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Opinions are like the tide flowing against the tide, but the voice of the heart is endless
Text | Grace
When it comes to women, what words do everyone think of?
Virtuous, motherly, gentle, considerate, obedient, well-behaved... Is it not a mention of women above these words will unconsciously appear in everyone's mind, this kind of positive words are eager to be gathered in each woman's body, the more the better. This is the requirement of women in the past era, I hope that they will be well-behaved and obedient from an early age, learn to cook from a young age, learn to clean, in order to find a good family in the future, after becoming a mother, they can immediately be a mother, and in a second, from a weak woman to a mother who is invincible.
However, who will be born to be a good mother, the bitterness of this experience is only known to women who have experienced it, and it is just for the mother outside, because this society needs you to wear this armor, if you do not have this armor, some people will say that you are incompetent, and you will bear these unknown sufferings alone inside.
There is nothing terrible about becoming a woman, the terrible thing is to live into the stereotype of girls who should be, if she is not well-behaved since childhood, is she not a good girl? If someone is married and can't cook or clean, is she not worthy of being loved? Is it that after becoming a mother, you will not breastfeed, you will not hold the child, you will not coax the baby, and you just want to push the baby away is not a good mother? Why can everyone else, but not you?
The above are all kinds of doubts that some women are full of in the process of growing up, if they do not think much or lack of life experience, they will let themselves have to bear all this with their hair, if not, there will not be a large number of postpartum mother depression every year.
In addition, in addition to making yourself psychologically uncomfortable, it is easy to become the sacrificed part of this society, just to meet the interests of the beneficiaries, obviously, the beneficiaries are the men under the patriarchal society, and women need to sacrifice reproductive rights, freedom rights, and time to continue this established model of society without complaint.
Fortunately, more and more women are now beginning to awaken this part of their consciousness. The three Peking University girls who were on fire in the B station before talked about the various stages of life ten years after graduation, which talked about the part of childbearing, and one of the Peking University girls said that there is such a problem in society: "I found that I analyzed the confusion caused by fertility with the women around me, and the other party would tell me that this kind of thing cannot be thought about. She was very shocked, this kind of thing needs to be thought about, and it takes a long time to think about every question, because the child can not regret it when it is born.
From the side reaction, in fact, women themselves feel that the matter of childbirth does not bring much happiness to women themselves, but it is in line with the life path of most people, do not do the deviant, deviate from most people's trajectory, because becoming this kind of "alien" requires great courage, and becoming most normal people, life will become much easier.
For example, marriage, some studies have shown that many people have a hint of regret in the first second of getting a marriage license, but things have reached this point, they can only take the certificate hard, and then happily declare that they are married to all their relatives and friends, which is a kind of person who wants to declare to the outside world that he is successful in intimate relationships, proving that his life is also successful.
Divorce, on the contrary, the parties to the divorce are very low-key, because it will make people think that you are a person who has failed in an intimate relationship, and it is particularly difficult to admit that you have failed in a certain field. So many people's marriages are actually very bad, but they are not willing to separate, because they do not want everyone to know that they have failed.
The composition of society is made up of men and women, and there are many topics around men, such as how to capture a man's heart; how not to let his husband cheat; how to make a man unable to leave himself... And the topic of public talk about women seems to be the age at which it is best to get married, when having children is less harmful to women, and how to live out of themselves with a baby at home full-time.
If you want to deeply understand why women are women, what women are really facing, how women should know themselves more, in addition to excellent books at home and abroad, here are five must-see feminist films in 2022, from all dimensions and levels to carry out deep thinking in the field of women, five particularly great movies, I share with you without reservation.
Part 1: "The Girl with a Bright Future"
Release date: January 25, 2020 at the Sundance Film Festival in the United States
The film tells the story of a beautiful, intelligent but socially closed medical school student, Kesdra, who lives a dual life day and night, and after meeting her college classmate Ryan, her life path seems to be about to change
Part II: "A River of Spring Water"
Release date: January 7, 2022 in China
In the cold spring of the riverside town, the decaying and dilapidated old-fashioned foot therapy shop, but there is a beautiful female technician Rongjie. Sister Rong, who is over thirty years old, has never been married, and raised her idle brother alone. As a massage worker in foot wash city, Rong Jie lives an ordinary and trivial life with her brother. Until one day, the younger brother Xiaodong told Sister Rong that his girlfriend Ah Jing was pregnant. A life as calm as water rippled, and the secret that Sister Rong had hidden for many years gradually surfaced.
Part III: "Daughter in the Shadows"
Release date: December 31, 2021 in the United States
Adapted from Elena Ferrante's novel of the same name, the film tells the story of an event that Leda goes through while on vacation by the sea that overwhelms her with the difficult choices she made as a mother.
Part IV: "The Worst Man in the World"
Release date: July 8, 2021 in France
The film tells the story of a well-educated modern woman who is eager to realize her self-worth, meets the true destiny, but has a disagreement with her lover because of fertility problems, and faces a huge confusion in life at the age of 30.
Part V: "Tokyo Noble Woman"
Release date: February 26, 2021 in Japan
Adapted from The novel of the same name by Mariko Yamauchi, it focuses on two women who are also very different in urban life, Motowaki Mai plays Hanako Harunahara, a big lady who was born in a big city and was cared for, and is fully engaged in blind dates; And Mizuhara Plays Miki Toshioka, who came to Tokyo from a small place to work hard and spelled out a way to live.
The flow of life is endless, and I hope that women can have strong tenacity and can also have a life that passes with their hearts.
Life is only a few decades, a flash away, do not have to care about gains and losses, do not have to chase anyone, if you can only live with your own heart, it is not in vain.
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