Tintin and his mother Zou Hongyan
I believe that when every mother is pregnant, the only thing she prays in her heart is "baby peace and health".
What to be "beautiful and handsome", to be a "scientist" to grow up, as long as the child can be born and grow up safely and healthily, it is already very grateful.
However, if the child is in danger of serious hypoxia due to an accident at birth due to lack of oxygen, the doctor tells the child that there is little hope, even if it is rescued, it is "not stupid or paralyzed", then how will the mother choose?
How will the father choose?
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Have you ever seen a cerebral palsy patient grow up safely and then be admitted to Peking University and Harvard?
This ill-fated child is the true story we're going to share today.
On July 4, 1988, a pregnant woman in Hubei Province was told a harsh reality just after giving birth:
For some reason, the child did not make a sound after cutting the umbilical cord for a long time, even if the medical staff slapped it hard!
At that time, the experienced doctor immediately knew that the situation was not good, and the preliminary judgment should be that the normal delivery process was too long, resulting in intrauterine hypoxia, so he quickly arranged to deliver oxygen to the newborn in the oxygen tube and quickly launched rescue!
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And the mother who has just given birth in the hospital bed, before she has time to feel the joy of being a new mother, is she going to lose the opportunity to be a mother?
After the preliminary diagnosis by the obstetrician, it is believed that the fetus is hypoxic in the womb due to the long process of labor, and at this time, it has been intracranial hemorrhage, and it is later diagnosed with severe cerebral palsy!
The doctor said regretfully: "The family is mentally prepared, we have tried our best, there is no point in continuing to rescue, even if it is rescued, it may grow up stupid and paralyzed." ”
Hearing this news, the mother almost collapsed: "Blame me, I didn't give the baby a good body!" Please, please, save your baby! ”
Self-blaming mom
But the doctor objectively advised her: "Or consider it with your lover, giving up treatment is the best choice for you at present, so that neither the child nor you will suffer." ”
The husband next to him, who was frowning, also echoed: "The doctor is right, listen to the doctor." Now unplug the oxygen tube, just for a while, the child will not be too painful. ”
But it was the flesh in her own stomach, pregnant in October, how could a mother make such a "rational" choice?
That is what I have in my heart, I have been pregnant with my flesh and blood for ten months, and I share the fresh life of my heartbeat with myself, why not?
"I want a child, I don't care what he becomes in the future, I raise him for the rest of my life!"
But the husband said coldly, "Well, then you raise him yourself." ”
The strong mother was named Zou Hongyan, and at her insistence, the hospital finally rescued the child.
At the same time, it was also the beginning of her suffering.
The husband's support and the incomprehension of relatives and friends all made Zou Hongyan stress a lot.
Zou Hongyan looked at her son in her arms and secretly made up her mind: "No matter how hard it is, I will also cultivate you as an adult!" ”
Zou Hongyan is a strong woman, the doctor said that her son may be stupid or paralyzed, then she wants to prove to those who do not look at them, her son has no problem!
Young Zou Hongyan and son Tintin
Children born with hypoxia tend to have two manifestations, one is impaired intelligence and the other is impaired mobility.
Zou Hongyan is afraid that in order to exercise the child's intelligence, she will "talk therapy" with the child every day and do not let go of any "stimulation".
She read a lot of books about cerebral palsy and learned how to care and recover.
She was more confident when she learned that early intervention would benefit her child's recovery.
In order to continuously stimulate the child's senses, Zou Hongyan bought a lot of colorful hydrogen balloons and tied them to the child's wrists and ankles, which can not only exercise the child's hand and foot coordination, but also stimulate the child's perception of color, which can be described as painstaking.
Early education
Zou Hongyan has been observing her son's demeanor and eyes, she feels that her son is not stupid, but when she tells the people around her about her judgment, others respond to her with sympathetic eyes.
Others think it may be that she is "hallucinating".
But Zou Hongyan was not discouraged, insisted on "input" to the child every day, and finally one day, there was a miracle!
