Finally, "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves 3" began to air.
The performance of the sisters on the first stage was more surprising than I thought.
Unexpectedly, the most controversial person was Xie Na.
When the program official announced that Xie Na hosted, some people said that they didn't want to watch it at once.
It was also stated that:
"Is there no other host on Mango Station?"
Since giving birth to her second child and leaving the stage for a while, Xie Na has been constantly ridiculed.
After kuaiben stopped broadcasting, many people also said that she was abandoned by Hunan Satellite TV.
But even in the face of doubt, Xie Na still tried to grasp all resources.
It can be seen from this recording of Sister Lang this time.
She puts most of her energy into her work, and the host is also very calm and atmospheric, with many highlights.
The three daughters are taken care of by Zhang Jie at home.
In fact, Xie Na can not fight like this at all, and some of them are lying flat capital.
But she didn't stop.
Even after giving birth to the second child, the body quickly returned before it fully recovered.
This is the innate sense of crisis as a working mother.
Star mothers are still like this, and ordinary working mothers are even more insecure.
After giving birth
The whole society is punishing me
In a show, Lan Yingying once expressed her admiration for Xie Na in front of He Jiong.
She said that after Xie Na gave birth, the Happy Family could still tolerate her and always leave a place for her.
After listening to the rebuttal, He Jiong said:
"It's not called inclusion, she went to have a baby, and she didn't make any mistakes."
But in real life, having children is indeed the "original sin" of women in the workplace.
In the "2020 China Women's Workplace Status Survey Report" released by Zhaopin, it shows:
58.25% of women suffered from "the application process was asked about marital and reproductive status", and 27% of women encountered "when applying for a job, the employer restricts the gender of the position".
Unmarried, will be asked when to get married;
Married, will be asked when to have children;
Married and childbearing, they will be asked when to have a second child.
Even if they successfully enter the workplace, many women will lose their original positions because of pregnancy.
We have seen a lot of news like this.
Some people who are 2 months pregnant are directly dismissed on the grounds that they are not qualified for the job; some people are found to be pregnant, they are transferred by the company, and their monthly salary is reduced from 10,000 to 4,000, and they are forced to resign.
The American writer Alyssa Quart once said in the book:
"Having a baby can be said to be some sort of 'workplace poison,' proof that you didn't put twelve cents of your energy into the job."
In "Let's Go to Work! In the variety show "Mom", there is a detail that is very realistic.
On the first day of employment, the three mothers were called by their bosses to talk.
During the chat, asked if there was anything nervous and worried about, they all mentioned work.
But what the boss really cares about is that they are afraid that they will "miss the child".
Childbirth, which was supposed to be a happy thing, became cruel in the workplace.
In order to eliminate this prejudice, working mothers have made double efforts.
Papi Sauce once shared a friend's experience.
She was a bank manager who was flying around the world when she was more than seven months pregnant and promised her clients:
"You can rest assured, the moment before I give birth, as long as I am sober, I will reply to every message you send."
Every working mother who incarnates as a desperate third wife is just to not be replaced.
I just feel sad.
It is a woman's right to have children, but in order to keep a job, it is humble.
Women in the workplace who dare not give birth and dare not get pregnant are more helpless than unspeakable.
Working moms
Wept as we struggled
Someone asked:
"Working mothers are so tired, why don't they choose to quit?"
It is forced by economic pressure, but also worried about derailment from society, and has no voice in the family.
Others are meant to set an example for children.
Children are always the biggest motivation and energy source for mothers to return to the workplace.
But it will also be unable to accompany the child when it is needed, and I feel deeply guilty and self-blamed.
In the latest season of "Let's Go to Work! In the program of "Mom", there is a clip that I am very touched.
Wang Yuanyuan, a mother who works in a different place, received news on the phone that her child was lost in kindergarten.
Her emotions were out of control in an instant, and her tears couldn't stop flowing.
She couldn't do anything but talk to her teachers and family on the phone.
When you become a mother, you can understand this mood.
When encountering children, it is always a blow and collapse, and being in the workplace adds to a sense of helplessness.
Ma Li also talked about her own experience on the show.
She once went out filming and received a phone call saying that the child had accidentally hit the corner of the sofa.
