What is marriage? Some people say that it is nothing more than the small things of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.
However, many people are not good at dealing with these small things, such as this "vinegar", more jealousy, it will be sour, and the marriage will become flavorful.
Hu Zongnan, a proud protégé who was heavily respected and trusted by the old Jiang. He was one of the fastest promoted students of the Whampoa Military Academy, becoming the deputy division commander of the major general at the age of 31, becoming the first general of the Kuomintang Huangpu department students, becoming the commander of the lieutenant general at the age of 40, and later being sent to Guanzhong and becoming the famous "King of the Northwest".
Who can believe that the majestic Hu Zongnan will be a big vinegar jar and like to eat fly vinegar very much.
The original wife who was snubbed
Hu Zongnan was born in a pharmacy owner's home in Zhenhai, Ningbo, Zhejiang Province, and after graduating from middle school, due to the limitations of the family's economic conditions, he did not continue his studies and returned to Xiaofeng County Higher Primary School as a history teacher.
One morning in the spring of 1918, 22-year-old Hu Zongnan came out of the county high school, walked along the East Street to the Xinglong Bamboo Shop, entered the door, and greeted the boss Wang Jiahe with a fist. The two had a good friendship, and Wang Jiahe directly led Hu Zongnan to the back room to drink tea. The person who served them tea was a young and beautiful girl.
Hu Zongnan couldn't bear to look at the girl a few more times, soft and beautiful melon face, and smiled very good.
It turned out that this girl was the sister of Wang Jiahe's wife, that is, his sister-in-law, named Mei Xiutang.
Wang Jiahe praised Hu Zongnan in front of Mei Xiutang, and she naturally had a good feeling for this cultured young man. He looked at Hu Zongnan again at Mei Xiutang's appearance, and knew that the boy was afraid that he had taken a fancy to his sister-in-law, so he had the heart to match, called his wife, and the four of them played cards together, so as to give Hu Zongnan and Mei Xiutang a chance to get along.
Lang has a concubine intention, Hu Zongnan and Mei Xiutang are so good, and the Hu family is also very satisfied with the big ladies in this city. The following year, during the Dragon Boat Festival, the two became intimate in the ancestral chapel of Hexi's hometown.
The two newly married people, grace and love, like glue like paint, so that Hu Zongnan forgot his homework. The school authorities constantly urged him to return to school quickly, and he was reluctant to marry his new wife, so he waited until the end of the summer vacation to prepare to return to the city to teach.
On the day of the separation, Mei Xiurong sent her husband to the village entrance. That day, there happened to be a Shaoxing opera class acting in the village, a group of actors met Mei Xiutang, their eyes lit up, and they were amazed by this beautiful woman.
As a husband, Hu Zongnan felt very uncomfortable in his heart, and he was jealous, but he also knew that it was not his wife's fault to look good, so he tried his best to suppress the vinegar and think of what the ancients said: "In the beginning of the teaching women, anti-adultery must be forbidden." So he told his wife to abide by the way of women at home and not to go to the theater.
Mei Xiutang smiled and agreed.
Hu Zongnan returned to the city, his heart was up and down, the Mei family was better off than them, in the city it was inevitable to watch dramas, marry into the countryside, inevitably lonely, plus Mei Xiutang was born beautiful, easy to become the object of men's hunting. He couldn't stop thinking wildly, worried that his wife would not be able to withstand the seduction of others and do things that corrupted the family style. So he rushed back to his hometown overnight, only to see that there was no his beautiful wife in the house, and when he asked his mother, he did know that Mei Xiutang really went to see the play.
Hu Zongnan was angry and annoyed, angry that his wife did not listen to his advice, and annoyed that he could not stay by his wife's side. The more he thought about it, the angrier he became, afraid that his wife was a watery Yanghua person, and when the time came, he would make a mess of himself. Do you want to divorce your wife? But he was reluctant to give up his beautiful wife. Moreover, he is a good-looking person, but he can't pull down that face to make the whole village know. He thought about it, and he had to think of a way to cure Mei Shi well.
In the dead of night, Mei Xiutang returned from watching the play and was surprised to see her husband.
