I'm 30 years old.
I used to think that 30 years old is a long way away, but now I look back and find that 18 years old is even farther away.
I used to think that when I was 30 years old, I should be stable in work, get married and have children, but now I look at myself: work in general, life and life in general, feelings and feelings in general.
30 years old, it doesn't seem to be very big.
30 years old, it seems that it is really not small.
30 years old, in this small city, as if you are not married you are a monster, everyone will think that you are more or less problematic.
When I got up at home a while ago and washed myself in the mirror, my mother would say to me next to me: You see that you have folds on your face, so get married quickly.
I said, "Mom, who says that about his girlfriend?" Rest assured, there are times when you are reluctant to get married.
In fact, my parents are still very wise and cheerful, and generally do not urge me much. Some parents are very anxious, noisy with their children, and their hearts all day long. But let's think from another angle, if you let someone else's daughter-in-law be your daughter-in-law, would you be willing? Someone else's son-in-law will make you a son-in-law, are you willing?
The leaders of relatives, friends, and colleagues around me will "unconsciously" mention or ask about me:
Do you have a boyfriend?
When will you get married?
When will you invite us to drink celebratory wine?
I also want to invite everyone to drink happy wine, and I also expect my crush to "step on the colorful clouds" to pick me up quickly. So I know that everyone cares about me, but I care a lot, I myself began to "resent" or escape, so some colleagues or friends get married I will not participate in the dinner, but I still like to play with everyone, after all, I am not a timid person in my bones, I believe in the purpose of "how old is it, long live happily", how many good days can a person live, so there is no need to be more real, happy. Therefore, I am not afraid of everyone asking, rest assured, in short, I will definitely inform everyone when I get married, because I am waiting for you to give red envelopes.
It is not normal to feel from your own point of view that others are different from yourself or most people. No, we all have to think differently. Just like we think that people who wear short sleeves in winter are sick, but maybe people have just finished their steps; people who wear down jackets in summer are not normal, but maybe people have just come out of the freezer to work. So, everyone lives their own lives, tries to understand other people's lives, and if they don't understand, just sit by.
Just because I'm not married doesn't mean I'll never get married or don't want to get married. But it seems that in the eyes of parents is not filial piety, in the eyes of some people is picky, in the eyes of some people is a problem. I'm also summing up why it's so easy for others to get married, why am I so hard. Some people say: You are just too picky, too demanding. I asked myself: Is it because of the pick? Is it because it is demanding?
The three views are consistent. I want to find someone who has the same three views. In the past, I always felt that the three views were the same, that is, for example, I like to eat apples (referring to something or opinion), I want to find someone who likes to eat apples as much as I do; now I don't think so, I like to eat apples, you like to eat pears, this is not a conflict, but I will respect you eat pears, you also have to respect me to eat apples. We have to respect each other, you eat your pear, I eat my apple, when necessary need to compromise or balance, we can eat pears today, eat apples tomorrow. But please don't tell me that eating apples is not good for the body Apple is easy to do, eating pears is so good, we all like to discuss, do not like to be ordered.
I am a person who does not play games, and when I meet a person who tells me how many levels the game has passed and how many levels the game has risen, I think this cannot be coexisted; I am a person who likes to be clean and likes to clean up, and when I meet a person with a beard and a sweaty smell, I think it is impossible to coexist. Some people say that you can tolerate each other or take care of each other, if so, then the game can find a game, do not love clean to find a babysitter on the line, marriage is not to find a game with us or for us to clean up the health, more should be mutual cooperation and appreciation, mutual cooperation, everyone can save trouble and worry, is to be comfortable together.
Maybe I'm mature, maybe I see too much joy and sorrow around me. Appropriate, mutual admiration, mutual appreciation, mutual tolerance, mutual understanding should be the perfect explanation of the three views, and being comfortable together is the best mode of getting along.
Older people will say, it's the same with whoever is married, and I think it's a negative attitude towards life. And, who, married, is really not the same. I personally feel: live with interesting people, your life will be interesting; live with sunny people, your life will be full of sunshine; live with romantic people, your life will be romantic; live with dull people, your life will be boring; live with depressed people, your life will be negative. So, the focus is on you, what kind of person you choose to be with.
