Yesterday back, downstairs met the next door neighbor, gossiped about the child and the mobile phone, said that for this and the child quarreled several times, but also staged the scene of snatching the mobile phone, sighed and said that so on, this damn mobile phone will really ruin the child's life.
I am also the parent of a high school boy, and the neighbor's family has not been less worried about this kind of thing. When I got home, I thought about it carefully, and I felt that there were some things that could still be written out and shared.
How to say it, this thing is like a sword, placed in the hands of the defender is the sword of justice, and in the hands of the gangsters it becomes a murder weapon.
It is also like being fortunate to incarnate the Purple Qing Sword into the sword sheath of the Purple Xia Immortal, and if it cannot be pulled out, it is the fate of being trapped in the sword sheath and dying in the sword sheath; And if someone arrives and draws the sword, it may have achieved a touching and heartfelt strange relationship.
Therefore, swords or mobile phones are just tools, whether they achieve you or destroy you, the blame is not the tool itself, but to see who holds the tool in his hand, to see how you use it.
Of course, in response to the concerns of neighbors, let's narrow down and talk about whether children should have mobile phones. Will the phone ruin the child?
Should my child have a mobile phone? Anyway, as far as I know, a large number of primary school students already have it, and this thing is already a common thing. Even if you don't buy it for your children, many schools have merchants around the school who make this kind of black money, and they can easily rent it with a little money. Therefore, the mobile phone can not be stopped, will always reach the child's hands.
So it's more practical to discuss the second question, will the phone ruin the child?
The essence of this problem is actually a question of how to guide children to use mobile phones correctly.
Parents cannot be lazy, they must play their due role. Or our downstairs commissary, when passing by, as soon as I heard their second-born, five- or six-year-old girl, crying heart-rending, my wife and I would laugh bitterly, knowing that this was not allowed to play mobile phones, and began to make trouble again.
Why? Because ah, usually a busy, the couple can not take care of the child, throw a mobile phone to let her corner brush vibrato to play, all kinds of strange, strange tones, and tacky to make people vomit can laughter, make the child giggle cheerful.
Hey, this little child got used to being with the mobile phone so early, opened a digital life, and the diaphragm of the real world, real life, such a child, there is a high probability of being ruined by a small mobile phone.
Who is to blame for this? Blame the parents, blame the adults, did not fulfill the responsibility of companionship, did not play a guiding role.
I can only say that I am glad that my wife and I realized this earlier. Now that the world has changed, the Internet has emerged, and mobile phones have come, our daily behavior needs some new rules.
In elementary school, when it was the fifth or sixth grade, the children used the mobile phones we eliminated. Knowing that the mobile phone could not be blocked and could not be banned, so the child went to the first year of junior high school, we bought him a new mobile phone and told him that this was his first mobile phone.
However, we also put forward two requirements, one is that the mobile phone is mainly used to check the information, you can also leisurely watch movies, anime, listen to music and so on, the other is that we must be allowed to check the chat history from time to time, but to ensure that we will not settle accounts after the autumn, and will never leak his little secrets to others.
Just had a cell phone and obviously felt our respect for him. The child was still happy and cheerfully agreed. However, since then, I have taken the mobile phone as a treasure, and the first thing I did when I came back from school was to turn over the mobile phone, eat and watch, and go to the toilet.
How does this work? Then add rules: come back and do your homework first, and you can't play with your phone while eating.
At this time, it was obviously not enough to ask him alone. Therefore, my wife and I also followed the same, and everyone did not play with mobile phones when eating. I was an exception, of course, and I could turn on my phone and read the news and tell them interesting things. This one is a harmonious family relationship, and it is very boring to eat with a stuffy head. The second one is to subtly tell him the usefulness of the mobile phone as a tool, but also to let the child understand the current politics, discuss and discuss the news is fake news, in short, still hope to bring the real world to him.
Later, he was found hiding in the bed at night playing with his mobile phone. This must also be corrected. What to do? As long as you complete your homework and listen carefully to my homework for a quarter of an hour, you can spread out and play with your mobile phone, but you must upload it at ten o'clock on time to rest, and everyone's mobile phone is placed in the living room to supervise each other.
This left him speechless. Although we have also found a few times to steal the mobile phone to play, but we are also laughing and joking, laughing and scolding the point, telling him that it is okay to make mistakes, thinking about slowly controlling and slowly correcting it, so that this problem is rarely committed.
Then, I began to bring my mobile phone to the school, which was also forbidden. What to do? I clearly told him that I would not take him with me, but it was confiscated by the school, I would not buy it for him again, I would love my own things, you look at it?
In this way, there was still a situation, I couldn't help myself and took my mobile phone to school, and I was discovered by the teacher. But this time I had to thank the teacher for handling it properly, their class teacher called him, talked seriously, and then said: This time give him a face, next time must be confiscated, severe punishment!
Not bad, this guy escaped death, and he won't do it again. Even if the child has a little control, thank god thank the teacher and thank himself.
Of course, there are a lot of small stories, small embarrassments, and small conflicts, so I won't say them all. Anyway, now the child is going to be a senior sophomore, after four or five years of experience in owning and using mobile phones, now children can basically be regarded as rational about mobile phones.
The mobile phone should still be used, but when things happen, you can put it down. Since the child has reached such a state, I have less to worry about.
In general, the mobile phone this thing, to ban must not be forbidden, only in how to guide the way to think of more ways is the strength to spend the right place.
Don't blindly prohibit, don't rob, don't use force, allow the child to make some mistakes, talk well, and give him a relaxed atmosphere to guide him slowly. Don't think about this too badly, commit anxiety disorders, lose your mind, then the whole family will not be able to live in peace.