That day Zou Hongyan interacted with the child as usual:
"Tintin, you look at so many balloons, which one is blue?" Point it out to Mom! ”
Excitingly, although the child can't use his fingers yet, his eyes are looking blue!
Zou Hongyan bought a lot of balloons
This discovery made Zou Hongyan excited, she continued to ask other colors, And Tintin actually responded correctly!
"My son is not stupid, haha, my son is not stupid!" Zou Hongyan laughed and laughed and cried.
After the child was one year old, Zou Hongyan took her son to the hospital for a review, and the test results made her hope rekindle, and the test results showed that her son's intelligence was normal!
Relieved Zou Hongyan wrapped her arms around her son and kissed and hugged, her judgment was not wrong, my son is a baby with no IQ problem!
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However, the doctor poured a basin of cold water on her:
"Although the child's intelligence is not a problem, but the child's size and movement are problematic, with age, the symptoms will become more obvious, such as weak limbs, crawling, sitting, walking slowly."
Listening to the doctor say this, Zou Hongyan's heart suddenly mentioned the throat eye, will the child really be paralyzed?
Zou Hongyan hurriedly asked the doctor what to do.
The doctor suggested: "Rehabilitation training can be done, early intervention and exercise, which is good for children, but it is not guaranteed to be exactly the same as normal children." ”
Worried mother
Zou Hongyan's stubbornness has once again ignited, as long as there is one percent hope, he will not give up!
As you get older, your child's symptoms do become apparent.
It is said that three flips six sits and nine climbs, but these simple skills are difficult for Tintin.
Tintin learned to walk at the age of three.
And Zou Hongyan found that the child's left side was not quite right, and after the doctor's diagnosis, Ding Ding belonged to left hemiplegia, so it would be so.
Zou Hongyan was worried about this and took her child around to seek medical treatment.
Tintin, who could only walk at the age of three
Listen to the elderly say that massage treatment is good for both motor nerves and brain nerves, 3--- 6 years old is the best period for recovery.
Without further ado, Zou Hongyan hurried to take the child to massage and rehabilitation.
But where can the three-year-old doll feel the good intentions of her mother, and this painful massage experience Tintin still has palpitations.
Because it was so painful, he recalled:
"I remember a lot of doctors around me, and they put a slippery powder on my hands and feet and started massaging.
The most terrible thing is to roll the skin, that is, to lie flat, and then the doctor rolled up my skin and pulled it up.
Do a rehabilitated tintin
I was so sore and scared that I cried and asked my mom to take me home.
But my mother twisted her face and didn't look at me. ”
But this kind of torture has to be endured every day, other children are crying every day and not going to kindergarten, while Tintin is crying every day and begging his mother not to take him to recover.
But why didn't Zou Hongyan's heart not suffer or be painful?
There is no way, for the sake of her son's future, Zou Hongyan can only insist.
Tintin reminisced
Not only that, Zou Hongyan's marriage finally came to an end.
What's going on? Isn't Tintin recovering?
At that time, a rehabilitation training was as high as 5 yuan, and in the 90s, this was a week's living expenses for many people, and they had to pay 150 yuan a month.
But Zou Hongyan's salary is only 100 yuan, even if all the wages are taken out, it is not enough.
Zou Hongyan's husband was quite dissatisfied with this, and he proposed to have another healthy child, but Zou Hongyan refused.
Seeing that his wife was so stubborn, Tintin's father proposed a divorce to Hong Yan, and the child was sentenced to Zou Hongyan without suspense.
Divorce agreements and divorce papers
Since then, Zou Hongyan has also become a single mother, and she has taken her son with cerebral palsy alone to face a bleak life together.
Zou Hongyan is a people's teacher with a meager income, and if you want to treat your child, it is not enough to rely on salary.
There was no way, Zou Hongyan had to incarnate as "Mother Superman" and hold several positions.
Working at school during the day, he becomes an insurance salesman at night and on weekends, pushing policies door-to-door.
Other times will also be adult training, her life without a single gap, like a "perpetual motion machine".
Only in the dead of night, this strong mother will also cry silently, and the tears will soak through the pillow.
