Caption Photo / Zhu Xuan
"The civilization of agricultural society made a beautiful Chinese character with a house and a woman: 'An'. After building a house and marrying a woman, men can live and work in peace. This early spring, repeated epidemics have separated many people from their "home" or "home". When I read this elegant and wise text in "Idle Home", I was at this end of the mobile phone screen, and home was at that end. It is not difficult to imagine what kind of resonance the wisdom that exudes temperature in such a scene and context will resonate in the heart! So I bought "Idle Home" and read it under a tree of apricot blossoms in the Taoran Pavilion of the imperial capital.
Yes, reading "Idle home", just like in the shadow of the apricot blossom, listening to the thoughts about the family road flowing - "the long ditch flows silently".
This is a "Cai Gen Tan" about family affairs, a volume of warm paintings of the family, a book of family style cultivation, a letter of family morality meditation, and a family way of passing on the practice. The need to run the family, the joy of raising a family, the way of the family, the virtue of the whole family, the law of the family, such as pearls and jade, scattered in the seemingly ordinary travel, an encounter, a family banquet, a dish, a memory, a feeling, the cause of events, with the rise, with the rise, simple, simple, plain, spontaneous, from the depths of the author's soul into the words and lines, flowing to the reader's eyes, flowing into the heart of the sympathizer.
▅ The fireworks in the world are the most soothing to the hearts of mortals
Home is the carrier of life. The Original Chinese Classics mostly emphasize "suitable for their rooms", and their original intention is not here. "Husband and wife, then for the family". Life spreads from here. The question is, how can we make life better?
"To maintain the ability to feel happiness", the author borrowed the mouth of others to tell, "cherish the ordinary, ordinary life, learn to experience happiness in ordinary life." "I believe that after experiencing the years of great epidemics and changes, and witnessing the destruction of life by epidemics and wars, people can better understand the true meaning of this."
Yes, the road is not far away. Happiness lies in three meals a day, coarse tea and light rice.
For example, hollow cabbage, a very ordinary home-cooked dish, the author is cooking it, but also in the cooking of thoughts: "Hollow cabbage does not need to use chicken and fish to enhance its own deliciousness, it comes with its own protagonist aura that looks at everything and is horizontal and not flowing." Nothing matches it, everything is its condiment. All it takes is speed and passion, just stir-frying or blanching. Whether it is the whole pot or only the tip of the leaf head stem, what remains unchanged is the pursuit of the fire. ”
Oh, the philosophy of life could have been—no, it should have been—with the smell of fireworks. "The fireworks in the world are the most soothing to the hearts of mortals."
For example, the wet market, many people choose to stay away from the place, and in the author's eyes, "it really has a magical magic, let people inexplicably have a love for life" "the wet market is not only to buy and sell, it is closely linked to the supply of life and people's business interests", so "walking into the vegetable market, contaminated with fireworks, can get the healing of the soul". Therefore, "I would like to spend the rest of my life in the study, or in the kitchen, and the rest of the time, I spend the rest of my life visiting the market."
Oh, without a deep love for life, without a loving soul, how can you write such a word?!
For example, cooking. How many modern people see it as a family burden. The author deliberately quotes a passage: "A woman who does not like to cook, like dried grapes, may be sweeter, but has lost her pearly essence." Don't think that such ideas do not go out of the medieval patriarchal tradition, on the contrary, the author does not reject the quick and convenient brought by technology, fashion and internationalization, and the "welfare of the times" that free people from tedious and repetitive housework, but only responds to concerns in a friendly manner, "Home still has to have a family flavor." There are fewer cooks, fewer hands-on handling, less sharing of meals between young and old, and the tradition of 'no worries, in the middle of the feeding' has gradually become alienated, the atmosphere of happiness and harmony has faded, and the experience and taste of life have become shallow."
Why do so many people sigh: the current Reunion New Year dinner can not eat the taste of reunion? The root cause may be here.
"No matter how the times change, living at home is still good for simple diet, coarse tea and light rice, or cooking by yourself." Such a simple, simple, healthy day, such a family together, you wash a handful of dishes, he warms a pot of tea, you support the day, I take the handle, such a reunion, self-contained joy and plain day, such a green vegetable radish coarse tea light rice day, is a relaxed, practical and long day, is a really good day. ”
Oh, this is reminiscent of Su Shi's earthly truth that "the taste of the world is Qinghuan".
