Married as a husband and wife, there is no doubt about love.
The description of the relationship between husband and wife in ancient poems is desirable and is also the state in which marriage should be.
But in reality, the story of holding the hand of the son and the story of the son and the old age can often only become a beautiful expectation, and many couples who can share hardships and hardships cannot be rich and noble in the end.
In the entertainment circle of red wine and green wine, song and swallow dance, such a situation is especially frequent.
Many stars can still make love with the wife of the chaff when they are discouraged, and when they become famous, they will turn around and leave, and one by one, they will decide. However, no matter how far-fetched, there are different reasons.
So, these bright and beautiful stars who are hugged before and after, are they originally suffering words, or are they veritable negative people?
Today, we will talk about the story of these 4 men. They all had a prominent identity, but at that time, without exception, they were not fierce people who were beyond the reach of my generation.
1. Zhang Yimou
Zhang Yimou, a famous director known as the "Guoshi", has always been talked about the romantic story with Gong Li and the happiness of marrying someone else later.
But the original Xiao Hua is rarely mentioned, but without Xiao Hua, there will be the movie "Red Sorghum", and there will be no later Zhang Yimou.
Zhang Yimou and Xiao Hua met when they were teenagers, because the family composition was not good, when Zhang Yimou was bullied by white eyes and people around him, only Xiao Hua treated him best, in order to win the heart, Zhang Yimou once wrote a 40-page love letter to confess to her.
It may be moved by Zhang Yimou's sincerity, or it may be attracted by the talent of the other party. In this way, under the strong opposition of his parents, Xiao Hua began to interact with Zhang Yimou.
In order to be able to live with the people he loved, Xiao Hua resolutely gave up the opportunity to develop in Beijing that year, but followed Zhang Yimou to the mountains and the countryside, but although the rural life was bitter, the two spent a happy and romantic time.
In 1978, on the eve of Zhang Yimou's trip to Beijing, the two finally achieved positive results and registered their marriage.
In order to realize his dream, Zhang Yimou at that time studied hard, did not hear things outside the window, and the big and small things of the whole family fell on Xiao Hua's shoulders.
The two gave birth to a daughter after marriage, and although they lived extremely poorly, Xiao Hua had no complaints or regrets. It was with the support of this Xiannai assistant that Zhang Yimou was successfully admitted to the photography department of the Beijing Film Academy.
In 1984, Chen Kaige became famous with the movie "Yellow Land", and Zhang Yimou at that time was only the cinematography of the film, but Zhang Yimou was not willing to be a behind-the-scenes hero.
The husband who knows her husband best is of course his wife Xiao Hua, and later Xiao Hua accidentally saw Mo Yan's "Red Sorghum" published in "People's Literature" and immediately recommended it to Zhang Yimou, who thought that this novel was very suitable for making a movie.
What Xiao Hua could never have imagined was that her kindness had actually changed the fate of the two people.
In 1987, the movie "Red Sorghum" was released, Zhang Yimou became famous, and at the same time, the beautiful Gong Li also entered the life of the husband and wife.
It is said that at that time, Gong Li came to the house and brazenly showed off with Xiao Hua, even though Xiao Hua was the original match of the righteous, but her husband's heart was long gone.
A year later, "Red Sorghum" won an international award, and Zhang Yimou's popularity was even more unique, but Xiao Hua could no longer be happy at this time, and after returning, Zhang Yimou filed for divorce.
Many years later, Zhang Yimou and Gong Li did not come together, but turned around and married Chen Ting, who was 31 years younger than himself.
Although Zhang Yimou has a perfect life, it is extremely unfair to the wife who suffered with him in the first place.
Xiao Hua once wrote such a passage in his memoirs, which still makes people tearful when read to this day: There will always be a holy land in my heart, and although this holy land has been defiled, I still miss the innocence and honesty of the past.
2. Jet Li
In the martial arts world, in the film circle, Jet Li is an undisputed superstar, with hundreds of millions of family properties, as well as a beautiful wife like Li Zhi, who has fallen into the country, Jet Li's success is obvious to all.
But some people say that no matter how successful it is, there is a clause of abandoning his wife and daughter, Jet Li's life is not complete.
And the more brilliant Jet Li is, the more it sets off the sadness of his ex-wife Huang Qiuyan.
In 1971, at the age of 8, Jet Li entered the Shichahai Sports School in Beijing to learn martial arts and met his sister Huang Qiuyan, who was two years older than himself.
Because his father died early and the family conditions were not good, when he was in the martial arts school, Jet Li got Huang Qiuyan's meticulous care and care, and when he came and went, the two gradually became affectionate and finally came together. At that time, in the eyes of the people around them, the two were golden children and jade girls created by heaven and earth.
