How much pressure does a woman have to endure if she is not beautiful or not maintained enough?
A few days ago, I came across a message:
Zhong Liti was ridiculed for being "not maintained enough, like a grandmother" in front of more than 10,000 people, tears spilled in the live broadcast room.
"I know a lot of people laugh at my marriage, laugh at my dressing style, laugh at my figure, but I'm a mum of three, don't ask too much of me!"
At the age of 51, she is afraid that others will say that the difference between her and her husband is too large, so she is as fit, beautiful and in the best condition as possible.
She hadn't drunk Coke in more than 20 years. Go to bed at ten o'clock every night, don't smoke, don't drink, don't stay up late, do exercise every day, but still be complained about.
In contrast, two days ago, the 41-year-old Jiaojiao sent a photo of her plain face in the early morning.
Blown bullets can be broken skin, bright and gorgeous facial features, no makeup is better than makeup.
Many comments at the bottom praised her plain face and resistance to beating, "tender past eighteen years old".
The harshness and polarization of public opinion have made our team's friends sigh with emotion.
Everyone sighed: If this identity is reversed, will everyone laugh at a middle-aged man who is not worthy of a wife?
Xie Na's second child came back and was photographed as a plain face, and the media used the four words of "exhaustion".
Gao Yuanyuan postpartum filming, "collagen deficiency face", the major drafts are written "really old".
As a woman, looks seem to matter. Stars are like this, and ordinary people don't go anywhere easier.
Roll up the skin, roll the body, from the nail cover to the heel, every place must be exquisite, otherwise it is a poor and rough earth girl.
The point is not to show too much force, it is best to be naturally beautiful, light and breezy.
On the one hand, social opinion wants us to be exquisite, and on the other hand, it also flaunts that "it is good to be yourself, there is no need to work too hard."
Tangled twists are the norm.
I have to say that on the two-way road of becoming refined and anti-refined, every woman is quite tired...
A "reconciliation with the plain face" scam
Remember when there was a time when the whole network was brushing a topic of "reconciliation with plain face"?
At first, everyone thought that they could finally stop wearing makeup, no longer P pictures, and beautifying their faces.
As a result, when I opened the hot list, the highest voice was all big beauties.
Their skin is white and red, watery, and occasionally has a few blackheads and freckles, but it does not affect the appearance at all.
Some girls are obviously very good-looking, but they cry in front of the camera with beautiful pupils:
"I really don't dare look at myself."
"There's a pox here."
"There's some uneven skin tone here."
Without saying a few words, he began to cry, and was ridiculed by netizens as "really embarrassing".
Some bloggers have also taken the road of pseudo-plain face for the sake of traffic.
From eyeball camouflage to earlobes, choose a perfect angle of lighting to highlight the well-defined eyelashes and lips that are still bloody without lipstick.
A liberation movement became a shura field for men and women.
To be honest, I think most people's first feeling when they see these plain faces should not be relaxed, but more anxious.
"If there is no reconciliation, there is still no reconciliation."
"I'm not reconciling, I'm going to appeal."
"I just don't think I'm good-looking, I just want to put on makeup."
Yang Mi, Shen Mengchen and Tong Liya once appeared on a show "Real Man", which was the most impressive female star Quan SuYan.
All female guests in the first issue were asked to remove their makeup.
Dark circles and a dull face are unobstructed.
The most embarrassing thing is Shen Mengchen, after removing makeup, her skin has darkened three degrees, until now, her dark skin is still often used to say.
South Korean girl Pei Linna is a beauty blogger who became popular for teaching makeup and clothing matching for women with plump bodies.
When she was a child, she became fat due to a tumor resection, and she was refused to share the table with her by her classmates, and she would be reprimanded to go home when she exercised in the gym.
Unable to tolerate such insults, Pelina began to learn makeup.
Late last year, she uploaded a video called "It's Okay If It's Not Pretty."
In the shot, she cut off her long hair, removed her thick makeup, and put on her glasses, expressing her desire to reconcile with Su Yan.
The comments in the comment area are:
"That's ugly, isn't it?"
"The face is also too big!"
"I'm going to look like you, and I'm going to kill myself."
The acceptance of self that is said to be good has become a finger pointing out of looks.
It makes one wonder: What exactly are we reconciling for?
When no makeup becomes a liberation movement
In South Korea, where appearance is extremely harsh, there are many girls like Pei Linna.
Imperfect appearance is not only a regret, but also a sin.
