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One writer wrote: "True friends will only appear under the tip of the pen, not in reality." ”
In this hypocritical world, it is "easy to find guests, but friends are hard to find." We can easily find countless passers-by, but we can't easily find a friend.
True friends, that's the existence that we "can't find with a lantern."
We all want to meet real friends, but the chances of meeting real friends are even smaller than the odds of winning the lottery ticket. This dooms many people to choose to "stay away from the crowd" and live a lonely and lonely appearance.
Are these solitary people really normal?
From the perspective of young people, it is absolutely abnormal to be a person who is always alone and does not know how to deal with others. On the contrary, from the perspective of the old jianghu, what is the point of being a person who comes alone? Living happily is everyone's pursuit.
I remember the saying: "Everyone becomes lonely, and that is the maturity of time." ”
People who don't fit in are not necessarily inferior to people who don't fit in. Maybe a group of people has the loneliness of a group of people, and one person has a carnival of one person.
These three kinds of people, who don't care about connections, gradually move away from the crowd and live better than most people.
02
The first type of person: people who see through the vicissitudes of the world.
The biggest gap between young people who like to be social and mature middle-aged and elderly people, what is it?
I think it should be experience. The experience of life makes young people gradually become old. And old age is the result of years of beating and grinding.
I once met such a person, a social expert in the workplace, basically dealing with people everywhere for the sake of "networking". However, at the age of 40, he encountered an incident that made him completely abandon his previous social concepts.
That time, he fainted in front of the computer because of a sudden illness, fortunately, his colleagues found out in time, called 120 and sent him to the hospital, otherwise his life would be over.
During his hospitalization, he found that he did not have enough money on hand, so he wanted to borrow money from friends around him. Who knows, friends are all playing missing, and one by one they pretend not to know him.
After seeing the true face of his friends, he also felt cold. Fortunately, his wife went back to his mother's house to borrow money, allowing him to successfully get through this pass. Since then, he has chosen not to interact with passers-by and has lived a solitary appearance.
Perhaps, it is an experience that makes people impressive - what friends and connections, are illusory, only money is real.
03
The second type of people: people who don't like to get into trouble.
There is a saying in the "Augmented Sage Text": "Don't say anything when you hear things, don't know what you ask, don't take care of idle things, and return early when you have nothing to do." ”
When people are in the rivers and lakes, we should not tell them what secrets we hear; if others ask us anything, we must pretend not to know; we should leave it alone when there is nothing to do; when there is nothing to do, we can go home early.
In fact, among these 16 words, the most evocative is the four words of "early return without incident".
Whether we're okay or not, we're going to get home early. If you hang out for too long, it is particularly easy to cause unnecessary trouble and provoke a bunch of villains and rotten people. Only by staying away from the land of right and wrong in time can we have a stable life.
When it comes to "stability", some people will feel that it is not interesting, and life is not magnificent enough. However, there is a reason we must understand that stability is the pursuit of ordinary people throughout their lives.
When there is nothing to do, just read books, listen to music, or run, how easy life is, how to come; when you feel free, go to tea with one or two old friends, climb mountains, and live comfortably to the extreme.
Having such a life, however, if you have to get into trouble in the rivers and lakes, that is the biggest unwise.
04
The third type of person: people who laugh at the clouds and the breeze.
Wang Zengqi said that the cabbage in the nest, the widow wants to walk, the heart is not ashamed, and the life star of the world.
People live a lifetime, there are light meals to eat, the desire in the heart is relatively small, and they are worthy of conscience, even if a person lives quietly, it is the big birthday star in the world.
Is it good to be like this "coarse tea and light rice, alone and guarding the heart" day?
I think that what modern people lack most is this kind of "solitude and mindfulness" life. In the group, no one lives happily, but there are more scenes, which is not interesting. True happiness should be the solitude of man.
People who are alone are like standing high in the sky, looking down on the rushing sentient beings in this world, completely in a state of "indifference", not happy with things, not sad with themselves, doing whatever they want, living only for themselves.
When you are happy, idle to watch the flowers bloom and fall in front of the court. When you are sad, looking at the clouds in the sky, what is there to pursue?
Being able to live into the appearance of "light clouds and light wind" is already a mature person, and will not be interested in the so-called passer-by group at all.
05
Write to the end
Speaking of this, I believe many people will say, do not care about connections, away from the crowd, do not you close yourself up?
In fact, this is not to close yourself off, but to let yourself choose the life you really want to have. Not necessarily a group of people is good, not necessarily one person is bad.
Imagine, what is the point of a group of people going around there? Not only is it meaningless, but it will also create many contradictions that make your and my life a mess.
Therefore, live a simple and relaxed little life, don't care about whether you fit in or not, in order to live happier and happier.
Wen/Shushan has deer