When it comes to Sweden, I think everyone will have several standard impressions in their minds, such as high cold, welfare, equal rights and so on...
But when you actually set foot on this land, you will find that most of our stereotypes are inaccurate! Sweden's national character is contradictory and divisive, in other words, you have to add "context" to describe Swedes. Swedes in winter and summer are not the same as Swedes before drinking and Swedes after drinking are not the same. And many people say that Sweden is not suitable for Chinese people due to living environment and habits. So what is the truth?
In fact, most Swedes are kind at heart, and since childhood, their sense of self, independence and good upbringing has enabled them to exhibit quality behavior most of the time, at least in public places. No one has ever acted barbaric or mischievous. Decades of old neighbors get along very well. Get along harmoniously, drink coffee together every day, but may never know what each family hides, personal privacy, long-term solutions, no matter what kind of personal choice will be universally respected, such as homosexuality, such as lifelong non-marriage, lifelong non-marriage, except that no one will make irresponsible remarks about behavior involving personality, of course, if it is an immoral behavior, it will still be despised by most people.
Most Swedish men are also shy. They only talk to girls unless they are drunk. Otherwise, no matter how beautiful and charming you are, there are no men's eyes or whistles on the streets of Sweden, nor hippie smiles. People on the street are in a hurry, but when they meet a stranger in the summer sun, they greet the stranger kindly or smile. Most of the time, Swedes have a sense of distance on their faces.
I once discussed their indifference with a Swedish friend. The Self-Explanation of the Swedes is that Americans are like peaches, sweet and soft on the outside and hard in the core, while swedes are like nuts, with a hard shell and soft inside. It may take a few years or half a lifetime to make friends with Swedes, but once they become friends, the friendship is lifelong.
In Sweden, there is no corruption, no green light, everything is in accordance with principles and rules. There is also less humanity, but less falsehood. And whether you're divorced or not, have kids, whatever kind of relationship history you have, that's your own privacy. Everyone has no right to interfere. If the person who chose you chose you, then the person who chose you will not mind your past. You are not responsible for anyone in the past. You choose your own life and behavior, and you are responsible for your own life and behavior. A Swedish friend of mine was a pilot, young and handsome, and fell in love with a woman 10 years older than him who was divorced and had two children. He and she had always been in love. He and she raised her and his ex-husband. The two children loved her until they were old. Their marriage was not interfered with or opposed by anyone. Because in the eyes of the Swedes, this is their own choice, and others have no right to interfere, including parents, sisters, relatives and children on both sides, as well as public opinion.