In 1587, Hai Rui, a high-ranking official of the Ming Dynasty, died. After his death, only 8 taels of silver were left, which was not enough to even hold a funeral. But before his death, he married three wives and two concubines.
Hai Rui was a famous Qing official of the Ming Dynasty, nicknamed "Hai Qingtian", who was honest and honest all his life, bowed to the best of his ability, and obeyed the law.
Hai Rui married 5 wives in his life and bore him 5 children, which can be said to be prosperous, but when he died, there was not even a person to send him to the end, and there was no one in front of the grave.
His first wife, Xu Shi, was ordered by his parents to come together. Xu Shizhi Dali, gentle and considerate, married into Hai Rui's home, inside and out are well managed, can be said to be on the hall, down to the kitchen, the more Hai Rui looks more and more like.
But Hai Rui's mother, Xie Shi, saw that this daughter-in-law was more and more unpleasant, only because she gave birth to all her daughters, and she also gave birth to two in a row. Later, Xie Shi couldn't bear it anymore, and Xie Shi, who was eager to ask Sun, forced Hai Rui to write a letter of resignation to Xu Shi.
Immediately after, the mother Xie Shi found a wife for Hai Rui, Pan Shi. Since Pan married in, the family has not had a day of peaceful birth, Pan's temper is arbitrary, never used to mother-in-law, often because of a little trivial matter, the two people talk to each other, no one will let anyone.
Since then, this short-lived marriage barely lasted for a month, and the two have been separated.
Mother Xie Shi is still not dead hearted, begging sun heart, and looking for a new wife for Hai Rui. With the lessons of the previous two times, Xie Shi was really cautious in choosing his daughter-in-law this time.
Fortunately, the third wife, Wang Shi, lived up to expectations and gave birth to two sons and a daughter to Hai Rui, and the whole family was very happy, and they circled around the child every day.
After having grandchildren, Xie's temper is much better than before, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like a sister, and she is happy and harmonious.
However, the weather is unpredictable.
Hai Rui, who was just in his right hands, was quite dissatisfied with the Jiajing Emperor's practice of practicing Dan cultivation and abandoning the government. In a fit of rage, he bought himself a coffin and wrote a letter angrily rebuking Jiajing.
This made Jiajing angry, and directly let people beat him to prison. Harry was tortured all day in prison and couldn't sleep well every night.
The house leaked and it rained overnight, and his home was a mess. Two sons died one after another. When the bad news came, Hai Rui seemed to have aged ten years overnight, his face was full of vicissitudes, he was just over 50 years old, and his sideburns directly turned white. His wife was also depressed all day because of the loss of her son.
It was not until Jiajing's death that Hai Rui was allowed to be released. Back at home, before they could enjoy the joy of the world, their mother Xie Began to urge them to have several children, but unfortunately, Wang never got pregnant again.
In a hurry, Xie asked Hai Rui to take a concubine.
At this time, Hai Rui had no money, and had already emptied all his savings in order to marry those three wives. But Hai Rui is a filial piety, and it has always been the order of his parents that cannot be violated, so he cobbled together, borrowed all his relatives and friends, and then married a concubine Han Shi.
But after that, it was not clear what happened, the concubine Han Shi secretly hanged herself at night not long after entering The Hai Rui's house. Within a few days, Lady Wang also died one after another.
Until he was in his seventies, Harry was still thinking about continuing the incense. He ignored the opinions of the people and took in the concubine Qiu Shi. Unexpectedly, Qiu Shi's stomach was very angry, and he directly bore him a son. Unfortunately, this son lived for a few years and died prematurely.
Throughout Hai Rui's life, he has been repeating the process of marrying, divorcing, and taking concubines, and he basically never cared about his wife, but let them keep giving birth to children, and the whole person was a thin and widowed person. He did this not only to his wife, but also to his own daughter.
One day he saw his 5-year-old daughter eating with a pastry in her hand and scolded: Who gave it to you? The daughter said carefully: It was the male servant of the family who gave it to me.
Hai Rui was furious and angrily scolded: Men and women can't stand each other, how many times have I told you, you still dare to secretly accept things from others, I don't have a daughter like you, you just starve to death! The 5-year-old daughter cried on the spot, rushed into the room, did not eat or drink, directly went on a hunger strike, no one was persuaded to move, and died after 7 days.
The 5-year-old child, because of Hai Rui's words, was bent on death, without hesitation, and did not know whether at the moment of her death, he hated his father.
In 1587, Harry died, he was poor all his life, and after his death, he left only 8 taels of silver inheritance, and there was nothing else. His children died prematurely, so no descendants were sent to him.
Hai Rui's funeral was handled with the help of King Yushi of Yudu. It is strange that the Hairui family can't even come up with the coffin money, and the funeral money is still pieced together by the big guys.
This scene can be described as desolate.
Hai Rui has been loyal and patriotic all his life, and everyone praises him, but he can be described as miserable in running a family. Several of his marriages were all handled according to his mother's wishes, never resisted, and always obeyed his mother, which was actually related to his growth process.
Hai Rui's father died when Hai Rui was very young, when the family fell in the middle of the road, but Hai Rui's mother had a very strong personality, managed Hai Rui very strictly, never let him go out to play, and supervised his study all day.
So Harry's childhood was spent reading and listening to his mother. Because he stayed in the study all day, he did not play much with his friends, so he developed a thin personality and was obedient to his mother.
For his wife, in Hai Rui's eyes, as long as he can have a son, as for whether his wife is happy or unhappy, he has never had this concept. And his daughters don't know if their father ever loved him.
It is undeniable that Harry is a filial piety, but it is a pity that he is foolish. For the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he never thinks about how to adjust, he will only blindly favor his mother and stand on the side of his mother, which will not solve the problem, but will add fuel to the fire, so that his wives have psychological trauma, and he has no intimate dependence.
Filial piety is right, but learn to be flexible.
There is nothing wrong with filial piety, but filial piety is not to be tolerated.
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