This night, Hu Zongnan did not embarrass his wife, but on the contrary, he was very considerate and gentle with her. However, after this night, he will find all kinds of reasons not to go home, and even if he comes home, he will treat his wife as air, do not talk to her, do not sleep with her.
Mei Xiutang was very confused, she didn't know which door her husband was angry with, she endured, held back, and her heart was very unhappy, originally a beautiful woman was tortured into a complaining woman.
After more than three years of marriage, Mei Xiutang thought of having a child with her husband, even if she could not improve the relationship between husband and wife, at least she had a sustenance. She plucked up enough courage to draw her husband's attention, but what she got was a look of disgust on his face. She couldn't stand it anymore and asked him why he was so snubbed.
Hu Zongnan snorted coldly and said without anger: "Want to watch the play?" ”
At this moment, Mei Xiutang understood the reason why her husband hated himself. She is aggrieved, don't you just watch a play, as for such a calculation? Her eyes were red with tears, but she still couldn't touch Hu Zongnan's heart.
In 1924, Hu Zongnan abandoned his pen and was admitted to the Whampoa Military Academy, and since then his career has been smooth. Gradually, he left his wife in his hometown out of the clouds.
Mei Xiutang, on the other hand, stayed alone in the empty room and has been waiting for her husband, but she has not been able to get the response or care she deserves. Gradually, she became insane, crying and laughing.
If it is a woman now, when she encounters a man like Hu Zongnan who eats flying vinegar and deliberately snubbs his wife, he will have kicked him away long ago, and it will be his turn to torture himself. However, Mei Xiutang is a woman from a hundred years ago, her mind is still stuck in the "three from four virtues", she has a husband who eats vinegar indiscriminately, he punishes her with his jealousy, she cannot resist, and she is always reminded that she has done something wrong, that she deserves it.
In today's terms, Hu Zongnan is carrying out cold violence against Mei Xiutang, this poison can be more torturous than punching and kicking, and it is no wonder that Mei Xiutang is driven crazy.
In July 1937, when Japanese planes bombed Xiaofeng County, the crazy Mei Xiutang died under the bomb of the Japanese Kou, ending her poor life. Before long, Hu Zongnan had become the "King of the Northwest" with heavy troops.
Once upon a time, Hu Zongnan and Mei Xiutang were also a loving couple. If Hu Zongnan, after knowing that his wife defaulted to go to the theater, gave a good admonition, rather than just caring about cold violence and letting jealousy and speculation expand infinitely, maybe Mei Xiutang would not go crazy, and maybe she would not die tragically.
The second lady who was held in the palm of her hand
Dai Kasa is a friend of Hu Zongnan, the two have a good friendship, and it was still Hu Zongnan who recommended Dai Kasa to Old Jiang.
In 1937, when Hu Zongnan was a guest at Dai Kasa's house, he met a young, beautiful and intellectual woman, she was Ye Xiazhai.
Ye Xiazhai was born in a family in Lishui, Zhejiang Province, and she did well in her studies, but her father was still relatively old-fashioned, thinking that girls did not need to read too many books and did not plan to send her to college. She wanted to go to college, but her father did not provide her, so she chose to study in a publicly-funded school, entered the Hangzhou Police Officers School, and became a student of Dai Kasa. Later, she went to Shanghai Guanghua University for further study.
In 1937, Ye Xiazhai, who was already in the third year of Shanghai Guanghua University, returned to Hangzhou to visit relatives, and by the way, he went to visit the home of his mentor Dai Kasa, and it happened that Hu Zongnan was also a guest that day, and the two met.
Hu Zongnan fell in love with Ye Xiazhai at first sight. Ye Xiazhai liked the story of heroes and beauties since she was a child, and she admired This Hu Zongnan, who was only 1 meter 6 tall but had high courage and wisdom. As a result, the relationship between the two developed rapidly.
In June 1937, Hu Zongnan sent a beautiful and expensive watch to Ye Xiazhai as an engagement gift. However, a month later, the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression broke out, and Hu Zongnan, as a soldier, could not care about his children's love, so he rushed to the battlefield, and his marriage date with his fiancée had to be postponed.