We have seen white-haired old people walking hand in hand on the road, white-haired old people accompanying each other in the hospital and not willing to leave, and seeing white-haired old people sending gifts to each other to give surprises. Most of life is chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, but also need poetry and song to give wind and snow moon; like life is also like love, like Premier Zhou and his wife Deng Yingchao, just like Mr. Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu, you can talk about chai rice oil and salt from home and country feelings, poetry and songs. In short, in addition to the smell of fireworks, children crying, and parents being short, life should also have a sense of ceremony and happiness.
Enjoy the time. I've always felt that we have to have a time that belongs only to you, and you have to enjoy this time that is only your own. We're all going to get married, it's just a matter of sooner or later; we're all going to be parents, just sooner or later. If we graduate from college at the age of 22 or 23, get married as soon as we graduate, and then have children, it seems that we will revolve around the family and children for a lifetime, and there is no free time of our own. What is free time, I think as long as it is the time to reach out to the family to get money, it is not a free time when there is no economic independence. We have no savings just after graduating from college and working, the basic source is dependent on our parents, we have not achieved financial independence, and we need a period of our own time to witness our own growth and maturity.
If you graduate from college at the age of 22 or 23 and get married around the age of 30, you will have a period of 7 or 8 years of your own independence, freedom, and freedom, and this period of time is only your own, and it is the years when you witness your own success or maturity, be independent, and have the courage to take responsibility. Because sooner or later you will get married, you will get married at 30, you will just be a parent later than others, and you will be around the family and children later, but in the end you will also have to go through these years. Some people say that get married early, and you will be relieved early when your children grow up early, but you will be worried about it, just like we are now, still worried by our parents, our parents raise us to grow up, and we have to help us with our children, so no matter how old you are, you will also worry about your other half and children; therefore, the time spent alone should be precious.
Older men and women, because they have seen the lives of married friends and relatives around them, will know how to cherish life, will learn from others how to educate children and how to get along with the elderly (this is what an old leader who understands me very well said to me).
I'm 30 years old. Of course you asked me if I had loved before. There are also some, otherwise they seem to be boring and ruthless. It's just encountered at an inappropriate time, inappropriate for each other and then separated. At the age of 30, I also wondered what the meaning of the encounter was.
Some people have never been separated when they meet, and some people still have to say goodbye to the end when they meet. Why does the fate of two people without an ending still arrange for them to meet? It is not easy to meet a person you like in life, there are many things that do not have to have results, it is already good to meet, and it is already a blessing to be able to accompany you for a while.
In the future life, we will meet more people, some people just to become friends with us, some people to become lovers with us, and some people to leave a special memory in our minds. We will remember those warm memories and then move on to our new life. When the light passes, many things will be unrecognizable. Maybe the meaning of the encounter is to laugh when you know each other, be calm when you are separated, not regret meeting, and live up to your company.
I'm 30 years old. Mom and Dad, don't worry, I'm just not married for the time being, you have to have confidence in your daughter, I will get married, I will find a boy who is sensible and filial to love me and protect me as your son-in-law, which will make you feel at ease and comfortable.
I'm 30 years old. I have eye wrinkles, I have the pleats that my mother said, and I prefer to call them laugh lines. We want to allow wrinkles on the face, gray hair on the head, time will not let anyone go, how can we be an exception? Accept nature, our faces are not old, how can we match the joys and sorrows we have experienced.
I'm 30 years old. I like to eat meat, no meat is not happy. I love sports, I love fitness, I love travel, I love mountain climbing, I love outdoor activities. I can do it without staying up late, I can insist on getting up early and running, not eating snacks or drinking. I can do it because I gained 2 pounds and insist on not eating dinner for a week, running 5 kilometers a day, and then continuing to eat and continue to exercise. That's the way I live in the moment. If you don't force yourself, how can you exert your happiness to the extreme.
I'm 30 years old. I can cook, I can wash clothes, I can drive, I can earn money, I fix things when they break, and I make up for my clothes when they are broken. I enjoy my life now, and I envision the life of two people. I only hope that it is good to be alone now, and it will be better to be two people in the future, and work hard together to live together.
I'm 30 years old. My life has just begun, I still have a lot of things to do, I still have a lot of places to go, I am still the "18-year-old" who is full of enthusiasm and passion for the world, full of curiosity and yearning.
(The article published on the public account last year, today here to publish it again)