Zou Hongyan, who teaches
In fact, there are many children in the same situation as Tintin, and Zou Hongyan has met many mothers in the hospital, and they cheer each other up and encourage each other.
Among them, there are also those who give up treatment, but all sentient beings are suffering, and Zou Hongyan does not have much to say.
After a long time, only Zou Hongyan was still insisting, and even when Zou Hongyan had a high fever, it did not stop.
Tintin recalled: "My mother dragged her sick and weak body to the hospital, and I will never forget it. ”
But with the day after day of rehabilitation massage, Tintin did not make much progress, money is secondary, seeing the child suffer so much, Zou Hongyan was distressed.
Roll the skin
But at present, Zou Hongyan has no other way, she believes that persistence is victory.
"Quantitative change promotes qualitative change", Zou Hongyan's efforts have not been in vain, after several years of treatment, Tintin has undergone tremendous changes, and the big action has basically no problem.
Walking, jumping, it's not a problem.
When Tintin was 7 years old, fine movements also made a qualitative leap, and he could dress and eat, which made Zou Hongyan very satisfied.
This means that even if he is no longer there in the future, Tintin can take care of himself.
But what mother doesn't want her child to be better?
Zou Hongyan hopes that like other children, she can enroll in school, learn knowledge, and change her fate through knowledge.
However, the road is far more difficult than imagined.
In this way, the 7-year-old Tintin entered the primary school and began his academic career, which was also the first time that Tintin left Zou Hongyan for a long time, and both mother and son developed a strong separation anxiety disorder:
Zou Hongyan can't help but worry at home about whether her son can adapt to the collective life and whether he will be bullied.
Tintin preparing for admission
Tintin, who was alone in an unfamiliar environment, was terrified, especially the big classmates who were unfriendly and ridiculed him, which made him very resistant to going to school.
After returning home, Tintin told Zou Hongyan that he did not want to go to school.
Zou Hongyan, who was eager to protect her son, did not seek theory from the other parent, nor did she seek special care from the teacher.
She thought that her son was a normal child, so Zou Hongyan said to Tintin with a heavy heart:
"Do you know why the little animals in the zoo don't dare to bully lions?"
Do you know why the little rabbit does not dare to chase the tiger? ”
Ding Ding said childishly: "It is because the tiger lion is very strong, and the rabbit is very weak." ”
Zou Hongyan educated her son
Zou Hongyan smiled happily, "Yes, Tintin, when you are strong, they naturally do not dare to bully you."
Now you should be obscure, for unfriendly classmates, you just need to ignore him and ignore him, he will be bored with himself and will not continue to pestering you.
If you study hard, the grades exceed them, and no one dares to underestimate you. ”
Tintin listened to his mother's words and thought about it, and from now on, Ding Ding put all his energy into studying.
Kung Fu pays off, and with Tintin's hard work, the results have soared!
From a student who can't keep up with the learning progress, he directly sits in the first place in the class.
The first place of the year
Not only that, Tintin's body is also becoming more and more coordinated, all of which are inseparable from Zou Hongyan's special education methods.
It is said that "a loving mother has many failed children, and a good son still needs strict mother teaching", but this cannot be applied to all children.
As an educator, Zou Hongyan knows that teaching according to aptitude should take into account the differences in children's development.
His own son Tintin, himself a cerebral palsy, lacks self-confidence and bravery, if too strict and blindly suppressed, it will only backfire.
So Zou Hongyan adopted a gentle but firm approach to education: patience.
Teaching once does not teach twice, and two times does not teach three times until it is learned.
Encouraging teaching
Tintin even learned the posture of holding the pen countless times.
In fact, Tintin can achieve this level, it is already very rare.
But Zou Hongyan believes that her son's potential has not yet been fully stimulated, and he needs his own guidance.
One day Zou Hongyan took Tintin to a tall building, and when the two of them walked to the tenth floor, their mother asked Tintin what he saw.
Tintin looked into the distance, and there was nothing peculiar about it except the roads and trees.
