From the graduation of three books to the annual income of tens of millions, this girl who resigned from CCTV, why did the counterattack succeed

Growth thinking is the best life gift that parents give to their children, and it is also the biggest confidence in children's growth. Author | Qianhe

Recently, the variety show "Praise for Songs" has caught fire.

However, what makes it out of the circle is not the star celebrity in the show, but an ordinary Internet celebrity girl - Fang Qi.

As a member of the pop-up group, Fang Qi's comments to each singer are reasonable and the words are pearlescent.

When Yu Kewei was questioned for not recognizing, Fang Qi smiled and said:

"I think Yu Kewei is white, because white reflects most of the visible light in the world, so we reflect our joys and sorrows, sorrows and joys on you and your songs." 」

When Yang Zongwei, who was accustomed to singing love songs, chose to sing and dance, Fang Qi sincerely said:

"We spend our whole lives not to satisfy everyone, but to find the part of the people who resonate with ourselves." The world is very noisy, just be yourself. ”

Seeing that Zhang Hanyun was frequently questioned on the stage, she said:

"If I had to describe you in one word, I prefer the breeze to the queen: he is stronger than he is, and the breeze blows the hills.

The fifteen or sixteen-year-old breeze blew over the mountains and hills to this day, and you are still the best age, which is the best reward from heaven for brave girls. ”

A remark reached Zhang Hanyun's heart, which not only made her cry on the stage, but also touched countless netizens under the stage.

For a time, Fang Qi was known as the "ceiling of the people", and some people even said that "Fang Qi grew up eating Xinhua Dictionary".

What makes Fang Qi always say such gentle and powerful, profound and touching words?

From an ordinary girl born in a fourth-tier small city and graduated from three schools, to a CCTV host and an internet celebrity travel blogger with an annual income of tens of millions, the answer lies in Fang Qi's experience.

Fang Qi, the miracle created by growth mindset

In 1993, Fang Qi was born in Qiqihar, a small northeastern city, living in an old residential area, and his father made a living by selling bait with fish hooks.

With ordinary grades and ordinary family background, she does not seem to have any superiority, but she has a firm dream in her heart, that is, to become a host.

When she was a child, Fang Qi was not beautiful, and due to the incomplete closure of her lips due to the protrusion of her teeth, her classmates ridiculed her as a "toothy sister".

When she was a student, Fang Qi also did not have a superior IQ.

The first college entrance examination failed, she chose to repeat the study, the second year of the art exam results are good, but because the culture class is not good, can only go to three colleges.

But none of this prevented her from trying to pursue her dreams.

"Hello everyone, I'm Fang Qi, don't give up." Every time I open Fang Qi's video, I hear this familiar opening sentence.

In order to realize his dream of hosting, Fang Qi guangly submitted an email, called the unfamiliar column group to recommend himself, ran to the door of the TV station and squatted for 5 hours, just to get a chance to sell himself.

It was hard to get an internship opportunity in Beijing, every day to work as a handyman, run a dragon set, serve tea and pour water, send express delivery, she never thought of giving up.

In order to look good on the photo, she extracted her teeth, lost weight, wore braces, and in order to change her Northeastern accent, she insisted on listening to the news for 2 hours a day, correcting her pronunciation over and over again.

She signed up for Strange Story, but was eliminated in the first episode; she participated in a talent show and spent 3 months in the training camp, but there were less than 4 seconds of footage.

Despite this, Fang Qi became more and more courageous.

In 2015, participating in the "Youth Star Anchor", she came to the scene 3 hours in advance each time to practice, observed the lighting of others, and a rookie with no experience at all actually won the sixth in the country.

In 2016, she participated in "I Am an Orator", in order to compete for a quota, she registered 7 times, recorded videos, wrote a cover letter, and changed a speech no less than 50 times.

In the end, the speech of "We Graduated" reached the top of the hot search, and the number of plays exceeded 100 million.

At this time, Fang Qi also became the location host of CCTV's "Beautiful China Trip" with her own efforts, and realized her dream of hosting.

But less than two years later, she decided to resign from CCTV and turn to self-media, shooting short travel videos.

Because in the years of being a location host on CCTV, Fang Qi fell in love with travel.

She felt that the unknown journey was more challenging, and the form of self-media had more room to play, so she resolutely decided to clear herself to zero and change tracks to start again.

In just over a year, she has become a travel big V with tens of millions of fans.

Not only are her videos picturesque, but her copy is even more immersive.

High-quality content has brought her rich financial returns, and also let everyone see the infinite possibilities of her life.

After watching Fang Qi's experience along the way, I saw in her the confidence of "always believing that I can do it", the persistence of "desperately trying not to give up" and the courage of "bravely breaking through to be myself".

And these are the perfect embodiment of growth mindset.