Korean girls who have been indoctrinated with the importance of makeup since childhood believe that:
Makeup is a form of etiquette and a respect for others.
Many Chinese women studying in South Korea have experienced similar "culture shocks":
"When you go out and take out the garbage, you have to put on makeup."
"Even the sweeping aunt is more exquisite than me."
According to statistics, The average Korean woman spends 2 hours a day on makeup, and one in every three women has had plastic surgery.
In South Korea, a female anchor with glasses to broadcast news can cause an uproar.
A Starbucks member was complained about by a customer for not wearing makeup;
The Korean girl group Dreamcatcher took off her high heels to dance, and the first time she comfortably completed the performance, it was on the hot search;
Under pressure, many Korean women began to rebel.
They posted photos of themselves smashing cosmetics and cutting off their long hair online, and some people changed their usual ladylike outfits...
But movement is merely movement.
The huge promotion of the cosmetics industry and the deep-rooted traditional concepts of people still engulf many women.
And this inner volume has begun to spread to the mainland, and it is becoming more and more intense.
Many merchants equate "women should love themselves" with "beautiful women are piled up with money".
"It's all because you're ugly and can't wear makeup, so no member of the opposite sex likes you."
"With XXX next door, you're going to steal your boyfriend, your husband, and all the men in the world."
The once-popular paper "The Economics of Beauty in China's Labor Market: Does Body Matter?" It also defines this value in a data-based manner:
For every 1 kilogram increase in a woman's weight, her wage income decreases by 0.4 percent; for every 1 centimeter increase in height, women's wages increase by 2.2 percent.
The biggest impact is on middle-income women, and middle-income women who are obese will have wages down by about 10 percent.
Beauty = value = money.
So the truth is, a lot of women don't want to reconcile, everyone wants to become what the public likes.
Vupova's exclamations from decades ago still apply today:
"Women's bodies do not belong to themselves, and public opinion determines their hair color, their weight, their body type, their type..."
Who kidnapped your beauty?
Some people might find me harsh:
"What does someone else's delicate others have to do with you?"
"Is it true that all roughness and ugliness are the manifestations of connotation?"
Of course not, the real refinement should be to respect the beauty of each age and grow old gracefully.
If you carefully decorate your life, just for the circle of friends to post out the nine palace grid;
Struggle to fill the wardrobe and shoe rack, only for a moment of glamorous pressure;
Deprive all carbs of happiness just for the sake of others with the phrase "Hello young"
Even the emotional failure and work failure are attributed to their own lack of beauty...
This excessive, tangled, twisted beauty is a burden.
The People's Daily once made a portrait of this "pseudo-exquisite" woman:
The mask of 100 yuan is not painful to use;
Lipstick two or three is not enough, to set a complete set;
As soon as you have the urge to exercise, you have to get an annual card...
Everything was decent, and it came to an abrupt end on the day of the credit card repayment.
Raise the material and appearance to an excessively high position to show that you are living well, but do not pay attention to daily living habits and connotations.
The "beautiful self-confidence" piled up in this way will only lead to greater anxiety...
In "The Great Mrs. Maisel", Mrs. Maisel is armed from the strands of her hair to her heels, measuring the circumference of her body every day for ten consecutive years, and her pregnancy is not slack, and even her husband has not seen her plain face.
So exquisite, when the marriage went wrong, her parents still pushed everything wrong on her.
"Tidy up your face and put on his favorite outfit, then go get him home!"
How ridiculous.
Becoming beautiful should be more about pleasing yourself than meeting the expectations of others.
It's like an episode of the Japanese documentary "72 Hours of Documentary" about customers in a small shop at Osaka Station.
Here, customers rent professional tools to dress themselves up:
Some want to make a beautiful memory at a friend's wedding, and some just leave work to enjoy the long-awaited drama;
Aunts in their fifties happily try new skin care products, using a series of complex procedures to "reborn" themselves.
They all looked firmly and smiled calmly.
You live so hard, of course you can enjoy yourself and make yourself better.
But beauty is not original sin, and beauty is not a good medicine.
Like Liti Chung, I believe her breakdown is not that she is not beautiful enough, and that people who are truly "self-disciplined" will not feel so hard.
Her exhaustion came more from a psychological imbalance.
Whether it is seeking certainty in intimate relationships or seeking recognition in the outside world.
Because of the appearance and age of living in uneasiness, it is the most bitter life.
After giving birth, will you still wear makeup? Do you feel anxious about your looks? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to tell me Oh ~