After the child makes a mistake, the parent's way of aftercare will affect the child's life, and if you want the child to correct the mistake, as a parent, you must first bear the mistakes made by the child.
I don't know if you have seen an American drama, called "Growing Pains", I especially like a clip in it, there is a boy named Benn, in order to buy a birthday present for his father, he used lies to cheat the neighbor's money, this matter was known by Ben's father, he did not blame his children at first,
Instead, he expressed his gratitude to his children, affirmed the emergence of the children, and then pointed out that it was wrong to cheat money and needed to apologize to the neighbors, Benn did not want to do this, because he was embarrassed, but dad offered to go with him, and then Benn got everyone's forgiveness.
I admire Benn's father, just at first I thought ben's father would accuse Benn, I didn't expect Benn's father to affirm the child's intentions first, which is simply incredible, Benn did not suffer from this matter, but let himself and his father have a better relationship, and he also realized his mistakes.
Psychology has a very famous word "broken window effect", a simple understanding is that when the child has bad habits, the parents do not correct it in time, and the frequency of the child's mistakes will become higher and higher, so after the child makes a mistake, the parents need to bear it.
Because the child's good teacher is his own parents, only the parents correctly guide their children to help the children correct mistakes, children make mistakes, in addition to the children themselves to bear, as parents also have to bear, this is a law. #0-6 years old parenting is #凭什么孩犯错 by ##parenting, and parents have to bear it #