I almost hurt my eyes, and the area around my orbit was already red, swollen and black.
Ma Li collapsed in an instant, both worried and guilty.
But in order not to slow down the progress of filming, she quickly packed up her emotions and put into work.
Working mothers, which one is not crying at the same time, and at the same time desperately trying to hold on.
Even infinitely compressing your own time to make up for the guilt of being absent from the company of your children.
I have a friend who works hard from Monday to Friday to spend more time with his children.
Often after putting the child to sleep, she also worked overtime until the early hours of the morning.
Long-term high-intensity work has led to her deteriorating health.
But for the sake of the child, she felt that no matter how hard and tired she was, it was worth it.
I understand that every working mother is willing to pay for her children.
However, once in a while, you have to let yourself go.
Giving children companionship is a good mother, and working hard is not love for children.
Allow yourself to be unable to do everything, allow yourself to be imperfect.
Working moms
There is no one behind it
Why is having children a punishment for women in the workplace?
To borrow a phrase from Yang Lan:
"Chinese men feel that it is a matter of course to ignore family responsibilities, and a woman, if you don't take good care of your family, don't talk about your career."
Working mothers, in the workplace, but carry the double pressure of work and family.
I don't deny that there are also men who are actively involved in family affairs and even choose to become full-time dads.
But after all, it is a minority.
In the general perception of society, raising children is still the responsibility of women.
If the child is in need, it is basically the woman who gives up her career and is forced to return to the family.
If you continue to cut through thorns in the workplace, you must also take care of all the affairs of the family.
Tutoring homework, taking care of in-laws, having parent-teacher conferences, taking children to the hospital, cooking, washing clothes...
On the one hand, there is the responsibility of parenting, and on the other hand, there is the pressure of the workplace.
There are no helpers, no family system as a support, and can only carry alone.
The result is one or the other.
Tilting your energy toward your career will be considered "not a good mother."
Putting more time into children will be tacitly accepted as affecting work.
Working mothers can only carefully maintain balance.
I have a former colleague who, after giving birth to a second child, turned down a lot of well-paid jobs.
Finally, I found a nine-to-five position near my home, with a low salary.
Just so that I can leave work on time every day to spend more time with my children.
Behind the balance between family and career are women's unseen sacrifices and trade-offs.
And most of those working mothers who cut through the thorns are because someone shares it.
Xie Nan is.
After giving birth to two children, she still shines on the stage.
This is inseparable from Wu Jing's support.
Wu Jing once said that to respect the career and choices of the other half, the husband should also take care of the family together.
Someone shares family responsibilities, and working mothers can be more relaxed on the road to pursuing a career.
After all, families are not supported by one person.
Working mothers are not superhuman, and they do not have three heads and six arms.
After the broadcast of LangJie 3, many people lamented that these 40+ sisters are fairy goddesses.
In them, there is no trace of time in sight, still girlish and sweet.
A big part of the reason is that they are not married, have no children, and are rich enough.
It can also be seen that the loss of marriage and children on women's bodies and the impact on careers.
I believe that most women do not regret having children.
But we should also see that women give up a more brilliant life for this reason, and the fertility dilemma they face.
In the book "Working Moms Don't Leave Work", there is such a sentence:
"Women are changing, but most workplaces don't take into account the family needs of their employees. At home, most men have yet to really adjust to women's changes. ”
In the family, working women should be like stay-at-home mothers, keeping the family in order.
In the workplace, they are asked to be like men, regardless of their families, to devote themselves to their work.
In contrast, Xie Na was lucky enough.
There is no financial burden, there are resources at any time, and there is a powerful husband.
Most working moms probably don't have anything.
Burdened with financial pressure and face workplace discrimination, there is no support from a partner.
Even so, every working mother is still trying to balance and choose.
But it is also hoped that these efforts will be seen and respected and supported.
In the workplace, there is less discrimination against working mothers, more opportunities and affirmations.
In the family, men also have to shoulder the responsibility of the other half and give support to their wives.
Not only should there be working mothers, but there should also be working fathers.
Finally, I would also like to say to working mothers:
You don't have to wear armor to be a super mom with a career and family.
You deserve to be treated better.
"Like", may every mother be loved by the world.