The best way for a woman to live, it turns out to be so

I saw a very heartfelt video on the Internet, which is the inner monologue of a wife.

I changed from an ignorant girl to a "complaining woman", from a "complaining woman" to a "shrew", and then from a "shrew" to a "dumb" now...

Since then, there has been no more laughter, no more quarrels, no more strength.

01 I finally lived to the point where I hated it...

Everyone wants to meet a better version of themselves, and they all want to have their own best way of life and realize the value of their lives.

After going around for decades, I finally understood the best way for women to live.

Bear the hardships of life

In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", there is such a sentence:

"No one is going to be the safe haven you think of in this life and this life. Only you are your last refuge. Even if it is broken and simple, it is better than sending people under the fence. ”

Deeply agreed.

Friend Ali talked about her experience in a chat.

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After the divorce, she took her 8-year-old son to work in the south and left the home that she thought she could stay with for the rest of her life.

In order to find a job, she shuttled through the streets every day.

Look for small advertisements posted on walls and telephone poles like thieves, quietly write down the recruitment phones, and then hide in the corner where no one is to call the person in charge.

With the help of well-meaning people, she found a job as a salesman, but only if she tried it out for a month.

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During that time, she got up early every day to sell products in the dark.

Once, when she went to a neighborhood to sell products, no one answered the doorbell, so she knocked on the door a few times.

As a result, an old lady came out of the room and yelled at her: "Knock on what knock, my grandson just fell asleep and was woken up again." At such an old age, don't stay at home well, what is it tossed around? ”

After saying that, she closed the door at once, and she couldn't forget to stare at Ari fiercely.

Tears of grievance swirled in her eyes, but Ari could only swallow them back.

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It was already past 10 o'clock when I got home. The son curled up on the bed and fell asleep, his clothes and shoes not taken off.

She walked gently to the bed and picked up her sleeping son.

At this time, the tears dripped down without controversy, just dripping on the son's sleeping face, and he lowered his head, and the son was looking at her sheepishly, and he stretched out his childish little hand and gently wiped the tears from the corners of his mother's eyes.

A month passed quickly.

That day at work, the boss stopped her, and with a nervous mood, she went into the boss's office.

The boss motioned for her to sit down, then took a red envelope from the drawer and handed it to Ari, laughing and saying, "This is what you deserve, you are great!" Starting today, you are a regular employee of our company. ”

Walking out of the company's door, she breathed a long sigh of relief and finally survived.

02 Look down on gains and losses

There is such a question on zhihu: What is the most immature thing you have ever done so far?

One of the high praises replied, "The obsession is too deep." Knowing that he had lost and could never come back, he refused to give up, and as a result, he missed himself. ”

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Women always have to go through some ups and downs in this life, choose the wrong path, love the wrong person...

At this time, instead of begging, it is better to turn around and leave, and let go in a dashing manner.

Some people say that Zhang Ailing's novel "Little Reunion" is her autobiography.

In the novel, the heroine Jiu Li became famous at a young age, but fell in love with Shao Zhiyong, who had a family and was charming, and the story section resembled her and Hu Lancheng.

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Jiu Li, a young writer, met Shao Zhiyong, a veteran of the love scene, when the love dou first opened.

JiuLi soon fell into the whirlpool of love, and when she was carried away by love, she didn't even care that the other party had a family.

She naively thought that the man in front of her was her true destiny, but she did not know that she was only an insignificant part of the other party's dew love affair.

In the course of their correspondence, Shao Zhiyong did not hide the fact that he had another woman.

Unable to bear it, Jiu Li tried to save Shao Zhiyong's heart and wanted to confront him face to face, but when she arrived, she found that Shao Zhiyong had a new woman by her side.

Under the ashes of all thoughts, Jiu Li figured it out and decided:

"I'm leaving, don't look for me again, I'm not for you women, but because I'll never be happy with you."

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Some people say that Jiuli is unfortunate, falling in love with a scumbag, and losing half her life.

But I think Jiuli is also lucky, after seeing the truth, she quickly left, released her feelings, and also fulfilled herself.

Instead of clinging to it, let it go.

Sometimes there are gains and losses, but between a thought.

Just like the line in the movie "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon":

"When you clasp your hands, there is nothing inside; when you open your hands, the world is in your hands."

03 Don't set limits on life

Ma Boyong once commented on the book "The Woman with the Long Neck":

These stories are honest, just like the low-level people in Mo Yan's "Red Sorghum", full of rough, chaotic primitive power.

Not many people have read the book, but it is surprising when it is known that the author of the book is still illiterate at the age of 60.

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She is Jiang Shumei, who learned to read at the age of 60, wrote at the age of 71, published 4 books at the age of 75, and called herself an "illiterate writer".

Since June 2016, Jiang Shumei has been learning to read under the guidance of her daughter.

She does not write in a smooth manner, but "draws" words raw. Once, when my niece saw her way of writing, she couldn't help but say, "Grandmother, you are not writing like that, from top to bottom, from left to right, from inside to outside, and write like this." ”

In this way, Jiang Shumei knocked on the door of the "Kingdom of Words" with a strong will.

From literacy to writing, Jiang Shumeihua spent a full 16 years, and people around him advised him not to toss it.

But she said: "Don't be afraid of starting late, you are afraid of short life, don't be lazy!" ”

Finally, at the age of 71, she wrote her first book.

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Smart women never let age and identity bind themselves, and when they want to have a better life, they go to school, to learn, to make themselves better.

The white wheat seedling in the TV series "Mountains and Seas" is a woman with a good life in the eyes of others.

Not only did he have a successful career, but he also married Ma Debao, who was also successful with his own green plum bamboo horse and the same career.

In fact, Bai Mai Miao was born in a remote and poor place, and her life path was probably fixed from birth.

However, she has embarked on an unusual path in life.

When girls of the same age are still waiting to see if they want to go out of the mountain, Mai Miao is already on the way to Fujian to work;

When the factory leader questioned the ability of the haiji female workers, she had already taken the female workers from the same village to work overtime to practice the basic skills, and handed in a satisfactory answer, and finally worked to the middle level with her own efforts;

When the villagers thought that Mai Miao would definitely stay in the big city to develop, she returned to her hometown for love and took over the factory's new project in Haiji, doing a good job.

Along the way, Mai Miao can always be "surprised" at key moments.

Each of her choices is based on the belief that she can have a better future.

Napoleon Hill once said:

"Your only limit is the one you have in mind."

Therefore, many times, what binds our hands and feet is not our ability and knowledge, but the "ceiling" we set for ourselves.

04

I like a quote:

"Life doesn't treat you well just because you're a woman, so you have to be quietly excellent, quietly strong, and try to live your favorite life." 」

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The best way for a woman to live is:

With all the courage, hold up the brightest smile.

With a normal mindset, run your own life.

With persistent pursuit, start the best life.

May the rest of your life bloom the most beautiful posture on the road to growth!