of her own influence.
But at that time, the monthly salary of the repertory theater was very meager, which was not enough to support them.
At the most difficult time, Yu Xiaohui could only buy the cheapest dishes, and the mother and son suffered a lot.
Because the son has only lived with his mother for a long time, he lacks the love of his father. As a mother, Yu Xiaohui's full love not only allows her son to be cared for, but also makes her son's personality become timid and twisted.
Yu Xiaohui knew that she could not protect her son under her wings like a hen all her life, and boys should have the masculinity of boys.
"In order to cultivate his masculinity, change his character." I took him to play on the slide, and he was too scared to go up. So I slapped him hard with a stick, and finally he went up. I haven't hit him since. ”
Poor parents in the world, those sticks smoked on the child's body also smoked on Yu Xiaohui's heart.
The beating was profound for both mother and son. But Yu Xiaohui's path to cultivating her son has also become a long way to go.
When his son was 15 years old, Yu Xiaohui sent him abroad to study.
At the beginning, yu Xiaohui would give her son 70 percent of the living expenses under the public standard after paying the tuition fee, and then reduce it by 10 percent year by year.
Under such rules, Yu Xiaohui's son must do some part-time jobs in order to ensure his life.
"He's worked as a waiter in a restaurant, a caddy on a golf course...
Gradually, he also experienced the harvest and joy of labor. Later, he would take the initiative to ask me to lower the standard of living expenses. ”
This approach really worked, and the son not only learned to be independent but also learned how to get along with others and how to solve problems on his own when faced.
It is really good to remember is not as good as a bad pen, and practical actions are much more useful than Yu Xiaohui's painstaking words of a thousand words.
Later, her son also opened a small restaurant with money he saved from his part-time job.
Women are weak, but mothers are strong.
After suffering trauma, Yu Xiaohui still plucked up the courage to bring herself back to life and raise her son to be sensible and obedient.
Should Yu Xiaohui, who has worked hard, usher in a happy life?
3. Not a thousand sails
Time back to the 90s, while entering the show business circle from the drama troupe, Yu Xiaohui also conformed to the "business boom" and began to start a business.
Don't say that her business is doing well step by step, and the income is not bad.
Her friend Zhang Kaili has publicly praised Xiaohui's business ability.
Life is like this, from the pessimistic side, it makes Yu Xiaohui suffer from domestic violence, infidelity, and single mother pain.
From the optimistic side, it is precisely because of the various temperings of life that Yu Xiaohui has gradually grown from a gentle and quiet woman to a strong woman who can rely on herself and be independent.
Some people can't help but wonder, is it that Yu Xiaohui has not loved again after so many years? Yes, but it is also a sad story.
It is said that the other party dressed as a successful person, and the fierce attack won Yu Xiaohuifang's heart.
But this man gambled on a huge debt, and Yu Xiaohui was tricked into paying off the debt for him.
But in the end, this man "returned" by leaning on another rich woman and abandoned Xiaohui.
Thousands of worlds, beautiful and excellent, but she has never been able to meet a person who sincerely treats each other for a lifetime.
Once because of work, Yu Xiaohui's total rest time a day added up to only five or six hours.
When filming CCTV's costume drama "The Great Voyage", Yu Xiaohui suddenly had a high fever in a high-intensity working state, but she still insisted on completing the final shooting.
After returning to Shenzhen, her physical condition deteriorated, and Yu Xiaohui fell into a coma with a high fever for several consecutive days. I changed the hospital twice a week, and several times I reached the stall where life and death were at stake.
"At first we all thought it was a cold and flu, but we didn't pay too much attention to it, but then the situation became more and more serious. Doctors diagnosed deep pneumonia, and the situation was not optimistic. ”
At such a critical moment, only a few of her sisters were running back and forth to accompany Xiaohui.
Several of the sisters have gone their separate ways, but she has been alone for many years. In the end, fate took care of it, and Yu Xiaohui survived.
People are always vulnerable when they are sick and always want their loved ones to be by their side.
For 56-year-old Yu Xiaohui, as her parents get older and get rid of their sons, it seems that it is difficult to have any other relationship equivalent to this.
After so much experience, whether the harvest can heal the hurt of the past, and when the night is quiet and needs comfort, will she feel desolate in her heart?
Why are more and more people reluctant to choose marriage and do not want to believe in love?
Too many people are like Yu Xiaohui who have been devastated and hurt in the love test, so they began to close their hearts and did not dare to love again.
In the process of self-healing, I found myself living alone without being disturbed, and I actually enjoyed it.
Looking forward to the lives of others, looking back at their own experiences, some people feel empathy and some people do not understand.
And the question of love and hurt, which varies from person to person, is also thought-provoking.