In 1982, the movie "Shaolin Temple" turned out to be famous, and in the context of an era when the movie ticket was only a dime, it sold a staggering box office of 160 million, and Jet Li became famous.
But the good times did not last long, jet Li encountered the waterloo of life.
In 1984, after "Shaolin Kid", Jet Li and Huang Qiuyan co-starred in "North and South Shaolin" again, however, during the filming of the film, Jet Li's left leg was unfortunately severely fractured, and doctors even predicted that Jet Li might face a lifelong disability.
At that time, Jet Li seemed to have fallen into the abyss of darkness, and could not see any hope, he began to give up on himself, and almost every day was spent in pain.
But even so, Huang Qiuyan still did not abandon it. As an actor, Huang Qiuyan refused many crew invitations at that time, and also gave up development opportunities, just to be able to concentrate on taking care of Jet Li in the low valley.
Maybe they were touched, or maybe they really liked it, finally, the two registered for marriage in 1987, and in order not to let her husband break the bank, Huang Qiuyan did not even want a decent wedding ceremony, and entrusted her lifelong happiness to each other.
However, at this time, Jet Li has long lost its former glory, his career has taken a sharp turn, in order to find a way out, he had to take his wife to the United States to develop. However, Jet Li's life in the United States did not go well, and he was repeatedly rejected by Hollywood.
Seeing no way out, the opportunity has quietly come. At this time, Jet Li received an invitation from the crew of Hong Kong's "Dragon in the End of the World".
For the sake of her husband's career, although Huang Qiuyan was already pregnant with her second child at that time, she still did not hesitate to support Jet Li's return to Hong Kong, how could Huang Qiuyan think at that time that this parting, her husband who was in love with each other would not come back.
Later, Huang Qiuyan sat alone in a confinement in a foreign country, but Jet Li launched a fierce pursuit of Li Zhi in the crew.
In order to win the hearts of the beauties, he not only proposed to divorce Huang Qiuyan, but also took out 200 million pieces of remuneration to help Li Zhi pay off debts, and 10 years later, Jet Li finally exchanged his sincerity for Li Zhi's personal consent.
Of course, it would not be unfortunate if Lao Yanfei were to be well, but after Jet Li left, what about Huang Qiuyan?
Because she did not have a job and could not pay the mortgage, the house she bought with Jet Li at that time was also taken away, and she did not want her children to suffer with her, so she had to send her two daughters back to Beijing to be cared for by her grandmother.
Homeless, she lived in the basement for 10 years, until she later became a beautician with the help of a friend, and her livelihood was settled.
3. Zhao Benshan
Zhao Benshan once said that I am Chen Shimei, and abandoning my ex-wife is a stain on my life.
Don't look at the infinite scenery of Zhao Benshan today, he was also a bitter child at the beginning, he has been living with his uncle since his parents died since childhood. In 1974, Zhao Benshan joined the commune's literary and art team, and although he had a job, he was still very poor.
Seeing that the young man was in his early 20s, reaching the age of marrying a wife and having children, but having no father and no mother to handle the marriage, his aunt introduced his distant relatives to him.
At that time, Zhao Benshan had nothing, and some people were willing to marry, that is, God opened his eyes. Therefore, in 1979, Zhao Benshan married his first wife Ge Shuzhen back home, and the two's home was a broken brick house, but Ge Shuzhen did not abandon it.
After Ge Shuzhen gave birth to her eldest daughter Zhao Yufang, in 1982, she gave birth to her son Zhao Tie Egg, however, The Iron Egg was not healthy, not only deaf and dumb, but also suffered from hypochondriasis, and the life of the Zhao Benshan family was even worse.
In the 1980s, the duo ushered in the spring and finally stepped onto the formal stage from the streets and alleys.
In order to treat his son, Zhao Benshan went everywhere to perform, and the organizers could sing as long as they wanted, as long as they gave money. However, the money earned from the performance is still a drop in the bucket compared to the high medical expenses.
This dilemma did not improve until 1987, when Zhao Benshan got acquainted with Pan Changjiang, and the two performed "Blind Man Turning Off the Lights" caused a sensation in the local area, and with a little fame, he no longer worried about money, of course, this is not the most important, what is important is that as the name becomes louder and louder, the opportunity also quietly comes.
In 1990, Zhao Benshan was invited to the Spring Festival Gala stage, his performance of the sketch "Blind Date" was not only widely acclaimed, but also won the first prize of the Spring Festival Gala small category program that year, overnight became the most popular laughing star of the audience, since then, Zhao Benshan also opened his own path of sketch king, which is all afterword.
After becoming famous, Zhao Benshan's performances became more and more, and for this reason, he could not return to his hometown for a long time, the husband and wife were separated from each other, and the feelings became more and more weak. Coupled with the exceptionally beautiful scenery outside, at this time, Ge Shuzhen, who looks ordinary, has long been difficult to enter the eyes of the star husband.