So the two continued to ascend: "Son, what do you see again?" Tintin followed the prestige, and this time he seemed to see the lake!
Tintin did not understand why his mother let him see these, and even more puzzled, there is an elevator that does not take the stairs.
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When the mother and son reached the 20th floor, Zou Hongyan asked the question just now again.
Tintin looked out the window again, and this time he said excitedly, "I saw an ocean!" ”
"The higher you grow, the farther you look, son, life is the same, do you understand what mother means?"
The son Tintin understood his mother's good intentions and said firmly:
"Mom, rest assured, I know what I'm going to do."
"Okay, then let's go to Peking University." Zou Hongyan said slyly and seriously.
"Mom! You have too many routines, you dare to think! That's Peking University! Tintin cried and laughed.
Tintin complained to his mother, "Kao Peking University, really dare to think"
Sounds like a cerebral palsy, Kao Peking University, is not too whimsical, unless there is a miracle.
So, is Tintin a miracle along the way? Isn't it a miracle to survive death, to recover, to go to school, to be a master of learning?
So, on Peking University, why can't you try it? How do you know how good you are without pushing yourself?
Tintin, who shouts "impossible" in his mouth, is actually eager to try and full of fighting spirit in his heart.
After three years of hard study, Tintin finally ushered in the college entrance examination, Peking University, he is determined to win!
Hard tintin
In early July 2007, Tintin walked into the examination room, which was also his battlefield, and his knowledge was his "big killer".
After several exams, Tintin has divine help, works hard to write books, stabilizes output, and writes papers that are not only test papers but also his future.
After the end of the college entrance examination, it is a long process of waiting for the results of the results.
After 20 days, it was finally time to score points!
Zou Hongyan nervously did not dare to look at the computer screen, covering her eyes with both hands, leaving only a slit.
After Tintin enters the test number and identity information, the big screen shows the high score of 660 in total!
Check the grades
Mother and son hugged their headaches and cried excitedly! It was tears of excitement! Even more tears of happiness!
Soon after, Tintin received the acceptance letter from Peking University as he wished!
This cerebral palsy child, who was once sentenced to "death" by fate, became a young man from Peking University and full of vigor!
But the surprises brought to us by Tintin did not stop, and during college, he turned his goal to the world's famous university: Harvard!
So can this ill-fated teenager achieve this "unattainable" goal?
Tintin has always taken his mother's words "Stand taller to see farther" as his motto.
Peking University graduate with mother
In the four years of college, other students were busy falling in love, busy playing, busy graduating, only Tintin sank his heart and worked hard step by step towards his goal.
In 2016, with Tintin's unremitting efforts, this teenager was admitted to Harvard Law School!
This time he stood at the world's famous school!
After graduation, Tintin returned to China to work in finance in Guangzhou, with a good salary, and he finally lived a good life with his mother.
Graduated from Harvard
In fact, there are many cerebral palsy patients in the mainland, and there are also many who struggle to move forward.
For example, the female poet Yu Xiuhua, who is familiar with cerebral palsy: living in the mud, writing poetry in the clouds.
In the face of a bleak life, he did not give up on himself, embraced life, and loved life.
Although she has limited mobility, her mind is free to run free and live her wonderful life.
The picture shows the cerebral palsy poet Yu Xiuhua
It is said that Tintin's life is like a miracle, but in fact, it was his mother ----- Zou Hongyan who created this miracle.
In the film and television drama "Please Answer 1988", there is such a sentence: "Because God cannot be everywhere, he created a mother." ”
Zou Hongyan devoted her life to planning for her son, not abandoning or giving up, and the weight of maternal love made people moved.
And Tintin also lived up to his mother's high expectations, and the crow fed back.
Happy mother and child
Grateful mother
I just don't know how the father, who once abandoned his wife and children fiercely, feels now, and what is the current situation?
Thanks to all the mothers in the world! Say a word of belated: Happy Mother's Day!
I also hope that more special little angels can perform miracles like Tintin!
I also hope that the mothers of the little angels will not be too anxious, and everything will be fine.
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