After graduating from university, Ye Xiazhai chose to go abroad for further study, and studied until her doctorate, and only returned to China in 1944. For so many years, she has been waiting for Hu Zongnan. It was hard to wait for the victory of the War of Resistance, but the civil war broke out again, and she had to continue to wait.
In March 1947, Ye Xiazhai received a telegram from Hu Zongnan, asking her to go to Yan'an quickly and get married!
On the day of the wedding, Hu Zongnan invited 8 people, prepared 8 dishes, and did not notify others first, until the deputy officer bought a red candle, and the others knew that the Northwest King was going to get married.
The year Hu Zongnan married Ye Xiazhai, he was already over half a hundred years old, and she was also in her thirties.
Ye Xiazhai waited for Hu Zongnan for 10 years, a woman's best years are spent in waiting, to endure the thoughts, to withstand loneliness, to withstand the merciless test of time, perhaps it is her persistence, keeping the covenant, Hu Zongnan will be particularly cherished.
Hu Zongnan was very kind to Ye Xiazhai, but because he was busy with military affairs, the couple separated again after three days of marriage, and for several years after that, they both lived a life of gathering less and leaving more, relying on letters to convey their thoughts about each other. She bore him children, and he became a father when he could have been a grandfather.
Hu Zongnan and Ye Xiazhai's relationship is so good, their feelings have also stood the test of time, they trust each other, it is reasonable to say that he should also relax his heart and should not be jealous. However, on the issue of feelings, Hu Zongnan is still a person who likes to eat fly vinegar.
Ye Xiazhai recorded the story of Hu Zongnan eating flying vinegar in her memoir "Heaven and Earth Youyou".
One year, Hu Zongnan and Ye Xiazhai were rowing on Hangzhou's West Lake. In the face of her sweetheart and beautiful scenery, Ye Xiazhai, who likes to sing, can't help but sing a song, and her favorite song is Fan Zhongyan's "Blue Cloud Sky". Her singing voice is beautiful and beautiful, and Hu Zongnan is immersed in her singing and beautiful shadows.
Suddenly, a burst of applause broke the pair of lovers immersed in each other's world. Hu Zongnan smelled the prestige, only to see a boat not far from them, a young and sunny male student clapped his hands, very appreciative, and kept shouting: "Another one, another one." ”
Hu Zongnan looked at that vivid and youthful face, and then looked at the flower-like jade woman around him, thinking that he was a lot older, although he had achieved fame, but there were also things that could not be sought and retained. So, without a fight, he drank the young student and asked him not to make a fuss. Two men, one large and one small, quarreled and almost started to fight.
Hu Zongnan overturned the vinegar jar, the sour strands sprang out, people were in jealousy, they often did not go through the brain, they said some ugly words, and Ye Xiazhai ran home directly in anger, and cried a lot.
Men are emotional, and their hearts and eyes are really small!
This was trouble, Hu Zongnan offended Ye Xiazhai not lightly, and in anger, she ignored him, did not see him, did not answer his phone, and snubbed him for three days.
Hu Zongnan was anxious, originally he felt that he was justified, just like when he snubbed Mei Xiutang, waiting for Ye Xiazhai to beg him and coax him. Who knows, Ye Xia zhai does not eat his set.
Hu Zongnan became very passive, and when he was cornered, he had to ask his mother-in-law for help, which made Ye Xiazhai discouraged.
At that time, Hu Zongnan also swore to Ye Xiazhai very pitifully, saying that he would never eat dry vinegar again.
When Hu Zongnan ate flying vinegar, Mei Xiutang didn't have any way to take him, but instead made himself trembling and crazy. However, Ye Xiazhai was able to cure Hu Zongnan, who was eating flying vinegar indiscriminately.
Mei Xiutang and Ye Xiazhai are both Hu Zongnan's wives and beauties, but their biggest difference lies in their thinking, the former is an unfortunate woman trapped in feudal etiquette, while the latter is a confident woman with cultural wisdom.
A man like Hu Zongnan, only a woman like Ye Xiazhai can descend.