When the child goes to kindergarten, many parents are not too relieved about their children's kindergarten life, after all, parents are very concerned about the safety and physical and mental development of their children, lest their children encounter something bad in kindergarten, resulting in children being unhappy.
However, after the child goes to school, parents often do not know how the child is doing in kindergarten and whether he is really happy.
3-year-old Xiaoxuan to the age of kindergarten, and her mother has already registered Xiaoxuan, when the school starts, Xiaoxuan happily followed her mother to the kindergarten, unlike other children, Xiaoxuan did not have a sense of resistance to the kindergarten, but very much like to come to the kindergarten.
In fact, this is mainly because Xiao Xuan's brother went to kindergarten before, which made Xiao Xuan feel very envious, so he always wanted to go to kindergarten.
In the first day or two, after Xiaoxuan returned home, he would often tell his mother about the funny things that happened in the kindergarten, but after two days, Xiaoxuan was often silent after he returned home, no longer taking the initiative to mention what happened in the kindergarten, nor telling his mother how he was doing.
After two days, Xiao Xuan began to resist going to kindergarten, and when her mother sent Xiao Xuan to kindergarten, Xiao Xuan would cry.
In the face of Xiao Xuan's crying, the mother only thought that the child was fresh and energetic, disobedient and did not want to go to school, and did not think of other reasons.
After another day or two, Xiao Xuan's mother found that there was something wrong with the child, because now Xiao Xuan not only cries when he mentions the words kindergarten, but also often has nightmares after falling asleep at night, and even wakes up crying, at this time Xiao Xuan's mother realized that it may be that the child is not happy in the kindergarten.
In fact, Xiao Xuan told his mother about his unhappiness from the beginning, but his mother did not find out. So, when children are unhappy in kindergarten, what characteristics will occur?
There are three manifestations of children after returning home from school, indicating that they may not have a good time in kindergarten, and parents should be vigilant
Children are reticent and depressed after school
The child's heart is "straight", and if there is anything happy or unhappy, it is easy to show it.
Therefore, if the child is very happy after school, then he will be very active in sharing his kindergarten life with his parents and talking with his parents about the interesting things about kindergarten.
However, if the child encounters unhappy things in kindergarten, then the child will keep his mouth shut, one is because the child's mood is not good, more negative, so he does not want to talk; The second reason is that the child does not want to bring up unhappy things again.
Therefore, if the child becomes silent after school, it is likely that he has encountered something unhappy in kindergarten.
Children are reluctant to mention kindergarten or attend kindergarten
Children's emotions are more likely to fluctuate, and children will take the initiative to stay away from insecure factors.
Therefore, when the child shows the parents that they do not want to go to kindergarten, or even do not want to mention the matter of going to kindergarten, parents should understand that the kindergarten has brought some insecurity to the child, that is, the child is unhappy in the kindergarten.
Of course, in some cases, children may also refuse to go to kindergarten because of their bad personality (willfulness, etc.), but this factor is often manifested at the beginning, rather than after a period of kindergarten.
Therefore, if the child does not want to go up, it is likely to encounter unhappy things.
Children cry when they mention kindergarten, and even have nightmares at night
If the child usually has a fierce emotional reaction when exposed to any factors related to the kindergarten, such as crying, etc., and even sometimes has nightmares when sleeping at night, then the child is already very unhappy in the kindergarten, and it is very likely that the child has been unfairly targeted in the kindergarten.
At this time, parents must be vigilant enough, because this degree of unhappiness is likely to be caused by classmates, but because the child has encountered an unqualified teacher.
What should parents do if their child is unhappy in kindergarten?
Although kindergarten is not compulsory education, the impact of kindergarten enlightenment education on children's growth cannot be ignored, so children must go to kindergarten. At this time, we need to help the child solve the problem of unhappiness.
(1) Communicate with the child what causes the child to be unhappy
Generally speaking, children are not happy to go to school, in order to ease the child's emotions, so that the child can continue to go to school well, parents first need to calmly communicate with the child, understand the real reason for the child's unhappiness, only in this way can help the child solve the problem.
For example, if the child is bullied by others, the parents can cooperate with the teacher to solve the problem. If the child is treated differently by the teacher, the parent can cooperate with the park to solve the problem. If the child is affected by other factors, parents can also find a park or teacher to solve the problem.
(2) Learn about the situation from the teacher or other children
Many times, children are often reluctant to tell their parents why they are unhappy, or they are unable to clearly express the reasons why they are unhappy. At this time, parents can take the initiative to learn about the situation from the teacher or the child's classmates and parents of classmates.
Because children have limited expression ability, it is very common to say that it is not clear, at this time parents need to know how to objectively collect evidence, such as direct communication with the teacher when picking up the child, and communicating with the parents of the students when waiting to pick up the child.
(3) Seek help from functional departments
If the child is not clear, the teacher is silent, others are at a loss, and the parents suspect that there are any factors that harm the physical and mental health of the child, then the parents can find the relevant functional departments for help, such as the Education and Sports Bureau, through the intervention of the functional departments to understand the child's school situation in detail, and understand the real reason why the child is unhappy.
epilogue
Children are not happy to go to kindergarten, most of them are caused by objective reasons, so parents should not always think that children are "not easy to learn, not obedient", but to correctly understand the truth that children do not go to kindergarten, so as to be able to fundamentally solve the problem.
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