Why children with a growth mindset

Can it be a big tool?

American psychologist Carol Dweck once divided people's way of thinking into growth thinking and fixed thinking in the book "Lifelong Growth".

The essential difference between these two modes of thinking is whether or not one believes that one's abilities can be improved through effort.

People with a growth mindset keep learning because they believe, while people with a fixed mindset just want to look smart because they don't believe.

Each person's way of thinking is different, which determines how he views effort and reacts differently to setbacks, challenges, criticisms, and other people's successes.

Only people with a growth mindset can continue to climb and go to the peak of life, just like Fang Qi.

1. Growth mindset people see effort this way

Fang Qi once said in her speech at the 2020 New List Conference: "I am a very "arrogant" person, always believing that there is nothing in this world that cannot be obtained through my own efforts. ”

So, at the age of 16, she patted her chest and said to her family, "I want to go all over the world!" At the age of 18, she studied choreography and directing in three schools but thought that she would be a host in the future.

It is this strength to always believe in herself from the bottom of her heart, so that she chooses to challenge again and again, and fights with fate.

The college entrance examination failed, countless people advised her to admit her fate, she still did not hesitate to choose "North Drift" to chase her dream.

Although she has never studied professional hosting, she dares to sign up for "Youth Star Anchor" with zero foundation, has no speech experience at all, but dares to participate in the variety show "I am an orator", because she always believes that hard work can change everything.

2. Growth mindset people treat setbacks and challenges this way

Growth-thinking people will persevere in the face of difficulties and setbacks, and never give up lightly, just like Fang Qi when she first started making short videos.

Without a team, Fang Qi wrote her own copywriting as a director, and her boyfriend Xiao Chen was both a photographer and an editor;

With no financial resources, they took out all their savings.

In just one year, she has flown more than 90,000 kilometers and traveled to 12 countries, 34 provinces, and 125 cities.

She has to write 20 copywritings every month, only 4 days a year, in order to wait for sunrise to get up at three o'clock, in order to shoot no one's night scene until twelve o'clock at night, endure the cold and heat during the day to shoot over and over again, and stay up late at night to study copywriting.

In the end, more than 10TB of materials in the hard disk allowed her to get more than 10 million loyal fans and more than 100 merchants to cooperate...

3. Growth-minded people face negative evaluations in this way

After Fang Qi exploded because of "I Am an Orator", there were many ridicules and doubts about her on the Internet.

Some people say that she has three academic qualifications, so why compete with graduates of famous schools on the same stage.

If you don't get into a good university, are you doomed to be inferior?

Fang Qi thought about this question, but she knew the answer: no.

In the face of his failure to pass the college entrance examination, Fang Qi said:

"One failure doesn't prove your worth, and it's the same twice or three times, and even a diploma and a campus that you desperately want to get are not qualified to define your success or failure, let alone cover up your efforts."

As a person with a growth mindset, Fang Qi never cares about the evaluation of others, and never despises herself, but constantly breaks through the limitations and becomes the best version of herself.

Cultivate your child's growth mindset

Parents should start from an early age

We often say that character determines destiny, and the way of thinking determines our lives.

If anyone wants to pursue their dreams and challenge the impossible, "growth thinking" is indispensable, because without this underlying thinking, we cannot have the motivation to continue to learn and grow.

To cultivate children's growth mindset from an early age, we can start from the following scenarios:

1. When the child says "I won't."

The key to growth thinking is to convince children that all skills can be mastered through practice and that all success can be achieved through hard work.

But when a child says, "I won't," we can't simply tell a child to work hard.

We should tell the child the specific method and give the child constructive advice, so that the child can truly believe in the value of effort.

2. When the child is left behind

At a high school in Chicago, students who fail a course assessment are rated not yet failed, rather than failed.

In growth mindset, there is no permanent failure, only temporary failure.

When the child is behind, do not define and label him with stupidity, stupidity, and failure, but let him understand that he may still improve and have the opportunity to change.

3. When a child makes a mistake

Don't show pessimism, disappointment, and regret for your child's mistakes, and tell your child: "It's not scary to make mistakes, it means you're working hard, and every mistake makes you grow." ”

Of course, it is more important to help the child summarize the lessons learned, let him know his problems and shortcomings, and then work hard correctly.

4. When the child succeeds

Don't just praise your child and give it a reward.

It is more important to carefully observe the efforts of the child and help the child accurately attribute his success.

5. When the child says, "I'll try harder next time."

Guide children to more specific expressions, for example, I will use 30 minutes more every day to practice spelling.

In fact, rather than providing children with rich material conditions, high-quality educational resources, and cultivating children's growth-oriented thinking is more worthy of parents to do.

May every parent give their child the most precious gift - growth mindset.

I also hope that every child can use this way of thinking to achieve the counterattack of life.