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If one day, I leave, will anyone worry that they will never see me again, and call me over and over again, calling my name?
If one day, I leave, will anyone regret that in the days of my company, did not cherish well, did not get along with the heart?
If one day, I leave, will anyone remember that I used to care silently, remember those times together?
Ask yourself, if I leave, who cares?
Looking back, the human feelings experienced along the way are cold and warm, and I have to admit that there are not so many sincere feelings, usually not to the end, and I don't know who will accompany whom for a lifetime.
In interpersonal communication, do not overestimate your position in the hearts of others, and do not underestimate the complexity of people's hearts.
As Wang Xiaobo said:
"When people are young, they feel that there are people everywhere. Someone else's business is your business. After middle age, I feel that there is nothing in the world except my family. ”
Once upon a time, I used to take my feelings very seriously, and when I got along with people, I always showed great sincerity and energy.
Wishful thinking: I regard the other party as a friend of life and death, try my best to help with anything, and the other party will definitely return the same good.
But it turned out that what I thought was deep and righteous was often worthless in the eyes of others; what I thought was to compare my heart to my heart, and others would turn around and forget everything.
It turns out that the human heart is the most complicated thing in the world, and without going through a thing, it is not at all aware of how many pounds and two pounds they have in the hearts of others.
Therefore, when getting along with people, do not overestimate feelings, it is easy to backfire; do not easily give trust, easy to be disappointed and hurt.
For feelings, you can love someone desperately, but don't become too humble and lose yourself.
When you are young, you can give everything you have for a person, even down to the dust, silly polishing all your edges and corners to embrace him, leaving all your dignity to show weakness and please.
But in the end, in exchange, all that was exchanged was to drift away and be scaled all over the body.
There is a saying that goes well:
"You can lower yourself to the dust, but no one will cherish you in that dust."
Probably the easier it is to get, the less it is taken seriously.
Later, I understood that no matter how much you love someone, don't let yourself become humble as dust.
Because this act of self-depreciation not only pampers and indulges others, but also becomes a sharp blade to hurt oneself.
In the adult world, whether it is friendship or love, if you cherish, I will cherish it; if you do not care, I will leave.
Life, ushered in, do not need to grievance yourself to please anyone.
After all, you have your pride, I have my self-esteem, you have your indifference, and I have my freedom.
Before, I was afraid of losing, afraid of parting, but think about it, who cares about themselves?
The human heart is always difficult to see through, and feelings can never be exchanged equally.
In the future, no one will please, no one will rely on, just live for themselves and be their original appearance.
In this world, there are not many heartfelt interactions, you must know how to protect yourself, don't overestimate any relationship, you must know how to be self-fulfilling, and don't wronged yourself for people who are not worthy.
May each of us be able to love ourselves and love ourselves appropriately, and live a calm and regret-free life.
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