Even though such days are becoming more and more rare, for many people to become extravagant, people still have to choose to believe: things are precious because of difficulties, which is a yearning for beauty in retrospect, rather than an elegy sung to traditional family life.
"Life is the feeling of life", in the words of the Soviet writer Yu Bondarev, "the essence of life is in life itself". In this sense, "Idle Home" is exactly a kind of life aesthetic that blooms in the thick tea and light rice to bloom a light and elegant flower - the pursuit and praise of beauty, the understanding and cultivation of beauty, and the sermon and inheritance of beauty.
▄ Family is a science
Home is the birthplace of human morality. Family road auspicious is the dream of the whole world. "The core experience of the ancients in governing the family is the family tao." How to achieve "family righteousness"?
From the "Zhou Yi" that "contains a profound way of governing the family and has influenced the Chinese nation for thousands of years", the author combs the modernity answer of "why the family is home". "Idle Home" devotes one-third of the space to the life perception of "Zhou Yi's Family" with only 43 words: the prose poetry is charming and minimalist, "the family's speech and behavior in daily life may have a wonderful and wonderful impact on the family's auspiciousness." In this, we can see the principle of self-cultivation and family.
For example, family responsibilities. "Families have their own responsibilities, and what kind of behavior the family has will bring what kind of consequences to the family." "Idle has a home", "no matter what happens, in the middle of the feeding", "women and children giggle", "rich family", "fu wei ru", etc., refers to the behavior of family members, while "regretless", "zhenji", "daji", "ji", "final auspicious", is talking about the result.
For example, family building. "Husband and wife are the home, men and women divide and cooperate, each keeping their own differences, and using each other and intersecting into instruments, this is the appearance of life in its own place and with its own nature, which is in line with the great righteousness of heaven and earth." "Straightening the family, first straightening the body; straightening the body, first straightening the mind; straightening the mind, we must guard against idleness." A neat couple, two people in the body, is for the Qi family. "For small families, it is especially necessary to be risk-proof, have etiquette, often remind, and have the original intention."
For example, children's education. "The family is the first lesson in a child's life, and parents are the child's first life mentor." The author, two doctors in one discipline, reminds in the "godson baby" section that doting is not "raising righteousness". Educate children to love their families, obey family management, treat their families sincerely, and tolerate their families, "straighten their hearts" and "buckle the first button of life".
The family is a science, and compared with many qualities, people may need to improve their family literacy. "Idle Home" tells a kind of family aesthetic that corrects the way of the family from the perspective of daily life. On the surface, it presents the author's spontaneous sense of life and philosophical proverbs in the form of essays; in fact, it is more than that, just as when you gaze at the ripples of the lake, you are already wandering in the mighty spring breeze; when you taste this "capriccience of love and life", you are already immersed in the ethical thinking behind the idyllic words.
▄ Not limited to the ego
Home is a philosophical existence. "Idle Home" is a philosophical light that feels the way of governance and cultivates the way of government in the way of the family.
"Articles are written for the times, songs and poems are written for the sake of things." "Idle Home" is not limited to the ego, and the underlying logic of the text links the feelings of home and country. One of the intriguing passages in the book is that the elderly minister talks about the way of Xiuqi through his speech on Mizu's birthday. The old man praised his wife for having a "very precious" "six noes": not to interfere in politics, not to reach out, not to show off, not to bow down, not to abandon, not to forget Ben. "This has brought him peace, happiness, smoothness and development throughout his life." Even more enlightening is his theory of "self-promotion." He said that important posts are always scarce, organizational promotion is also limited, and the most important point for comrades is to strengthen 'self-promotion', that is, to demand themselves with standards higher than the current position, higher standards in study, higher standards in work, higher standards in character, higher standards in party spirit, self-improvement realm, self-improvement of quality, and self-strengthening of self-cultivation. As for whether to promote organizationally or not, we must look at it lightly. Even if the organization doesn't promote you, don't complain. ”
Aesthetician Zhu Guangqian said: "Literature starts from practicality, we must tell others what we perceive, but it is more than practical, we must find good words, say good words, so that others can be happy in the content and form of words at the same time." "It is not only pleasure, the stories, palms, and words that "Idle Home" comes to hand, bringing more enlightenment and thinking about life, which can be described as both literary quality and beauty, unified literary taoism, high rhyme, high meaning.
Idle Home: Caprice of Love and Life
Ji Yun
Life, Reading, and New Knowledge Triptych Bookstore
February 2022