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Recently, some media broke the news that Jiang Fan and Zhang Dayi have been married, and Jiang Fan has given up all legal positions in Alibaba for this purpose, which means that Dong Huahua lost to Zhang Dayi. Is this a lover who eventually becomes a family member?
Immediately afterward, Zhang Dayi issued a statement on the trumpet, denying her marriage to Jiang Fan.
Zhang Dayi's post is very firm, she said angrily, some people spend so much money in a year to smear a person, repeatedly say whether I am married, have children, do not know what deep hatred and hatred with you, but also scold those who spread rumors and slander will be struck by thunder.
But judging from Zhang Dayi's reaction, she did not deny her relationship with Jiang Fan, nor did she know whether she was playing tricks.
01 The president derailed the arrogant little three
Jiang Fan, Zhang Dayi, Dong Huahua's love-hate entanglement has passed 2 years, perhaps many friends have forgotten what is going on, then I will take you to review it.
In April 2020, "Huahua Donghuahua" called out to Zhang Dayi on Weibo, asking her to stop pestering her husband and unveiling the extramarital affair between Jiang Fan and Zhang Dayi.
Subsequently, netizens pulled out Zhang Dayi's arrogant remarks. Not only did the circle of friends shout at Jiang Fan's original match, hinting at divorce.
Also secretly rubbing the hair of the two people's photo, showing affection, which undoubtedly angered the vast number of melon-eating masses.
At that time, Jiang Fan was the president of Tmall, ali's youngest partner, Ma Yun's hand-picked "Ali prince", Zhang Dayi was the first Internet celebrity on Taobao, there was a listed company such as Han, whose annual income exceeded Fan's, such as Rizhongtian.
After the extramarital affair was exposed, Jiang Fan and Zhang Dayi became the targets of everyone, and Ali quickly reacted to punish Jiang Fan.
One is to expel the 'Alibaba partner'; the second is to record a major demerit punishment; the third is to demote, from the group president to the vice president of the group, the rank M7 to M6; the fourth is to cancel all incentives in the 2019 fiscal year (including dividends, there are nearly 500 million).
Zhang Dayi, on the other hand, was involved in someone else's marriage, and as word of mouth plummeted, his value shrank from 900 million US dollars to 38 million US dollars (about 250 million yuan). In the third quarter of 2020 financial report, Ruhan attributed the sharp decrease in product sales to the negative publicity impact suffered by Zhang Dayi since April 2020.
After the heat passed, Dong Huahua disappeared in front of people, and her marital status became a mystery. And Zhang Dayi shows his love from time to time, and now he has also broken the news that he has married Jiang Fan, why is the gap between the original match and the life of Xiao San so big?
02 Did Dong Huahua really lose?
Someone once said that regardless of whether Zhang Dayi Jiang Fan was married or not, it was inevitable that the original Dong Huahua would be out.
Dong Huahua shouted Xiao San on the Internet, many people think that she is irrational, obviously ugly, making everyone known, and finally not affecting her husband's career.
Indeed, this sensational derailment incident in the country, Dong Huahua lost her husband, Jiang Fan lost her career, Zhang Dayi lost her reputation and money, and it seems that there is no winner.
However, did the so-called Out dong Huahua really lose?
I don't think so!
After Dong Huahua shouted Zhang Dayi, many netizens went to pick up Dong Huahua's information, graduated from the second college, and did not do much after graduation.
On Weibo, photos of travel, food and other photos were posted. And from the traces of her previous messages and chats with friends on Weibo, it can be seen that Dong Huahua once participated in the rich blind date and attended the Cheung Kong Graduate School of Business.
The simple summary is that this woman is not simple at all.
Originally from an ordinary family, after graduation, he relied on his own efforts to marry a good man and achieved a rise in class by virtue of marriage.
If the information is true, is such a woman with a mind and means really as stupid as netizens say?
I have to say that the world is really harsh on women, and what is even more disgusting is the contempt and harshness that comes from within women. What's wrong with Dong Huahua defending her marriage?
When you get married, someone will ask you, rich and poor, health and disease, will you be together? How do you answer? This is a responsibility and a commitment. If you can't do it, you should be pulled out and scolded.
As for Dong Huahua stupid? That was the biggest misunderstanding for her, she wasn't stupid at all.
Did Dong Huahua know about Jiang Fan and Zhang Dayi? I don't think so, I may have known it very early, why didn't she have a seizure in the first place and chose this time to jump out?
What if it is that as Xiao San's belly is getting bigger and bigger, what if Xiao San keeps forcing the palace? Dong Huahua can no longer be quiet for a long time. There is always a crisis of the third child, and the inheritance rights enjoyed by the illegitimate child can be the same as the original 2 children.
If, in this marriage crisis, Dong Huahua blindly endured, and finally was swept out of the door, it would be really stupid.
Just looking at Dong Huahua's speech, the harsh wording pointed at Zhang Dayi, portraying her as a bad woman who provoked other people's husbands, ruining her personality and reputation, and pushing her into the whirlpool of public opinion.
Without mentioning Jiang Fan at all, the role he played in this matter can also be regarded as retaining the last trace of face. Even if she finally divorced, she still relied on public opinion to save her face.
03 Is the woman divorced to give way to the little three is to lose?
Don't think that Zhang Dayi is on the throne, Dong Huahua will lose, isn't it divorced from Jiang Fan? Even if divorced, Dong Huahua can get custody of her two children, and Jiang Fan's value will also be divided into a lot of common property and high maintenance after marriage.
I have money, my appearance is also OK, and I have two babies, I can take two children to live a good life, and if I meet a good one in the future, I can also start my new life again.
Don't use "who gets the love of a man" to define a woman's win or loss, the original deserve to lose a husband who does not love himself, that is not the same as throwing garbage, the mind is not on you, why waste your time with such a scumbag? Since Xiao San wants to recycle, he will give it to her.
When marriage hits the rocks, whether you choose revenge or choose to give in, the premise is that you don't let yourself live in irrelevant discussions, and don't casually cling to others. The decisions you make are made by your own heart, doing what you want to do at the right time, without waiting for someone else's permission.
Marriage is a matter that takes it too seriously, and often falls more miserably. Those who are begging may eventually have to give up. If you enter the marriage and you really see that this person is not suitable or has suffered betrayal and has no results, then get out of it earlier.
Divorce doesn't mean failure, it means rebirth. Divorce and a heartless love are shortcuts that can make people grow up quickly, as long as you are amazing, why should you care about others using you as a talking point after dinner?
04 How to deal with the pain after divorce
First, accept your own pain at this time.
A female client who was also divorced once said: My heart used to have half of his place, and now that he is gone, my heart suddenly feels empty.
This is probably how most people really feel after divorce.
Accept your own pain and allow yourself to be sad. Cry when you want, fully release your pain and sorrow, and the anger of abandonment.
Second, turn your attention to the future.
Allow yourself to suffer, but don't cry for a long time over broken milk, life is still your own, plan your own future, what do you want to do? What do you want to be? Just like Zhang Youyi, do what you can do and add bricks and tiles to your future.
Think about your past life, besides divorce, how did you spend the hardest time?
Fourth, everyone is an expert in their own life, in the past history, you yourself are your own hero, you must have valuable experience in dealing with difficulties, take it out, use it in the present, and help you get through it again.
If it still doesn't work, then find a psychological counselor, in the company of a psychological counselor, and strive to grow up, become stronger, and become a new self.
You have to leave others to become a more wonderful self!