Zhao Benshan worked hard outside, Ge Shuzhen was alone at home to take care of the children, and the illness of the iron egg made this simple rural woman her heart broken, perhaps at that time, she was thinking day and night, that is, her husband could go home as soon as possible.
But in 1991, Ge Shuzhen finally waited for Zhao Benshan, and at the same time, she also waited for the other party's sentence to end here.
Zhao Benshan proposed divorce twice, the first time, Ge Shuzhen cried bitterly, and everyone also advised Zhao Benshan not to abandon the family, and when the second divorce was filed, people around him began to persuade Ge Shuzhen to let go.
After all, the later Zhao Benshan is no longer the original Zhao Benshan, in everyone's view, although the two are husband and wife, they are no longer in the same world.
At the time of the divorce, Zhao Benshan gave Ge Shuzhen 250,000 yuan, plus a house and a car, which was all he had at the time, and in 1992, Zhao Benshan married his current wife Ma Lijuan.
Although he did not treat Ge Shuzhen financially, at that time, under the overwhelming media coverage, Zhao Benshan still attracted a scolding, he could leave Ge Shuzhen, but he should not leave the sick son.
4. Feng Xiaogang
In 2003, Feng Xiaogang's autobiography "I Dedicate Youth to You" came out, and he spent two whole chapters to record the love story with Xu Fan.
But when everyone praised Feng Xu's marriage, they just forgot that behind this happiness was the misfortune of another woman.
In 1984, Feng Xiaogang was not a director, he had just retired from the army, he became the artist of the drama film "Tree of Life and Death", although there was some artistic foundation, But Feng Xiaogang, who was not famous, was still a public face that could not be recognized at all.
Feng Xiaogang's family conditions were not good, and the appearance conditions were obvious to all, and at that time, in the eyes of the people around him, it was not an easy task to find an object. But there was a girl who fell in love with him at first sight, and this girl was Zhang Di.
Soon, the two talked about marriage. However, when Zhang Di took her boyfriend home to see her parents, she was strongly opposed by the second elder. There are two reasons for the opposition of the second elder: one is that compared with Zhang Di, who works as a nurse in the hospital, Feng Xiaogang does not have a stable job, and the other is that he is worried that the future of art will not live with peace of mind and mistakenly miss his daughter.
How Nai Zhang Di seemed to be enchanted, thinking that Feng Xiaogang was the true son of heaven, not that he did not marry, plus Feng Xiaogang's mouth that seemed to be smeared with honey, in the end, the parents had to agree.
Like many people who only had achievements later, Feng Xiaogang was poor at that time, had no bride price or jewelry, and married Zhang Di back to the 40-square-meter cottage. But Zhang Di has no complaints and no regrets, after all, compared to being able to marry Ruyi Langjun, all this is not worth mentioning.
After marriage, Zhang Di incarnated as a good wife and mother, not only to take care of Feng Xiaogang's life and living, but also to serve her mother-in-law who had been ill for many years and had limited mobility, and Zhang Di at that time was both a good wife and a good daughter-in-law in the eyes of everyone.
In 1990, the daughter of the two, Feng Siyu, was born, and although the family lived poorly, they were also extremely happy.
It turns out that Zhang Di can indeed see pearls with discernment. In 1992, Because of the successive encounters with nobles, Feng Xiaogang, who had been dormant for many years, finally won the Golden Rooster Award nomination for Best Screenwriter with "The Big Satan", and since then, he has ushered in his own spring in film creation.
However, how could Zhang Di know that blessings and misfortunes were in trouble!
It is precisely because of this movie that Feng Xiaogang got acquainted with the beautiful lady Xu Fan, and later, in the case of having a wife, Feng Xiaogang still launched a series of love offensives against Xu Fan, and in front of Feng Xiaogang's sugar-coated shells, Xu Fan had no resistance, and soon, the two were in pairs.
When the news came, Zhang Di was like five thunderbolts, she begged her husband to stay, but Feng Xiaogang was indifferent, but in order to save the marriage that was extremely important to her, for many years afterwards, Zhang Di could only ask for perfection, although she and Feng Xiaogang still had the name of husband and wife, but there was no fact of husband and wife.
Years later, perhaps feeling that such insistence was meaningless, Zhang Di made up her mind to choose to back down, and in 1999, shortly after the divorce between the two, Feng Xiaogang turned around and married Xu Fan.
Today, Feng Xu's happiness is enviable, but Zhang Di is still alone.
What kind of marriage is happy to have? Perhaps only the parties know that looking back now, the person who left at the beginning may not be wrong, but the pain caused to the other party can no longer be repaired.
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