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Children have made some bad friends, began to skip school, fight and fight, how to persuade parents is useless, what to do?
Children pay more and more attention to dressing, is it early love?
As soon as the child returns home, he closes the door, can't say two words to his parents, is grumpy, always angry, and parents don't know how to communicate?
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Parents often come to ask me some questions about their children's puberty, and one of the feelings I have is that many parents think that puberty is inevitable, there is nothing they can do, and they can only endure.
The writer Mai Jia once said that when his son was adolescence, he and his mother were as careful as they accompanied a tiger.
Once, when I was shopping for vegetables, an aunt in her seventies told me that her grandson's adolescence was a very headache for her daughter.
Whether it is a high-level intellectual, or a lower riba, everyone seems to have a certain understanding of adolescence, but I will say that most people have a misunderstanding of adolescence!
1, many adolescent phenomena are not inevitable!
Many people believe that adolescent puberty will rebel against authority, early love, smoking and drinking, mixed society these phenomena are common. But a 75-year follow-up study by sociologists and psychologists found that most children, almost 90%, did not appear above.
At the same time, even if the child has some problem behaviors, it can be prevented and corrected.
2. Exaggerated the influence of peers
Although by adolescence, children want to be recognized and affirmed by their peers, the strength of their peers is indeed increasing. Peer pressure is also a force that shapes adolescent values and attitudes toward life, and it can be good or bad.
But parents should not exaggerate the influence of their peers! Research proves that it is not random who teenagers associate with, they usually choose friends whose values, attitudes, tastes, and family backgrounds are similar to their own.
In short, the friends of good kids are almost all good kids. If the child has bad friends, then consider that the child has already had problems before puberty.
3. The role of family disintegration has been exaggerated
Due to the rising divorce rate, many families are now single parents or disintegrated. Because of the increase in work pressure, many mothers have to devote themselves more to the workplace. The developed Internet has also replaced the functions of many original families. Will all this affect the development of the child's puberty and weaken the authority of the parents?
If you think so, you're often just making excuses for yourself.
A 75-year-long social psychology study of adolescent children found that even though teens don't always agree with their parents, most teens still like their parents, respect their parents, and listen to their advice on major issues. Good parent-child relationships do not deteriorate with the onset of puberty, whether the parents are divorced, single parents or remarried.
4. Puberty is longer than parents originally thought
Traditionally, we parents think that a child's puberty occurs between the ages of 13 and 18. But in fact, due to the advance of the child's development, puberty has been advanced to 10 years old. As children become more dependent on their parents financially, puberty extends to their twenties, and 19 to 25 years old is called late puberty and transitional period of adulthood.
Some parents think that they can get through their children's adolescence after only five or six years, which is a wrong idea. First of all, adolescence is longer than before, up to 15 years for some families . For children's adolescence, parents rely on perseverance to survive is often ineffective, parents need more about the knowledge of adolescence and the correct way to cope.
How not to lose control, not to compete, not to be angry to positively guide adolescent children, recommended to parents "Reconciliation with Adolescence" book.
This book is a psychological guide to understanding the thoughts and behaviors of adolescents, which can enable parents to deeply understand the reasons why puberty does not equal trouble, and find answers to the problem of children's puberty.
This book not only helps parents better understand teens, but also helps parents better understand themselves. Even if adolescence meets middle age, parents and children will not deteriorate, and both children and parents can smoothly pass through this special but normal stage.
The book not only covers a series of major topics such as physical health, mental health, academics, and social networking, but also gives a series of reliable suggestions for a series of detailed questions such as dressing up, college applications, safety education, network security, dating, and four family types (busy work, divorced, single-parent family, and remarried family). It can be said that this book covers almost everything about the growth process of teenagers.
This book is not only suitable for adolescent children to read on their own, but also a guidebook for parents and educators, and you will get to know teenagers and yourself better through this book.
Reading this book will make you no longer afraid of the phenomenon of adolescence, not out of control, not competitive, not angry to guide adolescent children, and when children spend puberty more easily and smoothly, you will be grateful to yourself for reading this book.
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Hopefully, we can reshape a positive and powerful parent from continuous learning, and let our children become better and better because of our wisdom!
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